Ukufunda iimfuno zayo.
Yazi iimfuno ezisisiseko zamadoda uze uzame ukuwanelisa - oku kubaluleke kakhulu endleleni eya kwiinjongo ezixabisekileyo - ukufunda indlela yokulawula indoda. Ngaphezu koko, kufuneka, nje unobtrusively amncede aqonde ixabiso labesetyhini. Ukuba kuphela ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakhe, umntu akanakho ukuqonda igalelo lakho kule nto.
Ngamnye wethu uhlala evuyiswa nayo nayiphi na imiqondiso yokunyamekela nokuqwalaselwa. Khumbula ukuba kumntu ngamnye abazali banikezela ngezipho "eziwusizo", kuba, ngokutsho kwabazali, isipho akufanele sibe mnandi kumntwana, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kunjalo, oko kungenjalo. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu anike izipho ezinjalo, enokuthandayo. Xa kunikwa into engayifunayo ngokukhethekileyo, umntu "unokuthwala" inkumbulo yabanye abazali bakhe ngombono wakhe.
Hlonipha ixabiso lakhe.
Hlonipha ixabiso, imigaqo nemigaqo yamadoda. Ukuba imigaqo yakho iyahlukileyo, ngoko, ukuthetha malunga neempawu zakho, zama ukugxeka iingcamango nezindaluko zamadoda. Le mfanelo ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa inqabile phakathi kwabasetyhini. Indoda engabonakaliyo iya kuthandana nomfazi ongenakubalwa naye. Ngaphezu koko, zama ukufumana into eyenza abe neentlonelo kwabanye abesifazana, kuquka nomama wakho, kwaye uzame ukunciphisa ezi zenzo.
Ugqoke, ucinge ngentsingiselo yayo.
Funda ngokukhetha kwakhe malunga nokubonakala. Zama ukuthabatha ngokuhambelana nemigqaliselo yendoda yokuheha. Funda ngokukhetha kwakhe ngokwesondo, kuquka oko kukumthandayo kwaye uyithande kwiingubo zakhe. Yonke into incike kwizinto ezikhethiweyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwinkcubeko yethu kukho iingubo zentando yonke. Ukuba ufunda kwaye "ungene" kwizinto zakhe ezikhethiweyo, oku kuya kumchaphazela kakhulu indoda ngokunyanisekileyo nangempumelelo. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ukulungiswa nokunyamekelwa kwembonakalo yombono kuthathwa njengenye yemithetho ephambili yokuthandwa kwabasetyhini kumadoda.
Tshela le ndoda incomo.
Kuwuphi na umntu, icandelo eliphambili lobomi liyimpumelelo. Ngaphezu koko, impumelelo enjalo ingaba kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu abone ukusuka kwicala lakho iimpawu zokuqatshelwa kwamandla akhe, kwaye akunandaba nokuba yintoni eyenziweyo. Umzekelo, unokuthi: "Upheka i-kebabs ezinkulu" okanye "Utshela amahlaya kakuhle" kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Ungalibali ukuphendula ngokuqinisekileyo malunga nokufaneleka kwayo, ukugqamisa iingxenye ezithile zomzimba, ngokukodwa, ngokwesondo.
Yiba inkxaso kumntu.
Ukufunda indlela yokuphatha ngenyameko indoda ethandekayo iya kunceda kunye neyolandela elilandelayo-zama ukuhlala ube nobungane kwaye unesihe. Apha asinakuthetha ngokukhanga komzimba, kodwa ngeemeko zomlingane, ukukholiswa. Indoda ebudeni beemeko ezinzima kubancedwa ngale ndlela: "Uya kuhlangabezana nalo", "Ndiyakholwa kuwe", kodwa kungekhona ngamazwi kuphela, kodwa nakwizenzo. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, xa kukho ukungaphumeleli, umntu kufuneka agweme iingxelo ezintle ezifana nale ndlela: "Uhlala unjalo", "ndakuxelela oko," "Akukho nto iya kuza kuwe" kunye nezinye.
Zama ukukhetha amagama afanelekileyo.
Ukuba kukho ukuphikisana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kufuneka ukhethe ngokuzithoba nangokuthobeka. Into ephambili kukuba uzame ukudibanisa le mpikiswano, njengoko amadoda edla ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokunciphisa ukunciphisa. Xa kuziwa ekufumaneni ubudlelwane, yenza ngendlela ecacileyo necacileyo yamadoda-kwaye kuphela xa kuyimfuneko. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibinzana lentlokokazi yesithsaba esithi "Sifuna ukuthetha nawe", iholele loo ndoda ukuba idideke, iqala ukuziva idlwengulo, ingenakunceda njalonjalo.
Ngelo xesha, ibhinqa elikhangayo ngexesha apho amaqabane ahlukana kunye okanye kulwalamano kukho ukuxhatshazwa, unokuyibona ngexesha kwaye kuncede umntu acacise imeko. Emva koko, umntu akanakuqaphela oko kwenzekayo, kwaye abazi ukuba bangayilungisa njani imeko efana neyabasetyhini.
Musa "ukulayisha" indoda ngeemvakalelo.
Akufanele 'ulayishe' umntu onenani leemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo azinako ukumelana nazo. Khumbula ukuba indoda ayihambisani neemeko, ngoko unokunyamezela ngaphantsi komfazi. Xa ekuvakalisa uvuyo oluninzi okanye ukudandatheka, iimvakalelo zakho zigqithisa umntu, kwaye akayazi indlela yokusabela ngayo kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo. Kukholelwa ukuba iinyembezi zingenye yezona zixhobo ezisetyenziswayo. Kodwa, enyanisweni, ukuba uxhaphaza ukusilalisa, indoda, ngokuchaseneyo, iqala ukuhamba kwaye ibhekane nabancinci kwabasetyhini.
Yi nyaniso.
Kwinkcubeko yethu, kukho intetho eninzi malunga neendlela eziphathekayo zokutsala indoda. Enyanisweni, amadoda anqweneleka ngokunyaniseka, kunokuba enze izinto zokuziphatha kunye nokuxabana. Ukhuseleko ngenye yeemfuno ezisisiseko zamadoda, ngoko ke umgangatho okhangeleke kakhulu uyakuba yinto yokholo lomntu kumfazi, kubandakanywa nokungabikho kobugcisa kunye non-finesse.
Kubalulekile ukugcina umlinganiselo kuyo yonke into.
Ungalokothi ukhohlwe i-aphorism yesicatshulwa esidumileyo "Indoda iyabanda kumfazi omthandayo kakhulu, nangona kunjalo." Ngoko ke, ekubonakalisweni kweemvakalelo zabo, ukunyathela umntu engaboniyo, kuyimfuneko ukugcina umlinganiselo othile.
Zama ukuzinelisa.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba le ntokazi isoloko iyimimandla, iqhakazile kwaye iyimimandla, kwaye kungekhona nje ngenjongo enikezelweyo yokukholisa indoda. Umlingiswa kunye nokubonakaliswa kokuzimela kubamkele abantu.