Ngoko ke, ukukhulelwa komfazi kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu kudlalwa ngokuphangaleleyo kunokuba kungavamile. Kwaye umntwana unokuzalwa kokubili kwintsapho epheleleyo, kwaye ngaphandle kobawo. Kule meko, ibhinqa lizalela umntwana, liyiqonda ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, akukho nkxalabo enxulumene nobudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho, kunye nomyeni wakhe, kweli xesha aliphantse ukuba yintoni na. Ukulinganisa i-alpha kunye ne-omega yale minyaka, ubuchule kunye nobutyebi bayo.
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Iimvumba zexesha elizayo kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu zikhohlwa ukuba akuzona zonke izinto ezisemandleni abo, ingakumbi imfihlelo enjengokuqala kokukhulelwa.
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Into ephambili yokukhulelwa komfazi kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu kukuvusa i-sphere. Izicwangciso kufuneka zakhiwe ngesiseko seengcinga "apha nangoku," kungekhona ngokujonga ngeemviwo zeveki okanye zenzululwazi. Ukwazi ukuba indlela enengqiqo kuyo nayiphi na ishishini-inkanuko yowesifazane, izalamane kunye nabahlobo banokuzama ukukuphatha, ukuthatha iinqununu zikaRhulumente ezandleni zabo. Ngoko ke, okokuqala kufuneka uyenze into oyithandayo, kungekhona oko umntu akucebisa. Ukuba ufuna ukusebenzela, kwaye akunakwenzakalisa umntwana, sebenza. Ndifuna ukuhamba-ukuhamba, ukuqhuba imoto, ukutya ukutya okuthile-kutya.
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Ngelishwa, xa umfazi ekhulelwe ngamashumi amathathu, kunzima ukugcina intombazana engumfana oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Kwabesetyhini abaninzi, esi sizathu esibalulekileyo sokubandezeleka. Kwaye kuninzi ngaphambi kokuba le ngxaki iza kuvela. Kwaye kwimiba yomngcipheko wokufumana ukunyuka kuphela.
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Kule meko, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ubunzima bufakwe kwiinyanga ezili-9 kwaye "ukushiya" ngexesha elifanayo. Ngomhla wokuqala wokuzalwa komntwana nawuphi na umfazi, ukuba unqwenela, ufike ngendlela ebonakalayo. Into ebalulekileyo emva kokuzalwa komntwana akayi kukulibala ngenjongo yakhe yokuba nesibalo esincinci, kungekhona ukuba alahlekelwe yedwa kwaye angabalulekanga iipilisi ezingaphezulu kwelokuba ngoku, njengoko sele sele ebeletha umfazi, isekela lingenza.
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Ukukhulelwa komfazi kumashumi angamashumi amathathu kunokuguquka nokubi, iingqondo zeengqondo, bakholelwa ukuba ukuba baqokelela yonke ingcaciso, ngoko imeko iya kuba phantsi kolawulo olupheleleyo - baya kuyiqonda kwaye bafumane izigqibo ezingekho ngaphezu koogqirha bezengcali. Ukongeza kwimbali yonyango yabangane bakhe, "ngobubele bomphefumlo", akukho nto ichaza ngokuzalwa, ngaphandle koyikima, umama ozayo uqala ukukhathazeka ngokungakumbi ngokukhulelwa okuqhubekayo, kodwa ngenxa yesiphumo sokubeletha. Kwaye kwintloko yakhe efanelekileyo yenza izisombululo ezihlukeneyo, umzekelo: "Belele phantsi kwe-anesthesia, kunye nokudlula." Kunzima ukuba oogqirha bawukhuphe i-nniscience, kwaye oku kubangela iingxaki ezininzi.
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Ukuqokelela ulwazi ngokuqinisekileyo kuyinto ebalulekileyo. Kodwa ugqirha usabonakala nakakhulu, kuba imeko nganye ihlukile kwindlela yayo. Kukulungele ukufumana ugqirha oza kuthembeka ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye kunye neengcebiso zamaqabane amantombazana ahlangenwe nakho awanalo inyaniso kwisigqibo sokugqibela. Ukuba ukwenza oku, uza kuchitha iiseli ezinomdla kakhulu. Amantombazana anamava angcono "basebenzise" njengomthombo wolwazi malunga noogqirha abalungileyo.
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Emva kokucwangcisa kwaye "kwenziwa" ukukhulelwa komfazi kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu, baqala ukuza eengqondweni zabo bonke ubomi babo bomntwana ongakazalwa.
Kwaye ukususela kumsebenzi ophambili womama ozayo kwiminyaka yokugqibela ehleli kwindawo yentlalo, ikusasa lomntwana lifanekisela ukunyuka kwinqanaba lentlalo. Umama ucwangcisa kwangaphambili amakhono omntwana, iimfuno zakhe, ukuthanda, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ukukhangela i-kindergarten, isikolo, isiko kunye nomsebenzi. Amantombazana akhethwa ngokukhawuleza ngabaviwa abavela kubaviwa abafanelekileyo - oonyana beentombi zabo. Ezi ngcinga kunye nokukhulelwa komfazi kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu kuthwala amandla kunye neminqweno yalo mfazi. Ngokuzibeka emntwaneni, unokusiphulaphula ubomi bakhe bonke, utshintshe umntu ngamnye ngamanqweno akhe.
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Ukuphupha malunga nekamva kufuneka kwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo. Kanye kuphela uThixo owaziyo ukuba umntwana uza kuzalwa aze akhule njani - inkwenkwe okanye intombazana, umculo okanye imidlalo, ihlazo okanye ihlambala, kubalulekile ukubonisa iinguqu ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso lweziganeko. Ngokomzekelo, namhlanje ungaphupha, indlela ubomi obuya kukhula ngayo nentombazana enokuthula, nangomso - kwi-tomboy engenakulibala kunye nobuso bakhe bonke.
Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana uzalelwe njani, okokuqala ufuna unomama ofudumeleyo, onovakalelo, onobubele. Ezi zimpawu aziwanelanga abafazi abancinane banamhlanje, abahlala ngaphezulu benesizathu kunokuba nentliziyo. Mhlawumbi amandla angabonakaliyo ngokukhawuleza aya kuqhuba umama omncinane ukuba asebenze.
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Ukungahoyi lakho imeko. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba unina olindelekileyo usetyenziswe kanzima ukuba angakulungeli (akakwazi) ukunciphisa umthwalo. Uhlala ngokukhawuleza kwikhompyutheni, uqhubela kwenye indawo ekupheleni komhlaba ... Ukukhulelwa okukhuselekileyo - kuyamangalisa! Ukuba lo mfazi akayilibala ukuphulaphula yena kwaye akayikunyamekela izifo ezikhuphayo, ezinokuthi zibuye zibe yintlekele.
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Ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko xa ufuna ukukwazi ukuthi "yima" umsebenzi kwaye ubeke phambili kwimpilo.
Uzelwe umntwana
Umfazi, ejwayele ukuba ubomi bubetha intloko, kunzima ukuhlala ekhaya kwikhephe. Umsebenzi wakhe kweli nqanaba kukufumana ixesha lokunxibelelana kwengqondo nomntwana, kucwangcisa ngokucacileyo ishedyuli yomsebenzi wesikhathi esizayo.
Kubantwana bamashishini bezoshishino kuqala kokungabikho nkcazo, ukuthintela, ukuxubusha, ukudibanisa, amava ahlangeneyo. Umama kufuneka ahlale ekhumbula le nto (ungayibhala kwakhona kumququzeleli), kwaye ke yonke into iya kulungelelana nosana lwakho.
Ungabonisi iimfuno ezigqithiseleyo umntwana. Kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba awuyithandi impumelelo, kodwa njengaye, "ngokungahambelani." Ukuba umntakwabo ummelwane uqala ukuhlala okanye uthetha ngaphambili, akuthethi ukuba yakho iyisiphukuphuku, iyaqhubeka ibe yimbi, kwaye ayenzi lutho kuye. Izinga lokuphuhliswa kwabantwana ngabanye, kwaye lihluke kwiminyaka eyahlukeneyo yobomi. Ungakulibali ukuba ixesha elithile lovuko ludlalwa, kwaye ungabhekanga kwizinto eziphambili zophuhliso.
Ungasivumeli ukuba sidlale kwi-rationality!
Musa ukuhamba malunga nomyeni, onokunyanzela ukuba ushiye umsebenzi, uphikisana ukuba xa umfazi ekhulelwe emashumi amathathu, kufuneka uphumule ngaphezulu. Ukubambisa yonke imini ngeenxa zonke kwindlu ekugqoka iingubo akunakwenzeka ukuba kukulethe impilo nemincili. Nguwe kuphela onokugqiba indlela yokuchitha ukukhulelwa kwakho. Ukuba uyeka ukuba ngokwakho, kwaye ufumana isiluleko kwabanye, unobungozi ukuxhalaba nokuxhalabisa.