Usuvele uzigqibelele ukuba akukho nto kunye nokungathembeki ukuba uqhubeke nolwalamano lwakho, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba ngokumxelela ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bonke buphelile, uya kumlethela intlungu ebuhlungu. Indlela yokwenza ntoni kulo mzekelo? Makhe sijonge kule meko nzima.
Ukuqala, kufuneka ucinge ngezinto zonke kakuhle. Beka esikalini zonke iziqhamo kunye neengxaki. Cinga ngento echaphazela ukuthathwa kwesigqibo esinjalo. Ukuba nonke niyicingisise, yonke into isilinganisiwe kwaye niqinisekile ukuba akufanele uqhubeke nokuqhubeka nolwalamano, qinisa kwisigqibo sakho. Kodwa indlela yokuxelela umntu ukuba ubuhlobo buphelile? Kufuneka uzilungiselele ukuba le nkqubo iya kuba buhlungu kubo bobabini, kodwa kufuneka ufumane isibindi namandla okuphila konke.
Tshela loo ndoda ukuba ubuhlobo buyimfuneko ngaphezu komntu. Musa ukumbiza kwaye uthumele iisms. Olu khetho alusebenzi kule meko. Ungasebenzisi amagama amabileyo kunye namahlazo. Kubalulekile ukucacisa ngobuchule nangokuchanekileyo isizathu sokupheliswa kobudlelwane. Simele sizame, nangona oku kungenakukhutshwa, ukwenzela ukuba isilathisi esingathandekiyo sibe sisincinane kunokwenzeka. Ungazami ukuthabatha kwaye uphelelwe ebomini bakhe ngaphandle kwengcaciso ngokucima ifowuni. Ngaloo nto kuya kubonakala bububi, bukhohlakele kwaye buhlungu kakhulu kuye. Le ndlela iya kuba ngumthwalo kunye nesazela sakho.
Zama ukushiya ngokuthula, ngaphandle kwezinyembezi kunye nokuhlambalaza. Nangona kukho izizathu zolu, ixesha lokumangalelwa liye ladlulayo kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuluhlula ukwahlukana ngokucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nehlazo. Inzondo kunye nentukuthelo isoloko inempembelelo embi kwengqondo yakho.
Ukuqhathaniswa kusoloko kunzima.
Ukuba ulwalamano luphelile, lithetha ukuba ixesha eliphambili sele lifike.
Kubalulekile ukuxelela umntu ngokunyanisekileyo oko kukuthintele malunga nokwenza isigqibo malunga nokuhlukana. Musa ukuthula, ungazami ukugqithisa "iikona ezibukhali" - bhetele utshilo yonke into ngqo, kodwa uzama ukucaphukisa indoda njengento encinci.
Indlela elula kukuqokelela izinto zakho kwaye ushiye, kodwa kufuneka uvakalise imbono yakho yombono uze uqiniseke ukuba uphulaphule kwelinye icala. Indoda inento yokuthetha kuwe, kwaye uya kufuna ukuva zonke iimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo yakhe.
Musa ukuphula ubudlelwane nomntu kuluntu.
Nangona u-scoundrel kunye ne-bastard, ziphathe kakuhle. Abanye abayi kukuqonda.
Bhala kuye. Le ngcebiso kubantu abangenakuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo ngamazwi, abangenawo umoya, bathi bonke ubudlelwane budlulile, bhala kuye yonke into, ndixelele ukuba kutheni unqume ukuphelisa ubuhlobo naye.
Kuya kuba inyanisekileyo kwaye inhle, ukuba unike le ncwadi ngokwakho ezandleni, apho wonke umntu ebhala ngeemvakalelo zabo.
Ukuze singaziva sinetyala, ingakumbi ukuba siyi-initiator, sivame ukuxubha kunye neentlanzi. Kodwa asiyi kunceda intshabalazo, kodwa siya kuphazamisa zethu iintsholongwane. Ukuhlukana kuhlale kunzima. Musa ukwenza i-scandals kwaye uphawule impilo yakho.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuba kungcono ukuthini ukuba ubudlelwane budlulile, ngoko kufuneka uguqule imeko ngenye indlela uze ucinge ukuba ungathanda ukuva ntoni xa ushiya. Yethulwa? Emva koko kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uqhube incoko kunye nezenzo zakho. Ukuba umntu akafuni ukukuqonda, kwaye awukwazi ukulawula yonke into ngehlabathi, ngoko uqinisekile ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho namandla.
Ukuyeka bonke ubudlelwane, sesaba ukuba siya kuhlala sisodwa. Kodwa ubomi buhle kwaye uhlala enika ithuba lokuhlangabezana nesiqingatha sakhe kwaye uyavuya. Nwabile