Ngoko, njani ukuziphatha kwiklasi elitsha? Xa uqala ukuvula umnyango uze ubonakale ngaphambi kokuhlanganiswa okutsha, wena, ewe, uyazixabisa. Abantu banomdla kwimbonakalo yakho, kunye nomlingiswa wakho. Kumntu, owokuqala kubalulekile, kodwa kumnye umntu, okwesibini. Kwiqela elitsha, wena, kunjalo, kufuneka ube nabahlobo. Kodwa, ungathemba ukuba wonke umntu eklasini uya kukuthanda. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantu abaklasini bahlukileyo kwaye akubona bonke abanokuhlangana kunye nabalinganiswa. Umsebenzi wakho kwiqela elitsha aliyikukholisa wonke umntu, kodwa ukuzityhila ukuze ungahlanjululwa okanye uhlaselwe. Ngoko ke, ekuqaleni kufuneka uqiniseke. Ewe, akukho mntu uthetha ngokuzithemba, apho umntu eqala ukuziphatheka njengokungathi "yintonga yomhlaba." Kodwa, ukuba ungene kwiklasi elitsha, ngentloko yakho, kwaye uzingelwa ngokujikeleza, akukho nto ayimfuneko, nokuba kunjani na. Abantu bafanele baqonde ekuqalekeni ukuba uyabahlonela kwaye uyazihlonela.
Musa ukujamela kwaye uhlale uthula. Xoxa kwaye ungesabi ukuqala iingxoxo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akudingeki ukuba ube neengxaki kwaye ufumane wonke umntu ngeendaba ezingapheliyo ngobomi bakho kunye nabahlobo bakho. Oku unokukwenza xa unabohlobo abaya kuba banomdla. Ngosuku lokuqala, kufuneka nje uzivale kumntu omaziyo, uthetha kummelwane okanye ummelwane kwideskiti yesikolo uze uzame ukufumana ngubani na inkokeli eklasini, ukuba ngabahlobo bakhe bangakanani, nokuba ufuna ukungena kule nkampani okanye ufuna ukuba baphathe ngokuqhelekileyo. Iikholeji zihlukile. Kwamanye, abaqalayo bayamkelwa ngokukhululeka okukhulu. Kufuneka silungele oku kwaye sikwazi ukuzikhusela. Kakade ke, akudingeki ukuba uphukise ingxabano ngokwakho. Kodwa, ukuba ubona ukuba uzama ukuhlazisa okanye ukuthuka - ungathuli. Nangona umntu engakuthandi, akayi kuphinda akuthintele, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba unokunika ukulungiswa okufanelekileyo kwaye awusabi nantoni na. Ukongeza, ngale ndlela, uya kufumana intlonelo kubantu abalungileyo abakwiqela ngalinye kwaye banokuba ngabahlobo bakho.
Ukuba uhlaziye kwaye unolwazi oluninzi, musa ukubonisa rhoqo le klasi kunye nootitshala. Ewe, ukuba uyabuzwa - uphendule uze ufumane amabakala amahle. Kodwa, akukho mzekelo, awukwazi ukuphazamisa afunda nabo, qho gxuba isandla sakho xa bephendula kwaye ungakhumbuli into. Kungcono, ukuba kunokwenzeka, xelela umntu impendulo. Ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kulahleka, kodwa abantu baya kuqonda ukuba ulungele ukukunceda kwaye unokusebenzisana neqela, kwaye ungenzi nto yonke.
Akufanele utshintshe indlela yakho yokugqoka, ukuba awuyithandanga nabo ofunda nabo. Kuza kuhlala kukho abantu abaya kukuvuma ngenxa yokuba ungubani. Yaye ukuba wena, phantsi koxinzelelo lwabanye, qalisa ukugqoka indlela abayithandayo, baya kukuphatha njengomntu onokulawulwa nokwenza nabo oko bafuna. Ukuhlonipha kwakho ngokusobala kuya kuzuza, kodwa kuya kuba "ezintandathu" ezinamandla. Ewe, awufuni le nto. Ngako oko, ungazitheli nje ngenxa yokuba umntu wayefuna. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu ufuna ukujoyina iqela elitsha, kodwa, akudingeki ukuba wenze oku, ukuphazamiseka kwesidima kunye nokuzikhukhumeza. Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba umntu ngamnye uhlukile. Abantu abacebileyo nabaneleyo bayayiqonda oku kwaye bayayixabisa kwabanye. Kwaye, ukuba umntu ufuna ukuguqula ubukhulu obunzima okanye i-clone yakho, ke lo mntu akafanelanga ubuhlobo nawe, kwaye iinzame zakho ziya kumnceda.
Akukaze kulungele ukuxoxa ngemiyalelo kunye nabafundi abatsha eklasini kunye namalungu eqela. Inyaniso kukuba unokuba ngumntu ongekhohlisayo okanye unokubeka abantu ngokuchasene nawe. Khumbula ukuba, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukucinga okokuqala kukukhohlisa. Unokuthanda abantu abathi, ngokwenene, ababi. Kwaye abo banokuba ngabahlobo bokwenene kuwe, uya kulwa nawe. Ngoko ke, zama ukuphulaphula, ubukele kwaye ungangeni kwingxoxo yomntu. Khumbula ukuba aba bantu bafunda ndawonye ixesha elide, banokuthetha izinto ezimbi malunga nomnye, baqonde kwaye benze uxolo. Kodwa ukuba uthetha into engalunganga, vele ubuyele kuwe. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuba uvale uze ulinde ukusuka kwicala. Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abathetha abancinci kwaye baninzi, baziva behle. Wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba banokuthenjwa kwaye bahlonishwe. Kodwa, ngelo xesha, xa abantu bengathethi kakhulu ngabo, abanye banemibhobho emibini yengcinezelo, ngenxa yoko, abayi kukwazi ukukucasula nantoni na okanye bakunyanzele ukuba wenze into ethile. Ngoko ke, akufanele uvele uvule ngokukhawuleza phambi kwabantu, nokuba uyabathanda. Uhlala ufuna ixesha lokuba uqonde uhlobo lomntu ngokwenene. Ngoko ke, zama ukuzinqanda.
Kodwa, oku akuthethi nakuyo yonke into ekufuneka uhlale uyixhomeke kuyo, udibene kwaye ungabonisi nabantu. Ngokuphambene noko, ukuba unokuba ngumphefumlo wenkampani, uhlaziye abanye kwaye ufumane izihloko zentetho - sebenzisa oku. Abantu bayayixabisa abo abanokuyivuyisa, bhala into ethile, ibe yintsusa. Kuphela akufanele uzame ukuthatha isikhundla senkokeli ngamandla akho onke, ukuba oko kusekho kakade kwigumbi lokufundela okanye ngentando yeninzi kwaye akukho nkokheli ebonakalayo. Ukuba abantu bafuna, ngexesha elizayo, uya kuziva ukuba, ngokwabo okanye ngokungazi kakuhle banikela phambili kwinxaxheba yinduna. Kodwa, de kube yenzeke, ungazami ukubonisa ukuba ungcono. Oku akuthandi kakhulu, ngakumbi kulabo baqokelelwayo apho bonke balingana.
Ukungena kwiqela elitsha, kufuneka uhlale uzama ukuhlala wena, kodwa, ngexesha elifanayo, ufunde ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo nabanye abantu. Kwaye, okubaluleke kakhulu - ungesabi nantoni na. Abantu, njengezinja, xa beziva beyesaba, baninzi bebaleka. Ukuba iqela elitsha liqonda ukuba uyazihlonela wena nabanye, kwaye ungamesabi mntu, ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kuba ngumntu okhuselekileyo apho kwaye uya kufumana abahlobo abalungileyo.