Zithobe nje.
Ngamanye amaxesha inqubo yokwahlula ihlala ixesha elide, idala ithemba elingenasisiseko kwaye ibangela ukubandezeleka okungadingekile. Ngokuqhelekileyo umqalisi wokwahlukana, uvelwano nomlingani oshiyekileyo, uza kunye naye ngokukrakra ngokunyusa inkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato. Ungavumeli ukuba oku kwenzeke kuwe. Kungcono ukusinda nje iintsuku ezimbalwa, okanye iiveki, kuneenyanga eziliqela ngokulandelana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, izikhalazo ezingenangqondo zingenza ivakalelo lenye ishishini elingapheliyo. Kule meko, udinga kwakhona - okokugqibela-ukuthetha ngokugqithiseleyo nomthandi wangaphambili. Kufuneka ukuba uzame ukubeka ingongoma yeoli ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwendibano yokugqibela. Ngoko ungaphila ukuhlukana kumntu?
"Ngokusemthethweni" sitshilo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, icala leqabane elikushiyile lingasifaka entolongweni yeemvakalelo zethu, de kube usuhlala ulwahlukana nomntu. Kuhlala kunzima ukuxolela, kwaye nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba usuxolile, isikhalazo singabuyela kuwe ngemizuzu emi-5, iintsuku ezingama-5 okanye neenyanga. Nangona kunjalo, ixesha lokuphilisa, kwaye yonke ixesha uxolela yonke into iya kuba lula. Njengomthetho, isinyathelo sokutshatyalaliswa sokwahlukana kukunceda ukukhululwa kwale ndoda. Unokwenza, umzekelo, nje uthabathe ilitye elikhulu, uze uliphose ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho obungalinganiyo. Okanye ukhanyise ikhandlela uze ucinge ukuba ngocingo lwakho uthando lwakho luphuma. Into elula kakhulu, njengokuba nje ukukrazula zonke iifoto kunye, kwanefuthe elihle. Kwaye kukulungele ukutshisa ngomlilo okanye, uxolisa, uhlambe endlwini yangasese - kuya kunceda ukusinda ukuhlukana. Ungaze ufune ukulahlekelwa nguwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bayazincama imisebenzi yabo ngenxa yolwalamano oluthandwayo, kodwa eqinisweni-akunto le nto, kuba abantu baxhamla ngokukhawuleza.
Musa ukuphinda uphoso iimpazamo zangaphambili.
Kutheni sifuna abantu abanomfanekiso ofanayo nathi size senze iimpazamo ezifanayo kunye nabo? Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kuxhomekeke kwindlela yokuxhumana nabantu. Xa indlela yakho yoqhagamshelwano ihambelana nendlela yokunxibelelana ngayo iqabane lakho, ngoko, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuba nolwalamano olufudumele kunye naye. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, kuya kuthi ukuba ngexesha elide uza kuqala ukuba neengxaki, kwaye uya kukhathazeka ukuba awuqondi. Ukuba ngokuphindaphindiweyo uthandana "nababi" abafana nokuziphatha kwabo kubazalwana abavini, ngoko kufuneka umangaliswe ukuba ngenxa yoko uyaphula? Zama ukuhlalutya ngokucophelela kwaye uqaphelisise ubudlelwane obudlulileyo: wenzani ungalunganga, kwaye yintoni ephosakeleyo kumlingane. Zama ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo kubantu. Musa ukunyathela kwisigqibo esifanayo. Umzekelo ocacileyo wabazali unempembelelo enamandla kubo bonke ubomi babo babantwana babo.
Yiba namandla.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba, njengoko iingqondo zeengqondo zicinga, ukuze zilahleke naziphi na izinto ezimbi okanye izilingo, kuba ngumtshato okanye ukutshaya amava, kuthatha iintsuku ezingama-21 kuphela! Eli xesha liyimfuneko ukuba ingqondo ivuselele kwakhona umsebenzi wayo. Unokukunceda ingqondo yakho ukuba ivuselele ngokukhawuleza, ukuba ungavumeli iingcamango ezimbi ngathi "Andiyi kumbona umntu onjalo!" Ngokuchaseneyo, xelela ngokwakho rhoqo "Ngokukhawuleza ndiya kudibana nomntu omkhulu!" Iingcamango zinekhwalithi ebalaseleyo, kunye neyodwa, ziphathekayo, kwaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi uthando lwakho olungathandekiyo lukulindela ekhoneni. Ewe, awukwazi ukuhlala uxhalabele malunga nokuhlukana nomntu? Kufuneka uvule wonke amathuba.