Bulumko
Ukuze umntu wakho ayeke ukuba "emehlweni akho" emehlweni akho, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokumkhuthaza ngokufanelekileyo. Awufanele ukhulume ngokuthe ngqo, uchaze i-minuses yayo kwaye uqalise ama-scandals. Ngokukodwa xa ufumanisa ukuba izinto ezicaphukisayo zibonakaliswe kwimpawu zakhe nokuziphatha kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo kwaye wahlala nayo ngokugqibeleleyo, mhlawumbi wayeyithanda yonke into. Yaye ngoku uye wathanda, yintoni na, kwaye ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza uqale ukubonisa "i-fairy" yakho ngesiqingatha sesibini. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna, umzekelo, ukuba insizwa i-tidier, akufanele utsho ukuba ukhangeleka njengengulube kwaye unentloni ukuvela kunye naye kwindawo efanelekileyo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekungazi ngokupheleleyo ukuthetha kwakho, okanye kwinto enokuyenza ngayo ukunyelisa. Ngoko ke, umele umxelele ngokukhawuleza malunga neyona nto enhle kakhulu kunye neyona nto ibhetele, kodwa ukuba iinwele ziqhelekile, i-shirt i-ironed, ngoko kuya kuba ngumkhosi wemibutho. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha ludla ngokubonakala kulona lungileyo kwaye unako ukufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungaphinde ufundise umntu, kodwa ukubiza igama lakhe kuye. Khumbula ukuba ukuba unqume ukuba ube ngumntu oqhelekileyo, apho ubona ukungaphumeleli, ngoko kufuneka ufunde ukuvala amehlo akho kubo. Ngaphandle koko, awukwazi ukuba kunye kunye kwaye kuya kufuneka uyingxenye. Kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba yintoni oyenzayo, ukuba awukwazi ukumkela lowo uyamthandayo, ngoko ke, oko kukuthi, ukuhlukana akukhethi inketho kuwe. Ngako oko, xa ufuna ukucaphuka kumntu ngesenzo esingavunyelwanga ngaso, khumbula zakhe iimpawu. Cinga ngezinto ozithandayo kwaye uqaphele indlela iimvakalelo ezingathandeki ziza kufikelela kwisicwangciso sesibini. Umfana wakho ulungile malunga nento ethile, ekuxelela ukuba wathandana naye njengaye. Le yinyaniso, njengoko sisithandayo, ngakumbi sifuna ukuba umntu oza kuba ngumntu wangempela. Ziyinto nje engabikhoyo, kwaye loo mfana akayi kuzama ukuba mnye. Ngoko ungazami ukuwufanisa nomfanekiso owenzayo, kwaye kuya kuba lula ukuba uphathe i-minuses yayo.
Yamkela ubomi
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abasetyhini abakwaziyo ukuqonda nokuwamkela umntu, kuba ubomi bakhe, izinto ezithandwayo, isondlo sobuntu kunye nokunye kubonakala ngathi ziphosakele kwaye ziyisicwenge. Kule meko, loo mfazi makangachukumiswanga yindoda ngokubanzi. Ewe, ukuba oku akusebenzi kwizo meko xa ebona ukuba iindawo ezizungezile kunye nezenzo zokuzilibazisa ziyingozi kuye kwaye zimdonsa ezantsi. Kule meko, kunye naye kufuneka ukhulume ngokukodwa, zama ukuvula amehlo akho kwimeko. Akukho mfuneko ukuba umxelele iinyaniso kwaye ulindele ukuba lo mntu uya kukukholelwa kwaye enze ngokukhawuleza. Kubalulekile ukumnika ulwazi olungadingekile, ukunyanzelisa ngokunyanisekileyo kwizenzo ezifanelekileyo, ukudala iimeko apho ebona ukuba ubomi bakhe buyingozi. Kwaye ukuba umntu ungumnatha, kwaye konke oku kulungele ukusingqongileyo, ekugqibeleni uya kuziqonda kwaye uya kutshintsha. Ngaphandle koko, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngekhefu.
Kodwa sisathetha ngeemeko apho ubomi bomntu buqhelekileyo, akunakwamkeleka. Ngokomzekelo, umfana uthanda imidlalo ekhompyutheni apho ungayiboni loo nto, kwaye abahlobo bakhe babonakala bekhohlakeleyo kwaye banobuqili, nangona ubabona bengenangqondo. Kule meko, amaninzi amantombazana enza enye impazamo enkulu-zama ukuthanda uthando bakhe. Bachitha iiyure zokufunda umdlalo omtsha, malunga naloo mfana uhlala ethetha, soloko uzama ukunxibelelana nabahlobo bakhe uze uthi balungile. Oku kunjalo kuphela, imidlalo iyinkunkuma yexesha kubo, kwaye abahlobo banesifo sengqondo. Yaye xa ithe isibini esithandanayo sinezinye iimbambano, le ntombazana ayiyikulibala ukutsho ukuba yazama ngamandla, yafunda ukuba loo mdlalo idlale imidlalo yakhe yobuqili kwaye inxibelelana nabahlobo abasondeleyo, kwaye akayikuyixabisa. Kuloo nto umfana ochaza ngokucacileyo ukuba akakaze abuze imibingelelo enjalo. Inyaniso kukuba, bafazi abathandekayo, ukuba akufanele uzame ukuthwala ubomi bomntu. Kufuneka uqonde oko. Emva koko unokufumana, kunye nobomi bakhe. Cinga ngokwakho, unayo izinto zokuzilibazisa, a baninzi abangaziqondiyo kwaye abazibandakanyi. Kwaye nakuwe kungenangqondo, kodwa kumakhulu amawaka abantu, le midlalo yinto yokuzonwabisa enkulu ebomini. Ngoko-ke, musa ukugweba umfana kuphela ukuba izinto zakho zokuzilibazisa azifani. Myeke enze into ayithandayo, kwaye wena. Into kuphela efanelekileyo ukulungelelanisa ukubeka yonke into isebenze ngexesha elilodwa, ngoko kube nexesha lomnye nomnye. Kule meko, awuyi kukhwankqiswa yiminqweno yakhe yokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha, kuba awuyi kutyhukela.
Kuyafana nabahlobo. Umntu akanakuthanda konke. Kwaye akukho nto engaqhelekanga ukuba awukwazi ukungena kwiqela lakhe. Kodwa kuyisidenge kwaye kungenasiphelo ukummangalela ngokuba ngabahlobo nabantu abanjalo. Khumbula ukuba xa umntu esicasulayo, ngoko siyakumkhangeleka nje ngokubi kwaye singaluboni kakuhle. Ngako oko, mhlawumbi, ukubeka phantsi ngabahlobo bakhe akuyona into efanelekileyo. Ukuba aba bantu bangabangani, kunye nabahlobo ixesha elide, ngoko banento efanayo. Ukongezelela, amadoda anemilinganiselo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo yobomi. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukutshintsha indlela abahlobo abaziphatha ngayo kwinkampani yamadoda, bathanda amahlaya ama-idaratnye amahlaya, abayikunyamekela. Ngoko ke, ukuba ucaphukisa uluntu lomntu, qha ga mshelana naye ubuncinci. Kodwa akukho nto ihlambalaza ngayo kunye nabahlobo kwaye ababavumeli ukuba bathethe nabo. Kwaye xa ehamba kwiqela labahlobo, ncokola naye. Kule meko, bonke baya kuyaneliseka kwaye akukho mntu uya kutyhafisa aze acasuke.
Njalo khumbula ukuba kaninzi kubonakala ngathi asikwazi ukumkela umntu njengokuba yena. Enyanisweni, sasiyifumene xa sithandana. Kungoku ngoku asikwazi ukuwamkela into yokuba ayihambisani neempawu ezifanelekileyo esizibekele zona. Ngako oko, kufuneka nje ukucinga ngokuncinci kwaye uphile ubomi ngakumbi, ngoko uya kuqonda kwaye uyamkele umthandayo.