Bonke abafazi babumbene nento yokuba bafuna ukuthandwa kwaye xa bengenanto ebomini babo, baya kukhangela umthandi. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba nomthandi, siya kukuxelela indlela yokukhetha ngokuchanekileyo.
1. Umele ukhethe indoda ekhangayo neyindoda. Ukuba udilika kwaye uhamba, xa usondele, wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
2. Musa ukukhangela umthandi wenkosana enhle. Konke okufunekayo kuye, kufuneka ahlale ebhedini. Ngoko awuyi kudala iingxaki kuwe.
3. Musa ukukhangela i-outlet kumthandi wakho. Oku kungakhokelela ekupheleni kokufa kobudlelwane bakho bobulili.
4. Ungaze utshele wakho umthandi ngeemfihlelo zakho. Oku kunokudala iingxaki kuwe xa ukwahlukana. Akukho siqinisekiso sokuba akayi kubuyisa kuwe, ekwazi nokusebenzisa zonke iimfihlo zakho.
5. Umele uziqonde wena, ulwalamano lwakho lufanele lukhululeke ngaphandle kokunyanzela.
6. Xa ukhetha iqabane lakho, yenza yonke imithetho yomdlalo wakho. Kufuneka uxoxe naye ngobuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ngoko ukuba kwikamva akukho ziingxaki. Kuya kuba bhetele ukuba uthethe naye malunga nexesha lingaphi na oza kudibana nayo. Ngaloo ndlela, unokuziphepha iingxaki ezininzi kwixesha elizayo.
7. Khangela zonke iingozi ezikhoyo, zombini ecaleni lakhe, kunye neyakho. Musa ukuthatha imiphumo embi kakhulu njengezifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, ukukhulelwa okungenakulungiswa.
8. Xa ungena kulwalamano, zigcine phantsi kolawulo. Musa ukuzithemba kwintsholongwane yomlingane. Ukuba ufuna ukufihla ulwalamano lwakho, ungaqali umthandi ukusuka kwindawo esondeleyo.
9. Kwaye into ebalulekileyo kukuba ulwalamano lwakho lulethe uvuyo kunye nenjabulo kuwe kunye neqabane lakho. Kumele ube nokuvumelana okupheleleyo. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza waphawula ukuba iqabane lakho, okanye waba nomona, ukuba ufundise ubomi bomnye nomnye, oku kungakhokelela ekusongeni inhlalakahle yakho. Olu lwalamano luhle kakhulu.
Siyathemba ukuba ukhetho lwakho lomthandi luya kuba lukhetho olufanelekileyo. Inhlanhla kuwe!