Ukuba uhlala ungathandabuzeki ubuqotho bendoda, xhalaba ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva uya kubuyela kwakhe yangaphambili, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kunciphisa ulwalamano lwakho kwithuba elide kunye namandla. Okokuqala kukho konke okufuneka ukuyiqonda, unomona ngomyeni kwixesha elidlulileyo ngaphandle kwesizathu, okanye kukho ithuba elifanayo. Kukho inani lamanqaku apho kuya kulungele ukuhlawula ngokukhethekileyo.
Ingxoxo.
Yintoni enokubangela ukwesaba okwenene? Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umyeni uhlala ehlala njalo, nakweyiphi na into efanelekileyo kwaye akayi kukhumbula ngokuqhelekileyo intombi yakhe yangaphambili. Ukuzama isobho, uthi uNatasha (u-Olya, u-Marina) wongeza izitato ezingaphantsi kunye neetyuwa, zithi, ngoko-tastier. Ukuhamba ngeeholide eTurkey, umyeni wakhe kwiinkcukacha ezincinane kakhulu uqala ukuchaza indlela aphumla ngayo kanye kunye naye. Amabali anjalo ahlala engumqondiso ombi. Yena, ngokuqinisekileyo, ucinga ngoku ngaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba unomntu okhethekileyo okholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba unomdla ukuba uphulaphule. Akakwazi ukubeka nayiphi na intsingiselo ekhethekileyo kumabali akhe, nangona oku kungenangqondo, nokuba kunjani na.
Iintlanganiso.
Eyona nto imnandi, kodwa ayiqhelekanga-abaninzi abathandana nabo baqhubeka bexubusha nangona emva kokuhlukana kunye nendlela abaza kuzuza ngayo intsapho yabo. Ukwethusa kwangaphambili kunye nokunyanzela ukuba nomona ngomyeni akuyimfuneko - ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bukhona. Nanku kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele iinkcukacha ezincinci: umyeni wakho uchitha ixesha elingakanani "kunye naye", nokuba iintlanganiso zigcinwa yedwa okanye kunye nabahlobo, nokuba ngaba uthembekileyo uyamkhathaza ukumazi naye. Mhlawumbi ulwalamano lwabo luya kubakho ubungqina obubi. Emva koko unquma ukuba unyanzele indoda ukuba iwaphule ngokupheleleyo.
Isangqa soqhagamshelwano.
Ukuba umyeni wakho kunye nomyeni wakhe wangaphambili banesangqa sohlobo oluqhelekileyo, ngoko, nangona emva kokuhlukana naye, akunakwenzeka ukuba aphule ubuhlobo nabo. Kwaye ukufuna ukuba oku kukuphakama kobugovu. Indoda ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukuzisa kwinkampani yakhe, eya kukunceda ukuba uqinisekise ukuba akukho nto inobungozi kubomi bakho bosapho ayikho into. Kodwa ukuba indoda ingenzi oku - koko kuya kuba nesizathu esiyiyo sokukhathazeka. Mhlawumbi udibana nabahlobo kuphela isizathu sokuba umthandi wakho abone intombi.
Intsapho yesiBini.
Ukuba umyeni wakho usele utshatile ngaphambili, isizathu sokuba umona unzima kakhulu. Akunjalo nje intombazana ebonakala ukuba naye wayenalo ubudlelwane, nangona ihlala ihlala njalo ibe yinto enzulu. Indoda inokuba nezizathu ezininzi zokuqhubeka nokuthetha nomntu owayengumfazi okanye emva komtshato. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kubo, ewe, ngaba abantwana abaqhelekileyo. Ukuba indoda ifuna ukuthatha inxaxheba ebalulekileyo kwimfundo yabantwana bayo, ngoko uqhagamshelane nomfazi wangaphambili awukwazi ukunqandwa. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuthanda ukuchitha inxalenye yexesha lakhe lokuzikhethela (ngamanye amaxesha neeholide, iholide kunye neeholide) kunye nentsapho yangaphambili. Kodwa kufuneka uqonde. Ukuba indoda ifuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabantwana, kwaye kungekhona nomfazi wayo, ngokokuba akukho nto ikwazi ukuba nomona. Ukuba awulungele ukwamukela olo nxibelelo, ubuhlobo bakho akunakwenzeka ukuba uhlale uxolo kwaye uhambelane.
Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba amadoda akanayo abantwana kumtshato owedlule, kodwa umnxeba nomfazi wangaphambili, nangona kunjalo, uyamxhasa. Wena, ke, awukwazi ngokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe azizange ziphele namhlanje, kodwa ukuzola kule meko akulula. Kulungile, kuya kuba ngakumbi ukuba umnxibelelwano uncitshiswa kuphela kwikharityibuliso yeeholide kunye neefowuni ezingaqhelekanga. Kodwa ukuba umntu wakho uthanda ukuqala ukunyamekela ukunceda umfazi wakhe wangaphambili, uchaza oku ngenxa yokuba akhathazekanga, ngoko-ke unesizungu - unokuba sele uqaphele. Qiniseka ukuba uthethe ngokuthethekileyo nomntu obathandayo, mchazele ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kukulimaza, kubangela ukuxhalabisa. Ukuba nangona emva kokuba ingxoxo ingatshintshi, lixesha lokuba ucinge ngokubhekiselele ukuba kulungile ... Kutheni? Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntu engena ebuhlotsheni obutsha, ubuhlobo bakhe obudlulileyo bubeka zonke iingongoma ezingentla. Ukuba le ngongoma ayikho, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba iya kuvela.
Kwa kunjalo.
Kukho amadoda anjalo, emva kokuphulaphula ubudlelwane nentombazana yabo ethandekayo kwintsebenziswano elitsha, bathambekele ekwenzeni okuchaseneyo. Bafumana nje umfazi ofanelekileyo kwiinkqubo zakhe, apho kungekho zivakalelo ezithile ezinamandla. Bakholelwa ukuba kulula ukwakha ubudlelwane kwaye kulula ukuhlala kwisithuba xa kwenzeka ukungaphumeleli. Kuba nawuphi na umntu "oqhelekileyo" ohlukanayo ithuba lokubonisisa nokuhlaziya ubudlelwane babo obuhlulekile. Kodwa loo madoda abeka isohlwayo kuyo yonke into yokugxeka imvakalelo, ngoko ke umnxibelelwano olandelayo awunakwakhiwa nomntu othandekayo, kodwa unothando oluqotho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuzingca, ngolunye ulwalamano-olulolo hlobo, ngokungaqhelekanga, ngokwenene ludla ngokuvisisana kwaye luqine. Kukho ukungabikho kwemvakalelo yokuba indoda ilula ukudibanisa kunye nokuba ayithandi ukuziphatha komfazi, akayikuzikhupha ngokukhululeka inkululeko yakhe.
Ukuba okanye kungekhona.
Ewe, sonke sifuna ukulungelelanisa. Akulula ukuqonda ukuba umntu usetsalwe kwixesha lakhe elide. Ngaba ngokwenene ufuna ukuzama ukwakha ubudlelwane kulo mzekelo - umbuzo unzima kwaye impendulo ixhomekeke kubuchule bakho kunye nemeko ethile. Abanye abachasayo bayeke ukubonakala, abanye, ngokuchasene nabo, bayabathukuthelisa, bawachukumise ukuba benze ngokunyanisekileyo. Abanye baqonda nje uthando olunjalo olungathandabuzekiyo lwendoda njengento engafanelekanga, kwaye bayayithanda indoda yabo njengoko injalo. Kukho nawuphi na, ubuhlobo obungaqhelekanga buya kuba lula kwaye bube nethemba. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba umntu wakho ufanelekile, kutheni ungazami ukulwa nolonwabo?