Indlela yokusinda umtshato?

Xa siqala ulwalamano olutsha, sicinga malunga nantoni na, kodwa kungekhona malunga nekhefu. Xa sifika kwi-ofisi yeRejista, ngamnye wethu ufuna ukukholelwa ukuba okwesibini akayi kubuya khona. Sivame ukuzicingela thina, bathandekayo, ihlabathi, ngoko ke ubomi buhlala bubonakalisa izinto ezintle. Ukwahlukana ngumnye wabo.
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba baphile ngokuqhawula umtshato kunye nelahleko ezincinci. Asiyi kuthetha ngemimiselo yomtshato, makhe sikhulume ngombono wengqondo, apho kwiimeko ezinqabileyo zingabizwa ngokuhle emva kwesi siganeko.


Umthetho wenombolo 1. Musa ukujonga emva.
Into eyenziwe yenziwe kwaye akukho kubuya. Ewe, naluphi na ulwalamano olunokubambisana kunye, kuya kuba nomnqweno, kodwa ngubani na oya kukwazi ukuzithemba la maqhekeza? Ixesha elichithwe emtshatweni lingaba lubi kwaye luhle, luhluke, kodwa ludlulile. Akufanelekile ukuhlala wedwa kunye neenkumbulo, kuba ubomi bokwenene buyenzeka namhlanje, ngoku, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukuyikhumbula.

Umthetho wenombolo 2. Ungazifumani ubuhlobo.
Umtshato ngamnye uya kuba nento ekuthetha ngayo emva komtshato. Kwathethwa kakhulu phambi kwakhe. Kodwa, njengoko kuyaziwa, emva kokulwa nemibhozo yabo abayitshati. Kulo mzuzwana kubalulekile ukuvumela ukuhamba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyi kuba ngawasemzini ngokukhawuleza, kodwa awusasondele. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ushiye zonke izikhalazo, iingxelo ezingabonakaliyo kwixesha elidlulileyo.

Umthetho wenombolo 3. Musa ukuzibandakanya ebomini.
Akuyimfuneko ukuqhubela amaqela anomsindo, ukufuna induduzo kwiiklabhu. Kuya kuphazamisa isikhashana, kodwa ke kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu. Yonke into evela kwimeko yokuba ebomini bentsapho sifunda ukuba yedwa kuthi, sifundiswa ukuhlala kunye neliso kumntu, kwaye le ntliziyo inokungazilindelekanga inokubetha iintloko zethu xa singakulungeli.
Kungcono ukulinda iiveki ezimbalwa kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ungene kwisigxina sobomi benkqonkqo.

Umthetho wenombolo 4. Musa ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza malunga neyokuqala.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonk 'ubani uya kufuna ukuxoxa kunye nabahlobo beli qabane elide, ukutshintsha konke ukusola kokuwa kobudlelwane bakho naye. Kodwa oku kungcono ukuba ungenzi. Okokuqala, abahlobo bakho sele beve ngokwaneleyo ngaye ngexesha lomtshato. Okwesibini, ngokuchitha ukuhleka nokukhwabanisa iinkcukacha zobomi bakho phambi kwabantu abangaziwayo, ubeka uxinzelelo lokuqala uxinzelelo.
Ngako-ke-thintela ukuphawula kwixesha langaphambili kwaye uphile ubomi bakho obutsha.

Umthetho wenombolo 5. Ungazami ukubuyela.
Emva kwithuba elithile, kuya kubonakala ngathi ufuna ukubuyisela ubuhlobo, nangona ubuhlungu obubangelelana. Musa ukutshatyalaliswa kwesi sizathu. Imbali iyayazi imizekelo emininzi, xa isibini esitshatileyo sadibana saza sachitha ezininzi izihlandlo, siphila ngenxa yobomi obonwabileyo. Mhlawumbi isibini sakho sibini sazo. Kodwa zinike ixesha lokupholisa kwaye ucinge ngenyameko. Ukuba umnqweno wokuzama kwakhona awuhambi ezintandathu ezintandathu, zama. Ukuba iyanyamalala ngeli xesha, kwakungekho nzame kwinqanaba lakho.

Umthetho wenombolo 6. Musa ukuqalisa uthando.
Ekuqaleni, emva kokuqhawula umtshato, ubudlelwane nabani na bekunqatshelwe. Unokutshatyalaliswa yedwa , uhluthe ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlala ungenalo uthando, izizathu zewaka. Kwaye akukho namnye kubo onzima kangangokuba uyavuma ukuthatha ingozi. Awukulungele okwamanje. Nangona ufuna ubudlelwane nakweyiphi na indleko, cinga ngomnye umntu. Akayikusola into yokuba ngoku kutshanje uye wafumana ukulimala kwaye akafanelanga ukuhlaselwa yinto yokuba uya kuguqula ubomi bakhe. Kwaye kuya kuba njalo: uya kuqhathanisa iqabane elitsha kunye naloo owayengumnye, mnike kuye amabango afanayo asetyenziswayo. Ukuze ulwalamano olutsha lube luvuyo, kufuneka kubekho ixesha kunye nentlungu.

Umgaqo 7. Dlala umdla wengqondo.
Ukusinda kwentlekele emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuya kuba ngeendlela ezininzi. Kutheni ungazami izinto eziqinisekisiweyo? Yenza isimemezelo somtshato, kodwa asiyilula, kodwa isekelwe kwiimpawu ezimbi zalabo bantu obenalo ubudlelwane obunzulu. Uya kufumana umfanekiso obonakalayo onokukunceda uqonde ukuba unenhlanhla kangakanani ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumlingane onjalo. Ukongezelela, uya kukwazi ukuba yiyiphi impawu akufanele ibe khona kwiqela elikhethiweyo.

Umthetho wenombolo 8. Thola ukulala ngokwaneleyo.
Ukulala kunye nexesha ngamayeza angcono. Zibophezele ukuba ulale, nangona ungazifuni. Ubusuku obuthongayo abuyona nto ingcono kunabo abafuna ukuhlawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Thatha ibhedi, siphuze ubisi olufudumele okanye itiye kunye nobusi, ungakhangeli uze ufunde ngaphambi kokulala nantoni na engayichaphazela kakhulu imvakalelo yakho. Xa ulala kakhulu ngeli xesha, ngokukhawuleza uza kubuya.

Umgaqo "uNombolo 9. Musa ukutywala ngotywala.
Ukwahlukana okunzulu kwixesha elizayo njengoko umtshato usisizathu sokusela, nangona ngaphambi kokuba ungazange utywala utywala. Le yingozi. Ukunyamezela okwethutyana ngokukhawuleza kunika indlela yokudandatheka okugqithiswa ngakumbi yintsimbi. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba uya kuba seyona ndawo. Ukwahlukana ngexesha elifanelekileyo lokuqala ubomi obutsha. Luhlobo luni lobomi oluya kuxhomekeka kuwe kuphela.

Umthetho wenombolo 10. Zi phu laphule.
Kuyizidenge ukuhamba emqaleni wakho kwingoma yakho. Ixesha liya kudlula, kwaye kwakhona ufuna ukujonga kakuhle, ukuzonwabisa, uthando nokuthandwa. Xa le mvakalelo ifika, ukukhulula inkululeko kwiingxaki ezidlulileyo ziya kuza. Kufanelekile ukusebenzisa ixesha kunye nokufumana inhlanhla ngomsila. Akukho mboniso enhle kunye nekhenkco kunokuba i-phoenix, yazalwa kwakhona emlonyeni. Kulo mzuzwana unjengaye kwaye unelungelo lokulindela isipho esivela kwixesha elimangalisayo.

Enyanisweni, ukusinda komtshato kunokulula. Into ephambili kukuba ufumane isandla kunye neemeko ngexesha. Ukuba unqwenela ukuzenza ubuthakathaka bakho, vumela ukuziphatha kakubi nokuziphatha kakubi, kuya kuba ngumkhwa kwaye akuyi kubakho utshintsho olulungileyo. Ukuba, emva kokuba uvumeleke ukunyanzeliswa ngokunyanisekileyo kwiiveki ezimbalwa, uthatha isigqibo sokuba wenze umgudu wokuba ngumntu onolisayo kwixesha elizayo, le migudu iya kuhlala ilungile. Nangona kunjalo, emva kweminyaka embalwa, la mava akayi kubaluleka, kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni kuwe ngeli xesha kuxhomekeke kuphela kwizinto ozimisele ukuzenza zona.