Sonke sifuna ukuqonda, ubudlelwane obuthembayo. Impumelelo yedwa, enoba akukho mntu wabelane ngayo - oku yiyona nto inzima kakhulu "yindoda" engumntu kuphela onokuyifumana. Intlungu engabikho mntu kufuneka ayithulule yona ngumthwalo onzima kakhulu. Yingakho ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu baxabiswa kakhulu.
Kodwa ekuphandeleni ubuhlobo obusenyongweni nobudlelwane obusondeleyo, unakho kwaye uhlupheke- phakathi kwabantu kukho ubudlelwane obunokuthi bube nje "buso". Bahlobo, abahlobo kunye namantombazana, intlwana kunye nabo - nantoni na eyenzekayo.
Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha isitha esona sithandwa kakhulu siyakonwaba intlungu yakho ukuze umntu athathe inkxaso okanye "ikhatywe" elinde ixesha elide ukuphuma kuloo meko. Ngexesha elifanayo, umhlobo osondeleyo owaziyo naye ebuntwaneni - unganikeli ukufudumala kunye nenkxaso enyanzelekile ...
Ngubani ozokwakha?
Ubudlelwane, ngokugqithiseleyo, kwakha. Ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye ngokuchanekileyo. Ewe, kuyavakala ukuba kuyinto elula - "ukwakha", ukubala, xa isiphumo kufuneka sibe sisondelelo kunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Kodwa enyanisweni, akukho nto engekho yendalo kule ndawo - ngandlela-thile sidala isangqa soqhagamshelwano, makumxelele omnye umntu kunye nathi aze aphephe abanye.
Lwethu ulindele
Fumana kulwalamano yinto esiyidingayo - kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ilula. Nangona kunjalo, sidinga yonke imihla (kunye neyure) eyahlukileyo. Ngaloo ndlela:
- inkxaso
- kuvunywa kwezenzo zethu
- nya mekela
- "ukukhaba" ngexesha
- thuzelo
- umdla kuthi
- umdla wethu ngomnye umntu
- ulwazi olutsha
- ngethuba elingavamile.
Ukwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu yisayensi yonke. Ngubani okufanele sixoxe naye, kwaye ngubani, ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka 'sigcine amehlo ethu evulekile'? Masizame ukuhamba ngeentlobo eziphambili zolwazi oza kuzizalisa ngazo
Bahlobo. Sizama ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nobudlelwane nabo, kodwa phakathi kwabantu emsebenzini, ubudlelwane bavame ukuveliswa yimveliso kunokuba zifudumale. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba isabelo "sokufudumala" kunye neentlangano "ezinobungcipheko" zeeyi kunye nekhofi ziza kuba zikhulu kunesisombululo semicimbi yokuvelisa - inkampani inokugxotha abathethi-ntetho-ntetho, kwaye ngokubanzi bayeke ukuba khona.
Native. Ngelishwa, kukho iimeko ezinqabileyo xa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nobuhlobo kusekwa phakathi kwabantu abadibene negazi. Baye bacinga ukuba "ngubani na ukuba" akayena nje umama kunye noodade, kodwa kunye nabazalwana, oomama, oomakhulukazi kunye nabazukulu ... Kanti ngezinye izihlandlo uThixo unikela ubulumko kwizihlobo zegazi ukuze athathe isizwe esithandwa ngumntu, kwaye kungekhona i-prism yeengcamango zabo. Kwaye apho, apho amafantasi athembela khona ngokwenene, ngokubanzi, malunga nobudlelwane obusondeleyo okanye obusondeleyo.
Abaqhelana nabo. Abahambi kunye nabanye abantu abanomdla kunye nabantu abanokuxhamla nabo badla ngokukhawuleza. Uhambo oludibeneyo lokuphumla, indawo yokuhlala kwiihostela ezikufutshane, ukutshintshwa kwexesha elide kwibhasi eliphakathi okanye kwindawo yesitimela, kwaye nangona-sonke esi sizathu esihle sokuhlangana. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukucaphukisa ukuba kwezinye iimeko uye wakwazi ukuba nencoko enomdla, kodwa kwabanye - hayi. Ekhaya, kwindawo ekhululekile kwaye ekhululekile, unokuba ungafuni ukuqhubeka uqhelana. Inomdla kwabanye abahambahambayo iyafa ngokuthe ngqo kumgama oseleyo kwisixeko esikuzo - kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, nakuwuphi na umgaqo kukho indawo enomdla, kodwa ngaphandle kokungalindelanga.
Abahlobo bamhlobo. Olu hlobo lwabahlobo lukhulu kakhulu kubantu abangaqhelekanga. Kwingqungquthela jikelele, wena, owokuqala, ngokuqhelekileyo uyazi abantu abatsha, kwaye okwesibini - ungakhetha kwiqela elikhulu labantu onomdla. Yaye kunye nabantu abanjalo basondelene, ubudlelwane obufudumele bokuncedana kunye nokuqonda kunokuxinwa. Ngamanye amaxesha abahlobo bethu bayazi ngokusondeleyo kwaye kungekhona kwicala elifanelekileyo. Umhlobo omtsha kule ntlupheko ubhetele kunabo babini abadala. Akakaliva "amaqhina" akho amahlaya kwaye akazange azame "isidlo esinexabiso". Njengowe - engazi kakuhle ubomi bakhe, edlulileyo, amacala. Kwaye le sizathu esihle sokuba "iimbuthano" zokudibanisa itiye kunye nentetho-tete!
Abahlobo babantwana. Ngelishwa, asiyikukhula nje - siyatshintsha. Ngokweminyaka, iimfuno ezintsha, imikhwa kunye neengcamango malunga nokuguqula ubomi. Ngoko, ulwalamano no-Masha oluvela kwi-kindergarten №123 luyakwazi ukuqhubela phambili, kodwa kumzila walo, kwaye umise "ngokungenasidingo." Emva koko, ukuba injongo kunye nesiseko sobudlelwane obunjalo kukukhumbula izihlandlo zamandulo ngezikhathi ezithile, uya kufuna ukuhlangana kunye ngonyaka. Kwaye akukho buhlobo obungenakufudumala, obunomdla kwaye buzele, ukuba kuninzi ongabumbani.
Bonke abahlobo bahle - khetha intle!
Bonke abahlobo bahluke kubahlobo nabangaphambili kunye nabahlobo. Ngoko ke, ukusebenzisana ixesha elide nomntu, kungekudala okanye kamva kufuneka ukhethe. Ingaba ubuhlobo buhlala "njengokuba" - umzekelo, onobubele, ongenasiphelo, okanye okaphule. Okanye, ukuba kukho na amanqaku oqhagamshelwano, ungawadlulisela kwiqela elifutshane kunye nobungane. Kakade, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kufuneka usebenze, uqaphele kwaye ngokukhawuleza ululaza "iingqungquthela ezibukhali", unomdla kwaye unomdla wokwenene kulo mntu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuvumela izinto zihambe ngokwazo, kulula kakhulu ukufumana amantombazana-amaqhinga angamaqhinga kunye namantombazana. Kodwa awukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nabo ...