Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, abafazi baye baqina ngokukodwa nje ngabantwana, kodwa nangona ubudala obuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo yokuzalwa komntwana. Oku kubangelwa ukuba inqubekela phambili kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, umfazi ufuna ukunika umntwana ubomi kuphela, kodwa yonke into anokuyidinga kulo bomi. Ngelo xesha, ngamnye umfazi ufuna ukuba nenzala epheleleyo kunye nokugcina impilo yakhe.
Oku kuxhaswa ngophando lwangosayensi lwakutshanje. Ukuqhuba uphando oluninzi ukufumana ithuba elihle lokuzalwa komntwana, izazinzulu emhlabeni jikelele zachitha ixesha elininzi kunye nemali, kodwa abazange bafikelele kwisivumelwano malunga nale ngxaki.
Into leyo kukuba nganye, ukuzama ukucacisa eli lixesha elihle kakhulu, iinqununu zakhe kwiingcamango ezinokubheka ezibalulekileyo, ungayifumani ingqalelo ezinye, ezibalulekileyo ngokulinganayo.
Ngokomzekelo, abanye baqwalasela imeko yomzimba wesifazane ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana, enye indima ebalulekileyo ihlukaniswe yimpilo-mali, kwaye yesithathu ngokuphuhliswa kwengqondo.
Makhe sibone indlela yokujonga ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuzalwa komntwana.
Kungekude kudlulileyo, enye yeefowuni ezithandwa kakhulu ngabasetyhini yabuza le mibuzo kwiindwendwe zayo. Kuyamangalisa, kodwa ezininzi iimpendulo zihambelana neengcamango zenzululwazi kwiYunivesithi yaseTexas, abathi ibanga elifanelekileyo lokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala kumfazi liyiminyaka engama-34. Le mpendulo yanikezelwa ngama-47% wabasetyhini abathatha inxaxheba kwiseshoni.
Kwinkqubo yophando, eli qela lezenzululwazi lifunde ngokubanzi iinkcukacha ezi-3000 zabasetyhini abasezintlu ezahlukeneyo kwaye banomntwana omnye ngeli xesha. Emva kokufunda kakuhle iimbali ngokwabo kwaye baqhelana nezigulane ngokwabo, kunye nokuhlola iimeko zokuphila kwabo, iimfuno kunye nezinye iiparitha, izazinzulu ziye zafikelela izigqibo zabo. Enye yeeprojekti zeprojekthi zachaza ukuba iminyaka engama-34 ukuba ibhinqa lingaba lilungele ukuzalwa komntwana kuphela, liye lafikelela kwesi siganeko ngokugqithiseleyo. Abasetyhini kweli nqanaba, ngenxa yeyona nxalenye, sele benomsebenzi osesikweni ozinzileyo kwaye onobulungisa, owanikezela ukukhuselwa kwemali ngokupheleleyo. Ngokungafani namantombazana asetsheni, abafazi abanjalo, belungiselela ukuba ngumama, kungekhona nje ukucwangcisa ngokucwangcisekileyo ukukhulelwa, babeka umzimba wabo umyalelo, bajonge kakuhle impilo yabo kunye nokutya. Singaxelela ukuba kubasetyhini balobudala, isiko sobazali asivumi ukuvuka, kodwa siqhayisa umbala onobundlobongela!
Enye into ebaluleke kakhulu, abafazi beli xesha baninzi banalo ubudlelwane obude kunye obuhlala ixesha elide kunye neqabane elilodwa lezesondo, elichaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo i-psyche yomama ozayo, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo umntwana. Akukho nto ithobisa umfazi othe wagqiba ukuzala umntwana, njengokuzithemba kwixesha elizayo kunye nokuba khona kweqela elithembekileyo, onokuhlala uthembele kulo.
Ngendlela, izazinzulu kwiyunivesithi efanayo zafumanisa ukuba umzimba wesifazane owabeletha umntwana wokuqala kwiminyaka engama-34 yinto encinci yeminyaka engama-14 kunomnye waba ngumama kwi-18.
Kukho ezinye izizathu, ekuthandeni le minyaka kumama ozayo. Kwixesha lokukhulelwa, umzimba usebenza ezininzi iinkqubo ze-biological emzimbeni, kubandakanya umsebenzi wengqondo. Ngoko ke, ibhinqa eliye lagqiba umntwana ngaloo minyaka liyanciphisa umngcipheko wokwehlisa umbono kunye nokukhunjulwa kwememori, isongela abantu abaphila nabo.
Nangona kunjalo, ezininzi izazinzulu zithi ukuzalwa komntwana kule minyaka kungakhuselekanga. Ukususela emva kweminyaka engama-30 ukuzala komzimba wesifazane kuqala ukuhla, umfazi ogqibeleleyo kumntwana wokuqala eneminyaka engama-34 unokufumana ubunzima obunzima, ezama ukukhulelwa okwesibini, okanye akayi kukwazi ukuzala.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, nokuba ngumama - ixesha elonwabileyo ebomini kwanoma yimuphi umfazi, kungakhathaliseki ubudala bakhe.