Iingxaki zobudlelwane bomtshato

"Hayi, le mitshato, umtshato wahlabelela waza wadansa ...." Ziziphi izikhumbuzo ezimnandi zomtshato, ezivela kumtshato ngaphambi komtshato, yonke into yayigqibelele. Uphi ulwalamano oluya phi, i-idyll yobudlelwane bakho. Kutheni, emva komtshato, yonke into iyahluka, ngokuqinisekileyo kungekudala emva kobusuku bomtshato. Kuphela ngeminyaka iingxaki zobudlelwane bomtshato zibonakaliswa rhoqo. Uthando lwenqanawa luye lwasondela kummandla wobomi bemihla ngemihla kunye nokungaqondi phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ingxaki engxamisekileyo yentsapho yomtshato kukuba ukungabikho kwemali kakhulu. Umfazi wam uqala ukumbona umyeni wakhe, ukuze athole imali encinci. Nangona ndathi ndatshata naye ndayazi kakuhle ukuba kwakungengenxa ye-oligarch ephuma ngaphandle, kodwa kumsebenzi kumveliso wendawo okanye umqhubi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani, into eyona nto wayaziyo kukuba wayengenayo inzuzo enkulu. Xa sele esatshatile, umfazi ucinga ukuba intsapho yakhe yaqubuka ngokukhawuleza kwaye uya kuhamba ngeengubo ze-mink kunye neadayimane. Kodwa oku akukwenzeka kwaye uqala ukunyelisa umyeni wakhe ukuze acinge ngendlela yokondla intsapho yakhe. Oku kudlule ngokuchanekileyo, ukuba umyeni wakho akasebenzi, kodwa uhlala kwiTV kwaye uqonda ngokungahambi kakuhle kwiphephandaba malunga nomsebenzi, ngokubhekiselele ekubeni akonelelwanga nalo mvuzo omncinci anikezelwayo, okanye intloko inesiqingatha. Emva koko kufuneka ufune umyeni wakho ukuba afumane umsebenzi kwaye anike inkxaso intsapho, apho unelungelo lokumthuka ngenxa yokungenzi.
Iingxaki zobume bomtshato azikho kuphela kwisicwangciso sezinto eziphathekayo, kodwa nakwiimeko zokuziphatha. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo intsapho ibaleka malunga nokuzonwabisa kwentsapho, kaninzi umyeni uqala ukuthetha amazwi amnandi kumfazi wakhe, ukumnika ukuncoma, ukubonisa umbala kungekuphela ngo-Matshi 8, kodwa nje ngokugqithiswa komphefumlo. Iqabane lilibala ngokubonakala kwakhe, liyeka ukudumisa umfazi ngenxa yokuba unjalo kwihlabathi. Yonke le nto izisa ubanda phakathi kobudlelwane kunye nomyeni nomfazi bahluke komnye ngaphandle kokuqaphela. Kulo mzuzwana into enyantyikisayo eyenzekayo, indoda ingakwazi ukuhamba okanye ukusela. Ukuba ibhinqa liyakwazi ukunyamezela nokukhalaza kubahlobo malunga nendoda yakhe, ngoko indoda ayiyi kukhononda kubahlobo, ifunyanwa apho ifunyanwa yintlungu. Emva koko, intlanzi ibheka, phi izulu, kodwa indoda ingcono.

Xa abantwana bezalwa, kwakhona umbuzo uvela ekukhuliseni kwabo. Umama usoloko evalela umntwana wakhe, kwaye ubawo uzama ukukhupha ngokuchanekileyo, uhlwaye iphoso. Ukuze kungabi ngenye inkathazo yobudlelwane bomtshato, indoda kunye nomfazi kufuneka bafumane uhlobo lokunciphisa, kodwa kungekhona phambi koonyana. Qonda ukuba ngubani na ukuba ufuna ukukhulisa abantwana, ukuze uyise angalahlekelwa isithunzi emehlweni abantwana bakhe, umama akafanele akhuphuke ekukhuliseni kwakhe. Emva koko, ngokubanzi, indoda iya kuhlala iyintloko yentsapho.

Enye yeengxaki ezingaxilwanga ngezikhathi zonke ubuhlobo nomamazana nomkhwekazi. Ewe, ukuba konke kulungile apha, ubuhlobo bentsapho buya kuphumelela. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, kunye nomntu osuka oomama abathandana nomama okanye noninazala baya kubandakanyeka kwiintsapho zobudlelwane. Emva koko simele sijonge indlela yokuphuma kwimeko, ukuzama ukuqonda umamazala, naye, unomphefumlo nentliziyo. Akafuni ukwenza into embi, kodwa uyamthanda kakhulu unyana wakhe, kwaye umkhwe wakhe usoloko enza konke okungalunganga. Xa umama-mkhwenkwe eqala ukuthetha, ufuna nje ukummangalisa kwaye uvumelane, uyavumelana nayo yonke into ayithethayo. Yaye uzame ukwenza abahlobo naye, kaninzi ukucela iingcebiso ngendlela engcono ngayo ukwenza oku okanye oko. Nantsi indoda iya kuba nexesha elinzima, yena nomkakhe abakwazi ukuqonda oko ahlala efuna kuye, kunye nomama nomthetho nangakumbi. Uninazala usoloko ehlazilela intombi yakhe, lonke ixesha elithi umyeni wakhe uwile kungenanto. Umama-mkhwenyana unokwakheka kwaye ubonise ukuba ufanelekile intombi yakhe.

Kunokwenzeka ukubala iingxaki ezininzi zobume bomtshato, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukho konke ukuthanda nokuthandana kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kwiofisi yeRejista ufungile omnye nomnye ukuba ube kunye nosizi kunye novuyo, ekuguleni nasempilweni.