Ukuthintela iimvakalelo
Okokuqala, ukuze uqhagamshelane nentombazana yomhlobo wakho, kufuneka uvele ngokukhawuleza ukuba ungumhlobo kwaye ungumhlobo kuphela, kwaye akukho nto engaphezulu kwayo. Xa uqhelana naye kuqala, lungela oko uza kuhlola. Musa ukuyithatha. Intombazana nganye, efunda ukuba umfana unentombi, uyayicinga ukuba akayena umthandi wecala lomthandi wakhe. Ngoko ke, kwintlanganiso akuyimfuneko ukuphosa kumhlobo entanyeni uze uyamanga. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kubonakala ngathi kukhankanya ekuqaleni. Ngokukodwa ukuba le ntombazana ingenamakhwenkwe. Ngelo xesha, akudingeki ugcine kumhlobo wakho "kumgama wovulindlela", kuba oku kunokubangela iingcamango ezingalunganga. Mane uvimbele imizwa yakho encinane, zikhawuleze ukuba uzifake emfutshane, ungaphonsa esitrateni, kodwa ungabikho kwakhona. Vumela intombazana ukuba isetyenziswe kuwe kwaye usenokuba uziphathe ngokuqhelekileyo.
Ungazami Ukuthanda
Amantombazana amaninzi enza iphutha elikhulu kakhulu - azama ukwenza uthando kwiminqweno yomhlobo wabo. Ngoko akudingeki ukuba wenze nakweyiphi na imeko. Into eyenzayo kukuba ukuba umntu uziphatha ngokungaqhelekanga, kubonakala njalo kwaye kunokuba ube nombono omuhle kuwe, unokufumana umphumo ochasene ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko uzama ukuba nguwe. Nangona kwezinye iimeko, usadinga ukubonisa ukuthintela. Umzekelo, ukuba intombazana ithobekile, engeyomntu ongeyiselo kunye nomntu ongeyiyo, kwaye uthanda ukutshaya nokusela i-pivkas enye, musa ukuhlambalaza ngamazwi anamandla, ngoko kwintlanganiso yokuqala kufuneka uzincede ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye akusiyo loo nto intombi yomhlobo wakho, kodwa kunokuba inhlonipho yezobuqili kwiimpawu kunye nemibono yomnye umntu.
Hlanganisa abahlobo
"Ukuba ungumhlobo wam, ngoko kufuneka ube ngumhlobo wam" - phantsi kwesi siqubulo ukuba amantombazana amaninzi ayakha ubuhlobo obungalunganga bomhlobo wabo. Ngokukhawuleza baqala ukuziphatha ngokuzithemba, ngokukhawuleza bancede uncedo, beza nezizathu zokubona nokuthetha. Kwaye bayothuka kukuba kutheni le ntombazana iqala ukuhlazeka kwiintombi zakhe.
Sikhetha abahlobo bethu. Ngoko ke, xa umntu eboshwe kuthi, umntu ngamnye uqala ukumelana nalo. Ngoko le mpawu ibangela kuphela into embi. Le ntombazana inabangane bakhe abayithandayo. Ukuqala ukudibana nomhlobo wakho, le ntombi ayizange ilindele ukuba lo mhlolokazi uya kufumana intombi entsha. Ngoko ke, umntu akufanele aziphoqe ukuba aqhutywe ngabahlobo bakhe. Vumela yonke into ihambe njengoko kufanele ihambe. Ukuba unomdla kunye nemibono ebomini ebomini, ngenxa yoko, ubuhlobo phakathi kwakho buya kubonakala ngexesha elingaphambili elingalindelekanga, awuyi kuphinda uqaphele.
Ngendlela, kufuneka ubeke enye indawo ngokuphathelele ubungani bobuhlobo. Ingumda kunye namacala amabini. Okokuthi, ubuhlobo obunjalo bubulungile, ukuba intombazana ayiyi kuba nomona kuwe, unokuchitha ixesha elingakumbi nomhlobo, kuba engayikhathazi inkampani yakho njalo njalo. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, xa kukho impikiswano ephakathi kwabo, wonke umntu unokuza kuwe uncedo. Emva koko kuya kufuneka ube phakathi kwemililo emibili .Abaninzi bathi baya kuhlala bengathathi hlangothi, kodwa ekusebenzeni kubonakaliswe ukuba akulula ukwenza oko, kuba abantu baqala ukuyichitha isigaba sokuqala. nayiphi na imeko kufuneka ibe ngecala layo, nangona ayenjalo. Kwaye intombazana yakhe iya kuthi yonke inokukhokelwa ngumanyano wabesifazane, ngoko kufuneka umncede. Ngenxa yoko, uya kulahla ngaphandle kwegogo, kwaye unokuba netyala. Ngoko kukufanele uqikelele ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukwenza izihlobo kunye nentombi yakho yomhlobo. Ukuba nje ulwalamano oluhle - alukuthinteli nantoni na, kodwa umbiza ngokuba ngumhlobo, uthatha uxanduva ongenakukwazi ukuluphatha kalula.
Musa ukuthetha kakhulu
Xa uqhagamshelana nentombazana yomhlobo wakho, jonga okuthethayo. Ewe, abahlobo abasondeleyo banomdla weendaba ezixhalabisa ezidibanisa nabo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukwazi malunga nabanye. Ngokukodwa intombi yakho yomhlobo. Emva koko, akekho owaziyo ukuba uya kuthini ukusabela kule nto okanye kweli bali. Into ebonakala iyisiqhelo kuwe ingaba sisisiphukuphuku kuye, kwaye umntu ongenatyala - uphinde waxabiseke. Ngoko, thabatha inkululeko yokungaxeleli amabali ahlobene nesoka lakhe. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuxelela into ethile, kungcono ukubuza umhlobo wakho kwangaphambili ukuba ingaba intombazana yakhe iyayiva. Ngoko uza kuzihlangula kwiimangalo eziye zatshintshwe ngumhlobo kwaye ngoku intombazana ayimphathisi ngendlela efanele.
Musa ukulibala umnini
Amantombazana amaninzi aphatha abahlobo bawo njengempahla. Ngokukodwa ukuba aba bahlobo ixesha elide bayabhala. Vitoga, amantombazana asetyenziselwa ukuba umhlobo uhlala echitha ixesha kunye nabo, bhathala njalo njalo. Kwaye xa umhlobo ibonakala intombazana, yonke into iyatshintsha. Kwaye ukukhungatheka kuqala ukukhwele, okunzima ukufihla. Kule meko, zifunde ukuzilawula. Uyamthanda umhlobo wakho kwaye unqwenela ulonwabo. Ngoko, kufuneka uvuyiswe kukuba unomntu othandekayo, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba kuyimvelo ukuba ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nentombi. Ngako oko, ukuba imeko leyo ayiyinto engavamile, xa le ntombazana ingavumeli ukuba umthandi wakhe ahambe ngesinye ixesha, ngoko kufuneka ubeke ikhosi yezinto ezikhoyo kwaye ungakhange ujonge "njengotshaba lwabantu", owathatha kuwe. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kunokuphazamisa ulwalamano lwakho nomhlobo, kwaye intombazana iya kubangela ukuba izikhalazo ezinobungozi kwaye ziqale ukucinga ngendlela ubuhlobo bakho obuhle phakathi kwakho nomhlobo wakhe kunye nokuba kukho into engaziyo.
Hsu akayithandi
Ukuba intombi yomhlobo wakho ayikuthandi ngenxa yezizathu, awufanele uzame ukumkholisa kwaye ulungise konke. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ungayithobeli indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kwaye akukho mzekelo, ungathethi nantoni na kumhlobo wakho. Ukuba uqala ukuchazela kumfana ukuba intombi yakhe ayilungile, mhlawumbi mhlawumbi, yonakalise ulwalamano lwakho. Ngoko ke, zama ukuhlala kude. Kungekudala okanye emva kwayo yonke into iya kwenziwa, kwaye unako ukufumana ngenxa yoko. Okwangoku, musa ukumvumela ukuba akuzingele kwaye aphule ubuhlobo bakho. Ukuba umntu uya kubona ukuba intombi yakhe ayilungile, uya kuhlala ehleli ecaleni lakho, ukuze angabi namhle umhlobo othembekileyo nonyanisekileyo.