Uyaqonda ukuba iimfuno zale ndoda azikhawulelwanga nje ukuthetha ngamantombazana, ukusela, isondo. Uyamanga ngokungaqhelekanga, emva koko uqonda ukuba nguye kuphela owake walinda ubomi bakho obuqilileyo. Ushiya inombolo yakho yefowuni ngethemba lokuba uya kukubiza kunye noqhagamshelwano lwakho luya kuqhubeka kummandla osondeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ixesha lidlulayo, kwaye kumbongi wakho akukho mpendulo, akukho mbuliso. Kuthekani ukuba umthandi wam ungabizi? Ziziphi iingcamango ezikugqithiseleyo okwangoku? Wafumana omnye umfazi? Ulahlekelwe ngumdla kuwe? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Khumbula umgaqo obalulekileyo: ngaphantsi kweemeko musa ukuqalela embhedeni kumntu wokuqala oyithandayo.
Abafana abaninzi bacinga ukuthandana kwi-disco, ngokungathi akukho nto ibophayo, ubulili obuhle. Amadoda amaninzi ngohlobo lwabo isithembu, badibana nabasetyhini abaninzi kungekhona nje ngenxa yengxoxo emnandi, kodwa nangenxa yesondo. Amadoda amaninzi, ehlanganisene namantombazana, aneencwadana ezizodwa zokubhala, apho babhala khona, banani na abafazi abaye bakwazi ukulala ngesondo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unobungqina obukhulu, ke ukukhanyela ubungqina obusondeleyo akunakwenzeka. Ukuba umntu othandayo unqatshelwe ngesondo, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuphazamisa. Nangona kunjalo, izizathu zokuba kutheni umntu ondibathandayo engabibizi kungekuphela nje ukuphazamiseka komdla kuwe. Mhlawumbi uxakeke emsebenzini. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko?
Musa ukubiza rhoqo umnqweno wakho. Amadoda amaninzi ayithandi, xa ehlala ebukelwa iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Umthandayo akanakubiza ukuba uyamhlupha. Xa ukhetha ukuba ungabiza okanye ungabizi, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba indoda kufuneka ibe nomdla kuwe, ngaphandle koko unako ukufumana iindaba ezimbi ukuba sele ikufumene indawo.
Amadoda amaninzi kakhulu ayamthanda, xa ibhinqa liziva likhuseleka, lixhomekeke kuye. Gwema le meko. Wonke umfazi ngumntu onelaneleyo. Kufuneka ube nekona langaphakathi, ukuziqhenya. Kufuneka unomdla nje kuphela embhedeni, kodwa ebomini. Naliphi na umntu ofuna ukujonga emva kwakhe njengonyuliweyo, ongeke enze kuphela imisebenzi emihle yomsebenzi, apheke ukutya okumnandi kunye nokucokisekileyo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uhlala ebhedeni lomyeni wakhe, mkholise. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba ininzi yamadoda iyakuthandana ngesondo kwaye iyayixhala xa ingayifumananga ngokwaneleyo. Amadoda amaninzi athande ukwenza abantwana, sebenzisa oku. Uthande umyeni wakho, rhoqo ulala naye. Kule meko ukuba amathuba okuba umhlobo wakho uya kuhlala ehleli nawe, akayi kukushiya ngexesha elinye. Zithande. Ungamvumeli umthandi wakho, njengoko athi, "sula imilenze yakho malunga nawe."
Ufanele ube nekratshi, ukuzihlonela. Khumbula ukuba unobumnandi kakhulu kwaye unomtsalane. Akayibizi? Musa ukuba ngumthwalo ozithandayo. Ukuba umntu obathandayo unyanzela ukuhlukana, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba kusondele kakhulu ukutshintsha into, mhlawumbi kufuneka uhlukane. Ngoko kuya kuba bubulumko bobabini. Ukuba umntu wakho unentloni kwaye unesihe ngaye, akayi kukushiya yedwa. Uthando lokwenene luyaziwa ngokuthelekiswa. Kuthekani ukuba umntu obathandayo akabibi ngokuphindaphindiweyo njengoko sifuna? Unganqikazi, zibiza wena. Mhlawumbi nje akanalo ixesha. Intanda yakho, kunye nawe, idinga amazwi amnene nolomnene. Musa ukusilela kwiincoma. Khumbula ukuba "igama elinobubele nenja lihle." Yiba ngumthandi wakho kunye nentombi yakho, kunye nenkosikazi yakho, udibanise umdlalo wakho wesondo. Ingxaki ezininzi kwiintsapho zitshatileyo zixhomekeke ngokuchanekileyo kwimeko yokuba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ulwalamano lwabo luqala ukubuthathaka. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, velisa imizwa yakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, entliziyweni yakho uphupha malunga nezo zesondo ezinjalo, ekungenakwenzeka ukuba unqunyulwe ukuba ucele. Xelela umnqweno wakho ngalo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba akayi kunqaba ukwenza okulungileyo.
Amadoda amaninzi anjengeentlobo ezingaqhelekanga zesini, sebenzisa oku, ungaphantsi komntu wakho. Zithande wena, umzimba wakho, ungayinqabeli intanda yakho inomdla. Ukuba wakho umthandayo akabibi, mxelela ukuba unobunzima bokuthintana, uthando, isisa, ukufudumala. Yiba yinto entsha kumyeni wakho, uvule kwicala elitsha. Amadoda amaninzi aphupha ukuba xa bebuya ekhaya bevela emsebenzini, badibana nomgcini onobunqamle (unobhala) kwi-skirt eqinile. Ukushiya umthandi wakho ngendlela entsha. Zama ngeengubo ezitsha, ukwenza, kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba zincinci iintswelo zakho ezifunwayo. Yiba nomdla kumthandi wakho. Njalo unyuse izinga lakho lemfundo. Ungesabi ukuba yingqiqo kunomyeni wakho. Umntu ozilumko akayi kuthoba iimbono zakhe zengqondo, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuncedisa ngazo zonke iindlela zakhe. Kufuneka ube ngowomthandayo, inkxaso. Ukuba umntu obathandayo akabizi, mhlawumbi kukho isizathu sokuziphatha okunjalo.
Ukuza ekhaya emva komsebenzi okhuselayo, indoda yakho kufuneka yazi ukuba apha kulindeleke, uhlala emkelekile. Uthando, uthando, oludibeneyo kunye nolonwabo lweentlobano zesini - isiqinisekiso sokulondolozwa kobudlelwane nobudlelwane obusondelene. Yiba yimfihlelo kumthande wakho. Yiloo nto inomdla kuye. Iminqweno yakho ayifanele ibekelwe kuphela ukupheka, ingxoxo malunga nezinto ezifashiniweyo. Kufuneka ubelane ngeminqweno kunye nentshisekelo yomthandi wakho, nokuba ngaba awuyiqondi into malunga nayo.