Kwaye akumangalisi, uhlobo kunye nesimo sendalo sowesifazane, sinempahla yokuqhotyoshelana nomntu. Kwaye kuninzi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukho amaxesha apho kuvela ukucaca ukuba indoda enokuchitha ixesha lika-Nth ayikude neyona nto ifuna ukuba umfazi uyifunayo. Kukho izizathu eziliwaka zokuthanda indoda. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kubonakala ngokubonakalayo, kwaye okwesibini, ubulumko bakhe nobuchule bakhe.
Uhlobo olubalulekileyo lukwabandakanya, olubandakanya intlungu, isibindi, isibindi nezinye iimpawu ezininzi. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba khona kwabo akuthethi ukuba nguyena mntu umfazi okhangela ebomini. Kwaye, ke kuza ixesha lokuhlukana nomntu. Nangona uthando kumntu wesifazane luyakucinywa, akusoze kube ngumzuzu olula kunye nobunzima ebomini. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezi nkqubo zihambelana neemeko ezixinzeleleyo, ngenxa yokuba abaninzi abafazi baziva benetyala xa beqala ukuhlukana ngesondo esinamandla.
Izizathu zokubambisana nendoda ethandekayo, inokuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Ngokwezibalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, isizathu sokuhlukana kwamadoda nabasetyhini ngenxa yobundlobongela basekhaya. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntu esebenzisa amandla ephambili, ukuze asombulule ingxabano yentsapho. Ubundlobongela basekhaya buyahlwayelwa ngumthetho, kodwa kungabi nakakhulu kangangokuthi umfazi unokuziva, ukhuselwe.
Kananjalo ukuhlukana kunokuqalisa kunye nomkhuba onobungozi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uninzi lweendibaniso zabo kumntu. Hayi, ayithethi ngemikhwa enjengokutshaya. Inxalenye eqhelekileyo ikwahlukana ngenxa yokusetyenziswa kakhulu kotywala, okanye iziyobisi zonyango. Njengomthetho, ukusetyenziswa kwezidakamizwa ezinjalo zengqondo kubangela ukungonakaliswa kweemeko zokuphila kunye nentuthuzelo yentsapho. Indoda inzima kakhulu ukuyilungisa. Iimeko ezinqabileyo xa ummeli wesini esomeleleyo angakwazi ukulawula imeko. Ethetha malunga nokulawula, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokubhekiselele kumntu obuthathaka womntu, ngokuchanekileyo, imeko yakhe engalawulwayo kwintsapho okanye kwibini, umfazi akanako ukuma, kwaye nguye umcebisi wokuhlukana. Ezi zizathu eziphambili, le nto yinto eqhelekileyo, eyenzekayo kungekhona kuphela eRashiya, kodwa nakwezinye iindawo ezininzi zehlabathi.
Izizathu zokushiya indoda ethandekayo, ezi zizathu ezibalulekileyo. Ibhinqa aliyi kubeka ingcinezelo kwintsapho nokuthuthuzela. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuba nje amadoda afuna ukuba azi kakuhle iimpazamo zabo kunye nezenzo abazenzayo kubasetyhini. Isizathu sokuhlukana kwamadoda nabasetyhini, sinokusebenza njengoluhlu lweengxaki ezingaqondaniyo, ezibonakala phakathi kwabameli beesini emva kokuhlala ixesha elilodwa lokuhlala kunye. Utywala, ubundlobongela, iziyobisi, ukungabikho kokungafihli, alukho uluhlu olunganeleyo lokuba umfazi aphendukele aze avule umnyango. Amaxesha apho ingcamango "yamalungelo amabhinqa" kunye "nomgaqo-nkqubo wesini" elahlekile yalahleka ehlobo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ngoku ukugcina ubudlelwane phakathi komnye ukuze kuqiniseke ubudlelwane bokwenene beentsapho. Okokuqala, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kubalulekile ukuba umfazi enze imizamo eninzi. Indoda kufuneka ifundiswe, kwaye akufanelekanga konke ukubeka yonke into entanyeni yakhe kwaye uhlakulele umlinganiswa ongenamntu kuye.
Izizathu zokwahlukana nomntu oyintanda unokuthi zihluke, kodwa isiphumo sinye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuze uphephe iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, kufuneka ukwazi ixesha omele uhambe ngalo buthule.