Imigaqo yemilinganiselo enhle ayisebenzisi xa umntu ehamba emva komfazi phantsi kwezitepsi aze akhuphuke izitebhisi, ngaphandle kwesimemo, ehlala phantsi, elula, ngaphandle kokunika umsi wokuqala ukutshaya umfazi okanye ukutshaya ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. Endaweni yoluntu, kwisihlwele, indoda ayifuni ukutshaya ngoxa imile isondele kakhulu kwintombazana, mhlawumbi iya kumenza asebenze kakubi. Kwakhona, ngaphandle kwemvume yababenokutshaya umbhobho okanye ugwayi ekamelweni elincinci alungileyo kumntu. Indoda enokuziphatha okulungileyo ayiyi kuthetha nomfazi ngaphandle kokususa i-headgear, ingubo (unokuyibeka, ucele imvume).
Imithetho emininzi yemilinganiselo yamadoda ayifanelekanga ngoku, kodwa uyayibona isenzo somntu okwenene namhlanje kwindoda yendoda, umntu onjalo uyazilahlela ngokuzithandela kwaye abangela uxolo olukhulu. Izenzo ezinjalo ziquka ukunceda intombazana ithwale izinto ezinzima, ezifana nebhegi okanye i-suitcase. Kodwa ukuba kuthwale isikhwama esincinci, isambatho seboya asiyinto enhle, kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba loo nto ibhinqa. Awunakho ngexesha lethathetha uthathe umfazi ngesandla ngaphezu kwelokwe, thintela, ngaphandle kokuba uncedo ungene okanye uphume uthutho okanye uwele isitalato. Kucingelwa ukuba akulungile ukuthetha ngokucacileyo malunga nentombazana okanye intombi enomnye umntu. Kubalulekile ukunyamekela ukuba kwindawo kawonkewonke ibhinqa inikwe kuqala. Awukwazi ukuthetha ngezinto ezingathandekiyo ekudleni, ngakumbi ukugxeka, isimo sengqondo okanye ubuzwe okanye ilizwe, ilizwe. Indoda elungileyo ikwahlukileyo xa ithe ithatha inqatha yakhe, ingena kwindawo esemthethweni yoluntu, umntu onjalo akaqhelekanga ukuhleka iimpazamo zabanye kwaye akabonakalisi inhlonipho ngesini sesini.
Imithetho eqhelekileyo yokunambitheka kwamadoda ayifaki ukuphonsa i-cigarette butts, ingazicima, ukupheka kwimpumlo, ukuphalaza emhlabathini, ukutshiza emphakathini, ukuhleka ngokukhawuleza. Akunakuze uxabane, uhloniphe, unciphise ilizwi lakho, ungathethi kancinci, kodwa ngokucacileyo, ngaphandle kokugwinya ukuphela kwamagama, kwaye ngokubalulekayo ungasebenzisi izigulana zentetho kwintetho. Isithintelo sisona sigxina esiphezulu somntu.
Ukujika kumntu ongaphandle, kuya kulungile ukusebenzisa amagama ahloniphekileyo. Kwi "You" dilesi ongaphandle. Jonga kakuhle, nceda abantu kwiimeko ezinzima. Ukujonga abantu ukuba bangaboni ngokuthe ngqo - akufanelekanga. Ungaboni ubuso bakho ngaphezu kwemizuzwana engamahlanu xa uyibona. Musa ukuthetha ngomntu ongeyonto engekhoyo. Gcina ilizwi lakho, zama ukungafiki, ungabonakalisi iimvakalelo ezingalunganga.
Xa udibana nemimiselo yokuziphatha okulungileyo, xa umntu echazwa kwintombi, ukuba uyaziwa kakuhle kuluntu, okanye xa umntu enendodakazi, okanye xa umntu ekhulile. Xa bezisa abantu abalinganayo, umntu, ukuba uhleli, kufuneka avuke esihlalweni sakhe, kwaye umfazi angambulisa ngesigxina esivumayo ngaphandle kokuma.
Ngokwemigaqo yefomu elungileyo, kuthathwa njengelungileyo xa uxhawula izandla xa umdala esandla sakhe eselula. Akukho imfuneko ukuthetha nabantu abangabaziyo ukuba bachukumise kwimicimbi yobuqu okanye eyayibucayi, engafanelekanga okanye engamnandi kumntu ukuba akhulume naye, ezo zihloko zingabandakanya imibuzo malunga nemeko yezinto eziphathekayo, umvuzo, impilo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kunye nokubandakanya inkolo.
Imithetho yeendlela ezilungileyo kubo bonke abantu kwivenkile yokutya: ilungelo liyabonwa xa umntu engagqanga, engaqiniseki ukuba bonke abafazi kunye nabantu abadala behleli ezihlalweni zabo. Uhlawula yonke into ayimema rhoqo. Kude: ungahlala phantsi emva kwesimemo.
Ithembo elihle kumadoda ngexesha lokutyelela. Ngaphezulu kweenkulungwane, le mithetho ayitshintshi. Kungenxa yezihlwele ezinjalo njengoko ukhaliphile kwaye uyazi i-etiquette, ngokuqhelekileyo iqabane lakho liyakugweba, nokuba ngaba izinto ezincinci zingabalulekanga kuwe. Into ebaluleke kakhulu inhlonipho. Ngentlonelo efanelekileyo, kufuneka uphathe le ntlanganiso. Emva kwakho konke, inhlonipho ihlala ibonakala, uyayihlonela kwaye ikuhlonele. Ukuqaphela akufanele kupheliswe ngumntu owaziwayo. Kubalulekile ukuba ezi ntlanganiso zilandelayo ziqaliswe ngumntu. Ukuba intombazana iphoqeleka ukuba inqabile ngaphezu kwamaxesha ama-2, ayikho inceba ukusuka kwicala layo, kodwa indoda ifanele iphose enye.
Njalo, kuyo yonke imbali kwacatshangwa ukuba isenzo somnene singamthinti umntu kwikhredithi yomfazi. Kodwa ngoku amantombazana amaninzi ayicinga ukuba uyabahlawula kwivenkile yokudlela, kuba bazibona bezimeleyo ngabani na.
Isitala sembatho sinendima ebalulekileyo kwindlela yokuqala yokucinga ngayo. Kubalulekile ukukhetha ingubo ngokwexesha, indawo kunye nexesha. Akuzange kubekho umfana osemelwe akhohlwe malunga nezihlwele ezifana nokuvula umngane, ukuba asondele kwindlela kunye nabanye. Khumbula amandla omlingo okuncoma, kuba intombazana ibalulekile ngexesha lokuhlangana kwakho, kubalulekile ukuba ukunconywa kukunyanisekileyo. Ukuba uncomeka entliziyweni, waqaphela ngokukhawuleza. Ukuncoma kuya kukuxelela ukuba unomdla kangakanani kwintombazana, iya kubonisa ukunyamekela nokunyamekela. Ukukwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo iingcamango kwaye uluvo olucacileyo lubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kuba lixesha lokufunda malunga neminqweno, iimfuno kunye nokukhethwa kwentombazana.
Ininzi ngosuku lokuqala, amantombazana anamahloni, kwaye indlela umfana oziphatha ngayo iya kuqinisekisa ukuqhubela phambili koqhagamshelwano. Ukuqhayisa akufanelekanga. Indoda kufuneka ithembise ukubiza emva komhla wokuqala. Buza ngokusemthethweni xa kukulungele ukwenza loo nto, ingaba kuya kuvuya ukuphinde ubone kwakhona, kwaye unqume ukuba ungabiza okanye ungabizi. Kwaye ukuqokwa okulandelayo kuza kwakhona, kwaye kungenise inkampani okanye umngane. Kwaye nangona izicathulo zakho zikhulu, le mithetho elula iya kukunceda uhambe kude kwaye ushiye impembelelo.