Ngokuxinezeleka kumadoda, uncedo luya kusebenza ngakumbi xa unokuqonda intsingiselo ebanzi yegama elithi "ukudandatheka kwabantu" kwaye uchaze ngokucacileyo izizathu ezibangela ukuba zibangele. Kwaye kwizinto ezibonakalayo eziqhelekileyo neziqhelekileyo zengqondo ecindezelekileyo emadodeni kukuba: ukungabikho kwemali rhoqo, umsebenzi ongaphumeleli ngaphandle kwemfuneko yokukhula kwamathuba emisebenzi, ukungabikho kokuzifeza ngokweenzululwazi "ukucinga" ngokuvisisana nawe, iingxaki ebomini kunye nobomi obusondeleyo, ubunzima bokuthetha abantu abazungezile, ingxaki engunaphakade phakathi kootata nabantwana, ukungqinelani nabasetyhini, izindlu ezihluphekileyo kunye neemeko zomntu kunye nokunye. Ngamagama, olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka ixesha elide, kodwa sinqume ukuyeka nokubiza iingxaki eziqhelekileyo ebomini babantu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu apha kukuba ukudandatheka kumadoda kunzima kakhulu kunokuba thina besifazane. Konke oku kudibaniswe nenyaniso yokuba indoda ihlala kwiingxaki zayo ngokubhekiselele kwizesondo ezibuthakathaka kwaye izama ukulwa nokudakumba ngoncedo lotywala, ukuvalelwa kuye, ukugonywa. Singakwazi ukunqoba isimo sengqondo esibi ngokutyelela i-beauty salon, ukuthenga, ukutshintsha ingaphakathi kwindlu, ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nokufumana isilwanyana. Nanku lwakho uncedo, olungenakusebenza kuyo yonke into engqondweni yomntu.
Imali yonke yakho ngentloko .
Njengoko sele sithethile, ingxaki ebaluleke kakhulu ebangela isimo esicindezelekileyo kwindoda yimeko yakhe yezemali. Emva koko, yimali engenakwenzeka ngokwenene, kwaye yinto echasene nayo. Yimali ehlala kwindawo ebaluleke kakhulu kwi-subconscious yendoda. Oku kunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba umntu ngowokuqala kwaye ngowona phambili umcebisi, apho uphuhliso lwentsapho luxhomekeke khona. Ukudandatheka kwakhe kwendoda yokuxinezeleka kufinyelela ngexesha apho indoda enekhanda layo igxotha "emncintiswaneni wemali" kwaye ayikwazi ukuyeka konke. Kwimeko enjalo, uncedo olungcono kukuguqula isimo sengqondo sakho semali kunye nokuqonda ukuba imali ayiyona nto ebalulekileyo ebomini. Ukuba loo mntu akakwazi ukwenza ngokukhawuleza, makazame ukugxila ingqalelo kwezinye iingxaki ezilula ukuzisombulula. Oku kuya kumnceda ukuphazamiseka kwi-"ingxaki" ephambili. Ngendlela, nangayiphi na imeko, nayiphi na iimbangela zokudakumba, kuhlale kuyimfuneko, kuqala ukuba uziqonde ngokwakho, kwaye ke kuphela ukulwa nale sigulo yengqondo. Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukudandatheka sisifo esiphazamisa imeko jikelele yempilo, ngoko ukuhlala nayo akuyona indlela engcono yokuphuma.
Okubi ngakumbi xa imbangela yokudakumba komntu kukuba indoda ayikwazi ukuxhasa intsapho yayo. Apha, ngaphezu kwento yonke, kusekho inzondo enkulu phambi komfazi, abantwana, abazali. Akuyinto engaqhelekanga, kodwa ngesondo esinamandla kunendlela enye yokuphuma: ukugembula, utswala, utywala. Leyo ayiyona indlela ephumelelayo yokunqoba ipeni yakho. Kodwa le ndoda ngokwayo engayiqondi, ibuhlungu nje imeko yakhe jikelele. Kule meko, ukuxinezeleka kunye nokunceda ekunciphiseni kukuba umntu ufuna ukumisela amandla akhe kwindlela efanelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, yenza ukulungiswa kwindlu, hamba kunye nosapho ukuba uphumule, wenze imidlalo, uhambe rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka nabangani bebhola uze uchithe ixesha elingakumbi kunye nosapho. Konke oku kuya kutshintshisa i-psychology yesintu kwinkinga ukuqonda ukuba akuyona into embi kakhulu ebomini kwaye kukho ixesha elininzi eliqaqambileyo nelinokumnandi kunokuhlala phantsi nobuso kunye nengxaki yakho. Kwaye into ephambili apha yinkxaso kwizizalwane.
Ungagxumi ngaphezu kwebar yakho .
Ukuba umntu uvalelwe ngokwakhe ngenxa yomsebenzi wakhe (akanelisekanga, okanye ukhathele ukuphupha ukukhupha), apha isiluleko esinqununu asisoze sazibeka ubude obungenakwenzeka kunye nezicwangciso ezingenangqiqo. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukugxininisa yonke ingqalelo kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuba "ukuncinci okuncinci kunye nokuphumelela". Kodwa akudingekile ukuba uziphazamise ngenxa yokuwa kweengcinga zakho. Indoda kufuneka ibeke imida ecacileyo, eya kukwahlula okufunwayo ukusuka kunokwenzeka. Ngendlela, ukutshintsha indawo yomsebenzi yenye yeyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokunqoba ipeni yakho kwaye ujonge ihlabathi ngeenyawo ezahlukeneyo.
Ubomi bomntu abukho isizathu sokudandatheka .
Iingxaki ebomini babo zingabhidliza ngokupheleleyo umntu onobuhle nonokomoya. Ngenxa yoko, ukudandatheka ngenxa yokungaqondi kakuhle kwintsapho, iingxaki nomfazi, abantwana banengqondo enzulu kwaye inzima yengqondo engenza umntu angene ngaphakathi kuye. Kule meko, uncedo lomntu ludla ngokuxhatshazwa nobudlova kunye notywala. Kodwa oku kwakhona akuyona indlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Ingcali yengqondo yomntu kunye nengxoxo engathethekiyo kunye nomfazi, apho bangakwazi ukulondoloza khona umntu kwiimeko zabo ezivelele, ukuzinqumla kwiindawo eziphambeneyo kunye nokusela utywala.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuze umntu aphume kwinkxwaleko kwaye athole intsingiselo yobomi kunoma yiphina imeko kunye nesizathu esibangela ukugula, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ufune uncedo kwizodwa. Ingcali kuphela inokunceda umntu athole "amandla akhe okubumba", anqobe iingxaki, azibonele aze afumane imibala emitsha yobomi. Ukongezelela, "ugqirha wengqondo" uya kuba nako ukumisela amayeza afanelekileyo (ukuxhatshazwa kwamagciwane), ngenxa yokuba umntu angakwazi ukulungelelanisa isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko akufuneki ukulwa nokudandatheka yedwa, kuba kukho iindlela ezininzi zokubuyela kwimpilo eqhelekileyo kwaye uzive njengomntu opheleleyo. Into ephambili ayikuzivalela "kwiindonga ezine," kodwa ukujonga indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki kwaye ke nayiphi na inkxwaleko iya kuba yinto engabalulekanga.