Abazali abaselula, ngakumbi xa benamazibulo, banenkxalabo ngemiba eyahlukeneyo. Kwaye phakathi kwabo, akusiyo indawo yokugqibela ehlala kwiimeko ezichaphazela ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kwabantwana abangaphantsi konyaka omnye. Inqwenela enjalo ichanekile ngokupheleleyo - ukuqonda oko umntwana kufuneka akwazi ukukwenza, yiyiphi imilinganiselo yokuziphatha kwakhe ikhona kwiinqanaba ezithile zophuhliso, ungathatha amanyathelo okufika ngexesha kwaye uphephe iingxaki ezinokwenzeka.
Umntwana esele uvela ekuzalweni kwakhe udibana nabazali kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Ukususela malunga neenyanga ezintathu ezidlulileyo, uqala ukubonisa umdla okhulayo kwihlabathi elikujikelezile. Ngethuba lokuqala kunyaka wokuphila, ukuba akukho nto yokukhubazeka kwaye akukho mpazamo ekuphuhliseni, umntwana ufunda ezininzi. Umzekelo, ufunda ukubamba intloko yakhe, ukukhahlela, ukuba kwindawo ehambileyo, wenze amanyathelo akhe okuqala. Isimo sengqondo somntwana siphinde senze utshintsho. Ubunjani bakhe, imikhwa, iingcamango kunye nokuqhagamshelana okuzinzile. Oku kwenzeka kwizigaba, ukusuka ngenyanga ukuya kwenyanga. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bazi ezi zigaba baze balungiselele ubunzima obuthile obuvela kuzo ngamnye.
Amanyathelo okuphuhliswa kwengqondo yabantwana abangaphantsi konyaka omnye
Usana olusandul ' usana lulala ixesha elininzi. Ixesha elide kakhulu lokuvuka ngokukhawuleza kweli nqanaba linokufikelela kwimitha engama-30. Kule minyaka umntwana uyakwazi ukusabela kwisandi, ukukhanya kunye nentlungu. Usuvele unesicinci sokubonwa kwexesha elifutshane kunye nokuhlola. Usana luye lwaluthetha ngokunyana, ukugaya, ukugwinya kunye nezinye iingcamango.
Xa uneminyaka engama-nye umntwana ususebenza ngakumbi. Ixesha elipheleleyo lokuvuka liye landa kwangeyure. Umntwana unokukwazi ukulungisa kakuhle. Ulandela umxholo, kodwa ngelixa akakwazi ukuguqula intloko emva kwezinto ezihambayo. Ngokwenyama, unokukwenza, kodwa akayikwakha ubudlelwane beengqondo phakathi kwento kunye nokuhamba kwayo. Kule nqanaba, umntwana usuqalile ukuzama ukudlulisela abantu abadala iimvakalelo zabo. Yenza oku, ngokuyinhloko ngoncedo lokumemeza, ukulinganisa okanye ukugunda.
Ukuba wambona umntwana oneminyaka emibili ebusweni obumomothekayo - yazi ukuba akuyingozi. Ngalesi sizukulwana unako ukumncoma. Ngaphezu koko, unokukwazi ukulandela ngokugqibeleleyo umdlalo. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uqala ukuguqula intloko, kungekudala ukuba umxholo othakazelisayo kuye uthathelwa kwicala. Kulo thuba apho unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho iqalisa ukwakha iingxoxo zabo zokuqala eziqaphelayo: ngokuphendula kwonyango lwakho, inkunzi ivuselele kwaye ikhuphe.
Umntwana kwiinyanga ezintathu sele eqonda ngokucacileyo unina. Ukwahlula ngokulula ukuma phambi kwabantu, unokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo isikhalazo kuye. Enye yeziphumo eziphambili kweli nqanaba kukuphuhliswa kokuzimela. Ingane iyakwazi ukudlala ngedokethi ekhankanywe ngasentla okanye ikhangele ezandleni zayo. Oku kubonisa ukuphuhliswa komnqweno ocacileyo wokuzimela, ukuqinisekiswa komntu. Umntwana uhleka, abukele umxholo, uguqula intloko.
Kwiinyanga ezine umntwana ukhangele into enqwenelekayo eyona nto, ixesha elide, ubambelela ngokukhawuleza ezandleni zakhe, ufumanisa amehlo omama aze amlindile ngokukhawuleza, ehleka ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana osemdala kule minyaka unako ukushiya ixesha elithile kwisibhedlele yedwa ngexesha lokuvusa. Unokudlala ngokuzimela ixesha elide. Ixesha lolwazi olusebenzayo lwehlabathi elikujikelezayo lifikelela kwiiyure ezimbini.
"Inkulumo" eneminyaka ezintlanu "inkulumo" ibonakala ngokubethelela kunye nomculo okhethekileyo. Umntwana sele ebonakalisa ngokucacileyo iintlobo zeemvakalelo, ukwahlula nayiphi na iimbono zezwi labazali kwaye ixesha elide lihlola izandla kunye nezinto ezizungezile. Impumelelo ephambili kukuba umntwana uqala ukuzibona esibukweni. Ngaphezu koko, ukucinga kwakhe rhoqo kumenza amomotheka. Ungacingi ukuba le nto yenzeke ngengozi - umntwana uyaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba nguye onesibuko. Kwixesha elizayo ukuzimela ngokwabo kuya kuqiniswa kuphela.
Shayela egameni lentsana enyanga ezintandathu , kwaye ngoko nangoko uyasabela. Ngaphezu koko, ngeli xesha uqala ukupapasha kungekhona nje izandi zomntu, kodwa zidibeneyo ezidibeneyo. Ukuthetha rhoqo rhoqo nomntwana. Uya kumangaliswa yintoni umdla oya kuphulaphula oko uthethile. Ukuba umntwana uncelisayo, ngoko ngexesha elifanelekileyo uya kucacisa ukuba ufuna ibele, ekhomba kuyo. Ngeli xesha, iintsana zokuncedisa zifundiswa ukusela kwindebe yabantwana. "Abaqambi" abafumene iJusi, amanzi kunye netiyi kwibhotile, eli buchule lisekupheleni.
Ngeenyanga ezi-7-8, umntwana uqala ukuqaphela izinto ngamnye. Ufunda i-emoble emotionally, ebonisa ngokucacileyo indlela aziva ngayo. Kukho oko kuthiwa "ngamagama angaphantsi", apho umntwana ebonisa isimo sakhe sengqondo kwizinto ezenzekayo. Imidlalo yakhe sele iqaphele kwaye ilawulwa. Ingane ayifuni nje ukugubha i-rattle yayo, kodwa idlala nayo, idibanisa kwaye iyonwaba inkqubo. Ngoku umntwana uhlukanisa abantu, eyazi iziganeko "zomntu" kunye "nomnye".
Xa uneminyaka eyi-9-10 iinyanga umntwana usenokwenza imiyalelo elula, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sele sele eyazi kakuhle, xa kuyimfuneko, ubiza umnina. Ngomntwana, akuyona inkinga ukubonisa apho ipiliti inempumlo, amehlo, umlomo, ipeni, njl. Ingane kwiinyanga ezilishumi iya kukunika ngokuchanekileyo into oyicelayo, ize ikwazi ukwenza umyalelo onzima (ukubetha , unike umdlalo kuPapa, njl.) Le ngxaki ye-psychology yokusebenzisana-isigaba sokuqala endleleni yokuphuhlisa izakhono zonxibelelwano. Umntu osukayo, uya kutsalwa emva "ngelixa", kwaye oku kuthetha. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ufunde ukuthetha ngoku, ukuqonda imithetho kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ukudibanisa nabo.
Ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kwengane kuthola ukucaciswa kwabantu abadala ngeminyaka . Umntwana sele sele eqonda kakuhle igama elithi "akunakwenzeka." Ngaphezu koko, uyazibona ngokwaneleyo intetho ebhekiswe kuyo. Eli xesha libaluleke kakhulu, kuba intetho yakhe iya kuqala. Kwamanye abantwana, ukuphuhliswa komnyaka kuya ngokukhawuleza, kwabanye - ngokukhawuleza. Lo mntu uqobo kwaye uxhomekeka kwizinto ezininzi: iimeko apho umntwana ekhula khona, ubunzala kunye nobuchule bakhe bendalo.
Kule minyaka umntwana usuqale ukubonisa imvume yakhe nokungavumelani. Sele sele uyayiqonda into ayifunayo, kwaye into ayithandayo. Iingxabano zokuqala zengqondo ziqala. Umntwana uzama ukuvuma iimfuno zakhe, izinto, kwaye unengqiqo. Nangona umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa engazange akhe ubuhlobo besikhathi eside phakathi kweemvakalelo nezenzo. Akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na kuwe "ngenxa yobubi." Kalula, uzama ukuzincoma.