Mhlawumbi, ayikho iresiphi efanelekileyo yokuziphatha kakuhle kulwalamano. Imeko nganye ngumntu ngamnye, umntu ngamnye ufuna iimfuno zakhe.
Zama ukuba lula kumnxibelelwano, umhlobo kwaye usoloko unomdla. Musa ukumlayisha umntu ngeengxaki zakho. Zama ngobuqotho ukwabelana naye ngezinto ezithandwayo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo. Yilowo nalowo ntlanganiso mayibe yeholide.
Kufuneka ukuba uziphathe kakuhle ukususela ekuqaleni. Vumela inyulo ivela kumhla wokuqala kumntu, kwaye ungenakuthetha "uthele ioli phezu komlilo" kwaye uphazamise ukuthanda kwayo. Intombazana ebonakala ngathi inomdla ekunxibelelaneni, kwaye ibonakala ingathandabuzekiyo encinci, iya kubangela umdla ngaphezu komntu obeka ngokukhawuleza onke amakhadi etafile waza wamvuma uthando lwakhe ngonaphakade naphakade. Amadoda atyathwa kwizinto ezifunekayo ukuba zithelwe. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza kuyacaca ukuba intombazana ilungele ukunyamezela yonke into, ingenakuyithakazelisa nayo.
Ukuziphatha ngobuhlobo obudinga ukuzingca ngokwaneleyo, kodwa kungabi ngokuzingca. Yonke intombazana kufuneka ihloniphe. Ukuba, ngexesha lomdlalo, insizwa iyakucaphukisa ngandlela-thile, kulungile ukulinda ixesha elide ade yena eze kuwe kwaye akaxolise, kunokuba enze ngathi kungenakwenzeka into elandelayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungazange unamathele kuye.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, impendulo kuzo zonke izenzo kufuneka zihlale zanele. Imeko iyahluke, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ubize kuqala uze uphonsa ibhuloho yokunxibelelana.
Khuthaza loo mntu ukuba akunike iimpawu zokunakwa, ukuzalisekisa izinto zakho ezincinci. Oku kuya kumfundisa ngemfanelo, mfundise ukuba akunyamekele. Musa nje ukuyithwala. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu ufuna uthando nothando. Ungesabi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho kumntu okhethiweyo. Kubalulekile ukufumana umgangatho ophakathi phakathi kobugovu nokuzihlambulula.
Akuyimfuneko ukuba ibe yimfihlakalo njenge-Fermat's theorem kunye nokubanda njengendlovukazi yekhephu. Bonisa umdla onyanisekileyo kumntu, mxelele ukuba uyavuya kwaye uyonwabile ukuchitha ixesha kunye naye kwaye ube nexesha elifanayo elingenakufumaneka.
Zama ukukhohlisa, udibanise ingcamango yomntu kwaye ungatyi ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza ukuba ulwalamano olusondeleyo. Umgudu owenzayo ukukufezekisa, uya kuqonda ngakumbi.
Ukuba kukho iingxaki, soloko uzama ukuthetha nomthandayo. Ukuhlala ngokubukeka kakubi okanye ukubeka umona onobukhwele akuyona indlela efanelekileyo. Zama ukungaqhubeki i-scandals ephezulu. Intombazana ethandekayo neyinyanisekileyo iya kufumana indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu.
Kwinkqubo yokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane, zama ukuba ngumntu othembekileyo emva komntu. Mxelele ukuba ukuba ufuna, unokuthetha naye nangayiphi na isihloko, kwaye ukuba akafuni, akayi kuphazamiseka imibuzo engathandekiyo. Amadoda ayithandi ukuvuma ukungaphumeleli kwawo, kwaye ukuba intombazana ayifuni izihloko ezibuhlungu, kodwa iya kubonisa konke ukubonakala kwayo, njengoko ithembele kwizakhono zomntu okhethiweyo, ngoko ke amadoda omabili aya kuzuza kuphela. Kutheni amanye amadoda ephula kwaye esela? Ngenxa yokuba abanye abafazi bahlala bebabona, bafuna ezininzi kwaye bahlala besithi balahlekile.
Kufuneka ube ngumva, kodwa kungekhona isithunzi. Kufuneka uhlale uqaqambile kwaye ukhangeleka njengomhla odibana nawo. Makhe umntu abone abanye bekhangele intombi yakhe, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba intombi yakhe ayiyi kuhamba ngakwesobunxele.
Ngezenzo zakho, khuthaza loo mntu ngengcamango yokuba akayi kufumana umntu olungcono kunawe. Yiphakamise ngento enhle, yenze umoya okhululekile ujikeleze wena. Yiba ngumoya womoya omtsha emva komhla ocolileyo. Makhe ayibale yonke into nawe.
Khawujonge umama. Ngeendlela ezininzi, umgangatho wokuziphatha kwabafazi ubonakala ngumntu kuwo. Ukuqwalasela indlela aziphatha ngayo, ukuthetha kunye nokunyamekela unyana wakhe usetyenziselwa ntoni.
Phawula indlela abahlobo bakho abaziphatha ngayo ubudlelwane, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo qaphela ukuba awukopishi iimpazamo kwiintsebenzo zakho. Umzekelo omhle uhlala ukhombisa.
Ngobudlelwane phakathi kwababini, amaqela asithathu akufanele aphazamise. Soloko usombulula iingxaki zakho. Ungavumeli abahlobo bakho badibane kunye neengcebiso zabo. Ungalokothi ulawule ukuba kungenzeka ukuba abanalo iinjongo ezintle.
Zama ukuzibeka endaweni yakhe, zama ukujonga imeko ngamehlo akhe. Indlela enjalo iya kunceda ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo ukulwa nolwalamano kunye nokukhusela malunga neengcamango eziphathekayo.
Mamela intliziyo yakho. Kungcono kuneencwadi ezisebenzayo kunye neengqondo zengqondo ukuxelela indlela yokuqhubeka. Yaye khumbula, kuhlale kukuhle ukuzisola ngezinto ozenzileyo kunokuba ungenzanga.