Ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi akuyona indlela elula yokufumana iqabane elungileyo lobuhlobo, uthando okanye intsapho. Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba akuyena wonke umntu onenhlanhla ngale nto. Kutheni? Mhlawumbi, kungenxa yokuba ungaboni umntu obizwa ngokuthi "bukhoma", ngoko ke awukwazi ukwenza uluvo olupheleleyo nolungileyo kuye. Abantu kwiintanethi zoluntu - izigidi. Ukufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo okanye iqabane, sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso.
Beka kwiphepha lakho ifoto eyimpumelelo kakhulu, kwaye ihamba ngokutsha. Akukhuthazwa ukuba uthumele umfanekiso ongenanto kwaye ubuncinane bengubo: ukukhawuleza kwabo bafuna kuphela ngesondo kuphela. Ukuba unesisindo esingaphezulu, kuya kuba bubulumko ukuba ufotozwe nge-akhawunti engapheli ngokugcwele, kodwa kumagxa. Xa kubonisana nomntu othakazelisayo uqala, xa ubuhlobo bubonakala buthembisa kuwe, bhekise kuye (okanye) ukuba awuyena umthi omncinci. Ukuba umntu sele esele aqonda iimpawu zakho zangaphakathi, uvelwano nemisebenzi yakho yokuzilibazisa kunye nemigaqo yokuphila, uya kuphazamisa ulwazi malunga nobukhulu ngokunyaniseka.
Gcwalisa ifom kwi-akhawunti yakho ngeenkcukacha ezininzi njengoko kunokwenzeka. Oku kuya kukusindisa kwiinkcukacha ezingadingekile, ezingathandekiyo: abo abangathandi iphrofayili yakho abayi kuqalisa ukuthetha. Kodwa xa umntu ethanda ulwazi kwaye (yena) uqala ukubhalela kuwe, sinokugqiba ukuba iziganeko zokungalingani ncam Kwaye ukwenza amanyathelo alandelayo kumhlobo okanye uthando kumnandi.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu kwiindawo zokuthandana abanomdla wokukucaphukisa, ukuhlekisa okanye i-nahamit. Ungazami ukuphendula! Ungayithobeli imilayezo enjalo uze ufake ezi ntlekele kwiluhlu olumnyama. Kutheni kuphazamise isimo sakho sengqondo, ukufumana ubuhlobo okanye ukuzama "ukubeka" abaphulaphuli?
Buza imibuzo eninzi kulabo abathanda wena. Luhlobo luni lomsebenzi? Sisiphi isimo sengqondo kunqulo? Ukwakha intsapho? Ziziphi amaphupha akho? Ziziphi iiklasi ngeveki? Nezinto nezinto. Nangona ezinye zeemfihlo zakho zingxamanga ukuvula (umzekelo, inqanaba lemali engenayo okanye, masithi, isizathu esivakalayo sokuqhawula umtshato). Ungazifundi nje kuphela iingxaki kodwa kunye nokuqhelana nolwazi olutsha (umhlobo). Mhlawumbi umntu udla ngokusela. Baya kutshaya. Okanye ngokungathandabuzeki ibhekisela kwibandla apho uhamba khona ixesha elide. Awuthandi? Emva koko musa ukuchitha ixesha kwizonxibelelwano, khangela abantu abafanelekileyo kuwe.
Ukuba ukholelwa kwiinkwenkwezi, kufuneka uqaphele ukuhambelana nomqondiso wakho wezodiacal kunye nemiqondiso yabenzi bezicelo. Kukho inhlanganisela ehambelanayo, kukho ezimbalwa, kwaye kukho ukuchasene. Ngaloo ndlela, imiqondiso yezinto ezifanayo kunye nezihambelanayo zihlangene ngempumelelo: umzekelo, umlilo ngomlilo nomlilo ngomoya. Kuyo nayiphi na incwadi yesithenjwa seenkwenkwezi ungayifumana ulwazi malunga nalokhu.
Ungakulibala ukubuza abo ubathandayo, umbuzo onjalo: "Yaye yintoni iqabane elihle kuwe (iqabane)?". Yenza isigqibo malunga nokuba uyaqhubeka nokubhala. Emva koko, kuyona luncedo ngakumbi ukufumanisa ukuba uhlangabezana kangakanani neemfuno zomntu kunokuba ufumene inyaniso ekupheleni-kwaye uqonde ukuba awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nokufanelekileyo. Ngokukhawuleza udinga iqabane (okanye iqabane) ukuba ufundise abantwana, kwaye awulungele ukuyeka inkululeko yakho kwiminyaka ezayo? Okanye, ukuba uyintombazana, ngesizathu esithile asikwazi ukuzala umntwana?
Yenza uncomelo kumhlobo okanye omaziyo. Enyanisekileyo kuphela. Ukudumisa kuphakamisa iimvakalelo ezintle - kunye neenkcukacha ziba nethemba ngakumbi kwaye zithande.
Ingaba le nto sele ihamba ngomhla? Mkhulu! Kodwa - uyibuyisele ixesha elithile. Ngaphambi kokudibana, thetha kwifowuni (ilizwi kunye nentetho onokuyithanda ukuba umntu ufanelekile). Okanye-nokuba ngcono - nge-webcam. Kuphela xa ugqibazela ukuba ufuna ukuhamba ngosuku kwaye uyayazi kakuhle umntu, kufuneka uxoxisane nentlanganiso. Oku kuya kukusindisa ekudumeni. Amantombazana kufuneka akhumbule ukuba ukhuseleko aluzange lubuhlungu: vumela ukuba intlanganiso iqhutywe kwindawo exubileyo (kwi-cafe, kwindawo yokutyela, kumboniso we-movie okanye, kothi, embonisweni), kungekhona kwindlu. Tshela intsapho yakho okanye intombi apho uhamba naye.
Kwaye okokugqibela. Musa ukulungela "ukhetho" lokukhetha. Kamva, uyazisola ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba uqhagamshelane nomntu ongafanelekanga. Qhubeka uphendlo lobuhlobo okanye uthando, khetha okulungileyo kuwe! Emva koko fumana iziphumo ezilungileyo.