"Yeka ukugubha ikhola. Abantu sele bebukele. Ngaba ufuna ukuba wonke umntu ahlekise kuwe okanye enze ngenjongo yokuba ndibe nomona? "- kanye, unina oneminyaka emihlanu uSlava oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala ujezisa. "Andifuni," unyikima intloko yakhe, "kwaye ngokukodwa, andiyi kumthintela nonke, yena ngokwakhe ufike emlonyeni wam." Ukukhathazeka kukaMama kukukhulu, kodwa ... unyana ulungile. Konke kwenzeka ngokwenene ngaphandle kokuthanda kwakhe. Lo ngumphambili omkhulu phakathi kokunyaniseka kunye nemikhwa emibi. Ukuba umntwana akasususi iimpawu zakhe okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uyakuthanda ukuba yonke into ihlala ikhonkxwe kwiibhokisi, umkhwa (xa umntu enokwenza okunye, kodwa ukhetha oko). Yaye ukuba iphosa izipikili zakhe, ikhwephe iinwele zakhe, izitshizi okanye zitsho amazinyo, zibambe isikhumba ezandleni zakhe okanye ezinyaweni, zilumise umlomo wayo, kwaye zenze njalo ngamaxesha amaninzi - oku kuphazamiseka. Ukwazi ngokwaneleyo ukubhekisela kwiingxelo kwaye yena ngokwakhe uyaqonda ukuba akuyimfuneko ukwenza njalo, kodwa uyaqhubeka kwaye akayi kulawule umzuzu xa eqala. Izinyathelo ezigqithisileyo (ukunyanzeliswa) zinokuhluka kakhulu. U-Lena oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala wayenakukwazi ukumelana naye xa ebona isityalo esiseduze. Wayeza kuthatha isiqwenga sephepha, asibeke ephaketheni lakhe kwaye, ngaphandle kokuthabatha izandla zakhe, wayeza kusidiliza kwiincinci ezincinci. Ukuchaswa, iinkolelo ukuba izityalo kufuneka zithande kwaye zikhuselwe, azizange zisebenze. Emva koko ugogo wagqiba ekubeni atshintshe ubuqhetseba bakhe, kwaye ekuboneni kwakhona uluhlaza oluhlaza, wabiza ngexhala: "Ngaba wena - uyayichitha le ntyatyambo? Kodwa inetyhefu, kwaye ngoku ungagula! Izityalo ezininzi zinobungozi kwimpilo! ". Le ndlela yayisebenza-Lena wayethukile waza wakhala. Wayeka ukuthabatha iintyatyambo, kodwa waqala ukukhetha impumlo. Icandelo elikhethekileyo lokugqithisa luyi-nicous tic. Zihamba ngeenjini ezinxulumene nokuqhaqhazela ngokungabonakaliyo kwezihlunu zobuso, izitho (ukuchola, izihlunu, ukuxubha, ukutshatyalaliswa) kunye nezwi (ukukhwehlela, ukukhenkceza, ukukhwaza). I-Tiki iyaphela ngokukhawuleza, ukuba umntwana wenza umsebenzi othakazelisayo, othakazelisayo, aze aphinde abuyele xa umntwana ekhubekile okanye ngexesha lokungabi namava. Ezi tics zihluke kwiintlobo ze-muscle ezixubileyo kwizifo ze-neurological.
Konke kwaqala njani?
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali abakwazi ukuphendula lo mbuzo. Akukho xinzelelo olubonakalayo. Kwakukho iingxaki zeentsapho - kwakhona unyaka wonke udlulile. Kodwa iziganeko zezinto ezidala kunye nezibonakalayo eziphila kakuhle zingabangela imbandezelo. Abantwana kaninzi abanalo ithuba lokuphendula uxinzelelo, abantu abadala bahlala becinga ukuba: "Omncinci akaqondi nto. Kwaye akanandaba nokubuyisela uxolo lwengqondo. "Sasinomtshato onzima kakhulu. Wayephambi kobugwenxa, ukuxabana, ukushiya ikhaya kunye nokuhlaselwa. Kwaye sagqiba kwelokuba: intombi mayihlale kunye nogogo kuze kube yilapho siyiqonda. Washiya iinyanga ezintandathu. Ukususela ngaloo ndlela, ndivakalelwa kukuba into ethile emqaleni wayo iyanamathela, ngokuqhelekileyo yenza isandi esinjengokukhahlela. Uphando lubonise ukuba yonke into ihlelwe, kodwa ezi zandi ziqhubeka. " Abantwana banomdla kakhulu kwiimvakalelo zabantu abadala kunye noko kwenzekayo kwintsapho. Nangona abazali bengaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi ("Hamba, ngoko siza kuthetha"), abantwana baziva ukuba into ephosakeleyo. Ukuxhalabisa komntwana omncinane kulo mzekelo akunakulinganiswa. Kuye, ihlabathi liyawa xa efumana utshintsho olubi. Kakade ke, ukuba ngeli xesha uthabathe ezandleni zakhe, ucinezele, uthethe kwaye uqiniseke ukuba yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, ngoko ingcinezelo ayiyi kunzima ukunyamezela. Kodwa ngeli xesha abantu abadala abakude kubantwana. Emva koko umntwana unokuba ne-tics - njengomnqweno ongathandabuzekiyo wokutsala ingqalelo kunye nemfuneko yokuthetha. Baya kudlula ngokuphepha ngokukhawuleza ukuba imeko iqhelekile, kodwa iyakwazi ukuhlala iminyaka emininzi. "Qala" ukusilahla akunakwenzeka kuphela kwintsapho. Unobunzima obutitshala bezontanga, ukugula okude, ukuxhwaleka, iimeko ezibangelwa ukwesaba kwisitalato, ngexesha lokuhlangana okukhulu kwabantu kwimisebenzi yokuzonwabisa. "Njengomntwana, ndandinamathela kwi-elevator. Ndiyakhumbula, wayethusa kakhulu - ngakumbi njengoko umama angazange avumele umntu angene kwi-elevator. Ngethuba elithile wayelumkantsha, waza waqala ukubeka uxinzelelo kuwo onke amaqhosha, ngoko-ukuza. Ngaloo mzuzwana umqhubi wahamba. Kwaye ixesha elide, ukuba kukho into ebangela ukuba ndiyike kwiimeko ezilukhuni, ndathula ngokukhawuleza okanye ndemi kwi-tiptoe, kwana esikolweni. Ndazi ukuba kwakuyisiphukuphuku, kodwa andinakuyifumana. Ndize ndide - andiyi kukhawuleza. " Ezi zinto zenzekile - ngohlobo lwezithethe - ngokuqhelekileyo zenzeka kamva, ukusuka kwiminyaka engama-6. Ukususela kwiikhikhethi ezichazwe "ukuqonda" okukhulu, isilungiso. Kodwa zombini unesizathu esisodwa - uxhala lwangaphakathi, ukuxhatshazwa.
Iingxaki ezongezelelweyo
Njengomgaqo, ingxaki ayigcini kwizenzo ezigqithisileyo. Abazali bayaqaphela ezinye iimpawu ezingathandekiyo. Umzekelo, iingxaki zokulala. Umntwana akakwazi ukulala ixesha elide, evuka phakathi kobusuku, angasukuma kakhulu kusasa, kwaye yonke imihla ivakalelwa. Kwaye kunye nentsapho yonke - emva koko, iphupha lomntwana liba yingxaki yendalo yonke. Enye ingxaki kubantwana abanokuzithiba ngumoya oguqukayo. Iphims ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukucaphuka, ukukhalazela kubantwana abanjalo bahlala becala kwaye banokutsala abazali kunye notitshala. Ukongezelela, ukwesaba kunye nokwesaba ngokubanzi. Umntwana uqaphele kakhulu ihlabathi ngokubanzi, njengokungathi ulinde okubi, akanalo nantlontle. Ngaphandle, abantwana abanomdla obonakalayo bangabonakala bephilile, kodwa banomdla wokungcola, musa ukunyamezela ukuthutha, ukunyamezela, ukhathala kwimisebenzi emibili kunye nemiboniso ekhanyayo. Ngokuvakalayo bayakwazi ukucinga kwaye banengcamango ecacileyo.
Iqela leengozi
Uninzi lwa bantwana luhlala kwiimeko ezilinganayo. Wonke umntu uva ulwazi olufanayo, wonke umntu akafumanekanga ixesha elihle ebomini kubazali bakhe. Kodwa ukuphelelwa ngumsindo akuyiyo yonke into. Ukongezelela koko, nangona emva kokufumana uxinzelelo olufanayo, ekubeni sisesimweni esisodwa esibuhlungu, abantwana baya kusabela ngendlela ekhethekileyo: omnye uya kulibala ngenyanga, kwaye enye iya kuba ngumthombo wokuxhalaba kunye nezenzo zokuziphatha. Yintoni echaphazela oku? Okokuqala, iimpawu zobumnandi kunye nomlinganisi. Umntwana onesimo esibuthakathaka senkqubo yesantya unomngcipheko ongezantsi wobuthakathi - umzekelo, uphazamiseka ngakumbi ngomsindo, ukukhanya okukhanyayo, izwi elikhulu. Abantwana abanjalo bayaqhubeka besengozini. Okwesibini, ububele bubaluleke kakhulu. Phantse njalo, ubuncinane umzali omnye unokukhumbula ukuba yena ngokwakhe wafumana into enjalo ebuntwaneni, wayenomdla kakhulu. Thina, ngenye indlela, sizuze iimpawu zesimiso seentsholongwane sabazali. Kodwa abazali banokudlulisa ukwesaba kwabo abantwana ngokungazi. Ngokomzekelo, umama, ejongene nokuxhalabisa kwiindawo ezikufutshane, engaqinisekanga isandla sesana xa engena kwi-elevator. Ugalela isandla esinye kunye (kunye nokungazi), ukhangele ngokukhawuleza kwiingcango zekhabhi aze avule. Akudingeki ukuba athi uloyiko-nangaliphi na ixesha eli-crumb liya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza oku ngaphandle kwamagama. Into yesithathu ekuphuhlisweni kweentsilelo ziyimpawu zokukhuliswa kwaye, ngokubanzi, imeko yentsapho. Kwaye kwinqanaba elijongene nobungozi, bobabini abangenayo ingqalelo (i-hypoopeak), kunye nabo abo abazali abazange banike ithuba lokuphefumula ngokuzimeleyo. Umoya opholileyo wentsapho, apho kubonakala ngathi ingqalelo, kodwa isenalo imvakalelo efudumele, iyingozi. "Ewe, asiphakamisi amazwi kuwo, ziphi na iingcinezelo," abazali bethetha, bengayazi ukuba oku mhlawumbi kukuxinzelelekileyo. Ukuze sizive sithandwa, kufuneka sibone umdla. Ukuqwalaselwa ngokusemthethweni kuyaphazanyisa, kubangela ukunyanzeliswa, ukungabi nthando. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, into yokugqibela (ngokulandelelana, kodwa engabalulekanga) yiyo imicimbi engalunganga. Nangona umntwana oqinileyo ngohlobo lwenkqubo ye-nervous angalimala ngenxa yongcinezelo oluninzi.
Uncedo
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali ngokwabo ngokunyanisekileyo kuthathwa njengengxaki kwaye balwa nalo. Yaye le mpazamo enkulu. Kubalulekile ukucinga malunga nomntwana womntwana ngokubanzi, kungabandakanyi izinto ezinokubangela ukuba, ulungele ubomi bakhe. Nangona umsebenzi uqala ngokutyelela kwi-neurologist: ngamanye amaxesha izenzo ezinokuthi zingabonakalisa isifo, sinokumisela kuphela ugqirha. Ukunyaniseka kwakho, isimo sengqondo esibi siza kuphazamisa ingxaki. "Ewe, bangaphi abanako! Amagunya okuyijonga ayikho! "-bambelela ukuba ufuna ukuthetha into enje, kwaye ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ucaphukile, shiya kwigumbi kwaye ungakhangeli (ungaphulaphuli). Ukuba umntwana oneminyaka enjalo ukuba yena ngokwakhe unokuphatha kakubi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha, ungayisebenzisi (ukuhlazeka, uqinisekise ukuba "abantu bajonge"). Ngokuchaseneyo - kholisa ukuba akukho nto iyingozi kulo, ukuba abantu baneengxaki ezahlukileyo. Oku akuyi kunyusa ukubonakaliswa kwezenzo ezigqithisileyo, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kuncitshiswa. Emva kwayo yonke indawo, ngamanye amaxesha ukugqithisa (amanqaku amaninzi), ukwesaba ukulinda ("Andiyi kuqala ukwenza oku kwi-kindergarten, esitalatweni") iyaphazamisa kwaye ibangela ukutshatyalaliswa kwetics entsha. Isangqa esilungileyo senziwa. Isimo esibaluleke kakhulu sokuphulukisa kukunxibelelana nomntwana. Mthobele ngandlela-thile: udlala imidlalo kunye, uquka imisebenzi yasekhaya, udwebe, ufunde, udlale ngaphandle ngaphandle kokubamba, uhlale phantsi komnye xa ubukela iTV. Kulula kakhulu, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo olu hlobo lwe-psychotherapy luyasebenza kakhulu.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba abafana banenkxalabo kwaye bahlala bexhalaba (malunga namaxesha amathathu) kunamantombazana, nangona kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyahluke. Amaxesha amantombazana athetha ukuxhalaba, ukwesaba, ukukhala ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kunye namakhwenkwe afihlakeleyo ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ngoko a makhwenkwe afuna konke oku "ukunyameka" kungekhona ngaphantsi - ukubenza baqinisekise ukuphelisa i-tics ngamandla yamandla ("Ungumntu!") Akasayi kusebenza. Imisebenzi ekhethekileyo neyodwa. Umzekelo, umzobo odibeneyo kunye nabazali, nabanye abantwana baya kukhuthaza uphuhliso lwezakhono zonxibelelwano, ukunciphisa ukwesaba ekunxibelelaneni. Okanye ukwakhiwa kweenganekwane, xa umntwana eqhubeka nebali eliqalwe nguwe, ebonisa iingcinga zakhe kuyo. Ukuba le nto ibonakala ibuhlungu kakhulu, umxelela into yakho, apho, ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke into iphelile kakuhle. Eyona nto inceda imidlalo kunye nomsebenzi wendlela yokuqhuba imoto kunoma yiphina ifomu. Nangona nje udlala iinqwelo zeqhankqalazi okanye ulungiselele iimfazwe ngeemithwalo, oku kunomphumo omuhle kwiimeko zengqondo-kunceda ekunciphiseni ukuxhatshazwa, kwandisa ukuzithemba. Imidlalo "eyiyo" - ukubhukuda, iimbaleko, ukukhwabanisa imifanekiso kunye nokunye-kubonwa ngabantwana ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo (kuxhomekeke kumqeqeshi nakwinqanaba lemithwalo), ngoko ke ngokukhethekileyo ukukhetha. Kwaye, ke, into ephambili yintsapho yasekhaya. Uvuyo oluthe xaxa, iimvakalelo ezikhuthazayo, inkxaso kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba ebomini komnye nomnye onayo endlwini, amathuba okuba umntwana uya kuba nempilo kwaye azinze ngengqondo.