Ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuqinisekileyo, iimpikiswano phakathi kwabantwana zifikelela ezigqithiseleyo kangangokuba nabazali abazi ukuba baphume njani kwimeko ngokuchanekileyo. Isigqibo esona sichanekileyo abazali abanokuyithatha ngexesha lokuxabana kwabantwana kukuba banqunyulwe kumazinga okuqala ukuze bangangeni kumkhwa. Ngenxa yesiphumo esihle, kufuneka uhambelane namanqanaba ambalwa, esiya kucinga ngawo ngoku.
Isigaba sokuqala: ukunciphisa ubunokwenzeka beengxabano kunye nokungavumelani phakathi kwabantwana, kuncinci kakhulu. Xoxa nomntwana omdala ngesihloko semidlalo kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, bahlule kwizinto ezinokuthandayo kwaye zithandekayo kuye, kwaye loo mayeza amancinci angayithatha.
Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba kunye neentshukumo zakho ezithandayo, umntwana omdala udlala apho omncinci akayi kubona kwaye akakwazanga ukuthatha. Umzekelo, cwangcisa ikona yokudlala kwelinye igumbi, okanye livumele lidlale ngexesha xa umncinci elele.
Lezo zixhobo ezingakwazi ukuphulwa okanye zonakaliswe, zifihla ngokupheleleyo, kuba oku, okokuqala, akukhuselekile, kwaye okwesibini, kulo mhlaba, phakathi kwabantwana kukho enye ingxabano.
Nangona kunjalo, eli nqanaba aliyi kunceda abazali ukuba baphule iingxabano phakathi kwabantwana, kodwa banokunciphisa inani labo kuphela.
Isigaba sesibini: ngexesha lokuxabana, zama ukuqinisekisa abantwana bakho, uchazela kubo ukuba akufuneki kubekho iimbambano phakathi kwabantu abasondeleyo. Okokuqala, ncokola nomntwana omdala. Mxelele ukuba omncinci ufuna ukudlala kunye nemidlalo yakhe kuphela ngenxa yokuba unomdla, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukucaphuka umzalwana okanye udade omdala ngeendlela zonke. Unokuzama ukuqonda oko kubangela ukuba ucaphuke kunye nomsindo kumntwana omdala. Kuphela ngokufunda ukuqonda abanye kwaye uzibeke kwenye indawo, umntwana wakho uya kulungela isigaba 3 - ukufumana isisombululo.
Isigaba sesithathu: khangela abantwana bakho ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ongasombulula ngayo ingxaki. Wena, njengomzali, unako ukunika ezininzi iinketho zakho, kodwa kubhetele xa umntwana ecinga ngengxaki kwaye uxelela iindlela zakhe zokusombulula ingxaki. Abantwana abaninzi baya kubandakanywa kule nkqubo, mhlawumbi ukuba abantwana abaza kukwazi ukuziphatha, banako ukwenza isigqibo kwaye bafumane indlela yokuphuma kwimeko.
Kwakhona, umntwana omdala makafunde ukuthi "hayi" kwizwi elincinci, elinesineke nelizolileyo.
Enyanisweni, abantwana abayisebenzisi lonke ixesha ndawonye, bedlala kunye, kodwa ngezinye iimfuneko. Abazali bangahlela yonke into ukuze abantwana babe kwindawo enye, kodwa baya kuba namaqumrhu ahlukeneyo. Ukuze abantwana basebenzisane ukwenza into kunye, okokuqala ungazijoyina umdlalo kubo kwaye udlala ezintathu zazo.