Unokuzuza njani ekugxekeni, nangona akubiyo?

Ukugxekwa kusoloko kusichukumisa. Ingaba kuyindaba yokuva oko "simhlophe kwaye sihlutha". Kodwa ukuba awufundanga ukwahlula phakathi kokuchasana nokunyaniseka, ukulungelelaniswa nokungalungi, kuya kuba nzima ukwakha ubuhlobo nabanye. Enyanisweni, yintoni ukugxekwa kuthi? Oku kungavumelani ngokukrakra okanye ukungathandabuzeki ekukhuthazeni kwezenzo zethu, kwaye sele sinelungelo lokuvuma okanye cha. Ngaphezu koko, umntu kufuneka akwazi ukufumana isiqalo esilungileyo ekugxekayo kwaye asebenzise oko okulungileyo. Ukugxeka kubahlobo kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini. Sizikhethela thina, zizinto ezithile ngathi. Ingxaki kukuba inqaku elinobubele lingazwakala kakuhle ngexesha (umhlobo akayi kumela umkhosi kwaye ulungele indlela yakho). Uninzi lwethu luza kutyhola iindlebe zethu, endaweni yokwamkela ngokukhawuleza ukugxeka nokuyisebenzisa.

Abahlobo abakwazi ukuthetha iminyaka emva kokuthetha okungaqhelekanga, umzekelo, malunga nomtshato okhawulezayo kunye nentombazana engakwaziyo nantoni na. Kwaye emva kweminyaka embalwa uqinisekile ukuba umhlobo onobucayi, utyhola ukungathandabuzeki, kwakulungile. Abahlobo kufuneka bakwazi ukuphulaphula, ukugxekwa kwabo kukubaluleke kakhulu. Ok, abahlobo banokuphulaphulwa, kodwa ukugxeka kubazali kunzima kakhulu.

Uninzi lweengcebiso zijoliswe ekunxibelelaniseni iikhokelo zoobawo nabantwana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi - inhlonipho yeembono zabazali, kwelinye - ilungelo lokuphila ubomi babo. Kodwa ilapha zakopanoratsionalnoe okusanhlamvu yentsingiselo yentsapho yabantwana abadala abangakafiki kwi-senile marasmus. Iseluleko silula - zibeke endaweni yazo. Ngubani, ukuba akunjalo wena, uyazi izinto ezibalulekileyo zokuphila komama wakho, unokukwazi ukuqonda ubunzima bezinye zezithuba zikayihlo! Ukugxeka inxalenye yabazali bakho kunokunxulunyaniswa, kulungelelaniso, kodwa ngokucacileyo kuqhubela phambili injongo-kukukwenza into enhle. Ukuzijonga emehlweni abo, umntu unokuyiqonda inkxalabo yabo, umzekelo, ngokuphathelele umdlalo wakho wokuba usebenze ngokuhlwa "ngenxa yobhiya" ngenxa iigugs zobhiya. Uze uzibuze, ngokwenene, awufuni ukuthatha okwesibini emva kwendebe ehlobo elishisayo? Ubusika buka-Asli, ke ugcine i-vodka grams ekhululekileyo? Kakade, into ethile, kunye nokunciphisa ubomi kwimeko yokuqala yokungahambi kakuhle, abazali bayakwazi ukuhamba phambi kwamehlo akho. Baqonde ukuba baqonde, ngendlela, nawe nibazali okanye kungekudala uza kuba, kunye namabango afanayo, kodwa sele sele ulwaphulo lwenu luya kuphulwa ngokulawulwa kwabantwana bakho bomda wonyaka. I-anecdote enhle: "Umama uhlamba intombi yakhe ngenxa yokuba lula, ngombono wakhe, ukuziphatha:" Ndiminyaka yakho ... ". Intombi yakhe iphazamisa: "... Kwiminyaka yakho ... Kwiminyaka yakho ... Ewe, kule minyaka sele sele unyaka kunye nesiqingatha!". Ukuhlonipha kunye nodumo kubazali, banakho ukubonisa into engalungileyo kwisimo sakho esivumelekileyo, ekuboneni kwakho, ukuba, ukuphulaphula, musa ukubilisa, isigxina seyure ucinge ngezinto ezivelelweyo (emva koko, akuzange kuthiwe), kwaye wenze izigqibo.

Ekusebenzeni, ukugxeka kufuneka kuthathwe ngokwaneleyo, akukwazi ukubonakala ngokuzenzekelayo, kunye nokugatya. Ukuba iqela eligxekiyo alinakukwenza kube nzima ukuba ulungelelaniso lwamazwi, kunye nokugqithisa amagama aqhelekileyo afana nokuthi "Oku akunjalo ngokwaneleyo!", Akunakulungele ukungena kwimpikiswano. Akuyi kubakho nantoni na enhle kuwe. Apha ungaphakamisa impendulo engumzekelo, ngokokuba umdlali ongeyibambelele kumazwi akho kwaye akaqali ukungazivumeli ukutshutshisa entsha. Buza ukuba bacacise ukuhlamba okungekho njongo. Kodwa ukuba ukugxekwa kulungile, ungesabi, ukugxeka okunempilo kukukhuthaza ekukhuleni kwakho, i-anikak ayisongelo. Ukuvuma ngokunyanisekileyo impazamo, ngaloo ndlela ubonise ubungcwele bakho, obuya kuqinisa kuphela idumela lakho.