Kukho iingcali kwi-hypnosis kunye ne-trance ezikwazi ukwenza umfana onothando nawe. Kwimeko yesimo somzimba, babuyisela imeko yothando baze batshintshe le mkhumbuzo ibe yinyaniso. Kodwa thina ngabantu abaqhelekileyo. Ngaba sinokufunda ukuthanda thina bantu? Emva kwakho konke, kufuneka ukuba wadibana nabantu abanjalo abangabandakanyekanga, ngamanye amaxesha bengayazi, bangela ukuvakalelwa ngothando nabanye abantu.
Ukuba ulandela indlela yethu, unokubangela uthando kumntu xa udibana nawe kwaye kungekhona nje kuphela ukuba umfana akaqondi kwaye akayi kuqaphela indlela eya kuba ngayo kwiintanethi zakho.
Indlela yokwenza umntu athande ngayo nawe?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uziqonde ngemigaqo-siseko yothando nothando, kuba kusekelwe kuyo yonke imigaqo.Umgaqo wokuqala: Umntu ongenalo uthando ngomnye umntu njengolu hlobo, kodwa ngomfanekiso awenzayo ekuqapheliseni umnxibelelwano.
Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uvele ubonakale uphelele, kwaye akufuneki ukuba uphelele. Kwaye lo mfanekiso uyadalwa ngokuziphatha kwethu.
Umgaqo wesibini: Indoda iyakuthandana nemfihlelo, kumntu onokumfihlakeleyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuphumelela ekubeni nabafana bewuthandana nawe, kufuneka kube yimfihlo kuwe, imfihlelo, into engagqitywanga. Iimfihlelo ezingakumbi, ngcono. Emva koko, intombazana engaqondakaliyo iyabonakalisa ngakumbi kunomntu olula kakhulu kwaye ngubani ongasoloko ebonwa ngaphambili.
Umgaqo we-3-rd: Uthando lwabafana abanakho ukufikelela. Inokungenakulinganiswa kuwo wonke umntu, akukho mntu unomdla kwaye akanakho nantoni.
Umgaqo wesi-4: Xa umntu ewela ngothando, ufuna ukwenza into enhle kumntu othandekayo, ngokungazingcongi kwaye engenakufuna into ethile ngokubuyisela.
Umgaqo wesihlanu: Ukwenza umfana athande nothando, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba uthetha kancinci kuye kunokuba akwenzile kuwe. Emva koko uya kukwenza okungakumbi.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba umfana ewa ngothando. Ezi ziqhelekileyo zezi zizathu ezilandelayo:
- Ixesha lokuba lihlale luthando. Abanye abantu bafuna nje ukuthandana, bafuna ukuvakalelwa ngothando, kuba lixesha.
- Isidingo sokuqonda. Wonke umntu unesidingo sokuqondwa. Oku, nesizathu sokuba kutheni umntu ekhangela umntu.
- Isidingo semvakalelo. Abantu abaninzi banesidingo sokonwaba okanye ukubandezeleka. Ewe, ewe, kukubandezeleka. Yingakho abantu abalungileyo bekhethela bona "bafana" kunye nokunye, thina, ntombazana, sizikhethele "ababi". Ngaloo ndlela, i-gap igcwaliswa kwiimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezenzeka kuthi.
- Imfuno yokukhusela umntu (kumadoda) okanye imfuno yokukhuselwa (kubafazi). Le mfuneko ihambelana nemvelo ngokwayo kuwo wonke umntu. Indoda ifuna ukukhusela ibhinqa, ibhinqa lifuna ukufumana indoda enamandla, ukuze ikhusele.
- Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba intombazana okanye umfana ebona ukuba into yakhe yokuqwalasela ifuna ukuthetha nomnye intombazana / omnye umfana, ngoko uvakalelwa ukhuphiswano, uyathandana ngesizathu sokungakwazi ukufikelela. Ikhwele iphinda isebenze njengesizathu sokuthandana.
Ngoko, ukuba ufuna ukuthandana nomfana, kufuneka ufake ekuqondeni kwakhe ukubaluleka kwakho, intanda yakho, kwaye umenze enze ukoyika ukulahlekelwa nguwe.
Kule ndlela kukho indlela esiyibiza ngokuthi "Ukuziphatha komvuzo."
Kuyimfuneko ukuba loo mfana abe nevakalelo lokuba intombazana inenani elaneleyo lamalingani kunye nokuba unokhetho. Intombazana kufuneka imvumele umntu azi ukuba unento enokuyenza kwaye ukuba unomdla kwabanye abantu, ukuba abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuthetha naye.
Ngokomzekelo, unokuthi: "Umhlobo wam wandithumbile kwintlanganiso, kwaye sasiyifumene ingozi. Uqhuba kakubi kakhulu. Ngexesha elizayo andiyi kuhamba naye, ndiya kucela omnye umntu. "
Kule binzana intombazana ixelela umfana ukuba ubuncinane abahlobo bobulili obuhlukile, nangaphezulu, ukulungele ukumzisa.
Okanye kuyimfuneko ukuba uthi: "Umhlobo wam unomngcipheko. Ngenxa yakhe, amabhinqa amabini axabana kwaye alwa, kwaye uyabaphatha kakuhle babini - njengabahlobo abalungileyo. Ndade ndaziphangazela oku. Kutheni nina madoda anjalo? ... "
Ngaphandle kwamehlo enqabileyo ungabona ukuba oku kuluphawu. Kwakhona uthi ufuna ubuncinane abantu ababini. Ngoko ke, uxabiseke ngesini esahlukileyo.
Kwakhona, ukuba umfana wenza into engathandekiyo, unokuthi: "Xa wenza oku, uyazibulala ngokukhawuleza iimvakalelo kum."
Ngeli binzana, ubonisa umntu onokukulahleka ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okungafunekiyo. Ngenxa yoko, uya kuyika ukulahlekelwa nguwe, kwaye uzakuzama ukulungisa.