Abadlali beCat kunye ne mouse
Khumbula, kwaye "I-autumn Marathon" utoliki ongu-mediocre ucela umntu onetyala kunye nesazela ukuba amncede ngokuguqulela? Kwaye ulawulwa ngonya ngombono womntu ongenakunceda-okanye kunoko, uphinde ubhale kwakhona yonke into entsha. Yena kunye nobomi bakhe abanalo ixesha elaneleyo, kodwa sele sele engena into engafanelekanga entloko yakhe kwaye akaqapheli ukuba amehlo aphikisayo entabeni - umguquleli omlandelayo uba yinto emibini enkulu, ekhangayo yenyaka. Imouse igxinyiwe - umsebenzi uyenziwe. Izandla ezingqongqo.
Umntu osisilumko
Yena, njengoko kuthethwa kwindoda elumkileyo, uyalela. Ngenxa yokungabikho kwabaphulaphuli ababanzi-ekhaya. Kunzima ukucinga, kuba inyaniso iyakhonkco kwaye kwimeko nganye kufuneka ifunyenwe. "I-oracle yasekhaya" yikhuphele kwiindawo eziseleyo yengqondo ececekileyo kanye kunye nayo yonke. Kuzo zonke izihlandlo unendlela eyodwa ebanzi: "Kwaye ndathi! Ndimele ndiphulaphule!" Oku kukhwela kunobuncwane kunokuba kuchazwe ngasentla: kunika "umntu osisilumko" ngokugqithisa kwengqondo ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na inzame (nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kwesizathu esincinci).
Iphiko lomnye umntu
Ngubani ongazange akhuthazele umlingane wakhe - umntwana ongunaphakade? Ukuba engagxininanga, ubugcisa obumangalisayo buyasetyenziselwa indima yintloni, engenakunqwenelekayo, ayisoloko eqonda into abayifunayo kuye, elinde ukukhawuleza (umgcini). Ukubizela ukulangazelela ngonaphakade kwabantu abanomdla-ukuthatha ngaphantsi kwephiko labantu ababuthathaka, abangahlanjululwayo - luhlelwe phantsi kwephiko lomnye umntu, njenge-cuckoo kwi-jack ye-robin: ukhululekile kwaye ucocekile. Akungabazeki - esi sihloko siza kusinda size sihlale (sihlale) sonke sisebenza nabo abanetalente nabathembisayo.
Umntwana kwintsapho
"Kwaye ke yonke into ihleli kum, kwaye ihlabathi lilele phantsi embhedeni yonke imini, yawela phantsi koqhekeko, kwaye akukho nto ibonakala kwangaphambili," - abanye abafazi bayichaza le ngongoma yeepesenti yee-90 kungekhona nje ngokuzilahla, kodwa ngovelwano - ngesihawu. Kutheni? Intukuthelo iya kuba yendalo. Kodwa akayi kwaye akayi kubakho, kuba i-hocus-pocus yaphumelela: "indoda elele embhedeni" yahlala kuye ngokukhawuleza kwaye ixesha elide. Kutheni ukhathazeka, hamba, ucinge ngesonka sohla ngemihla? Umfazi uyakuthanda ukusela, ukutya, ukunyanzelisa, ukuvelisa. Yinto ephindwe kabini-indlela ekhohlisayo ngayo ukuqhuba ekhaya inqwelo.
Kwaye nantsi enye inhlobo yeziqhamo "ukufihla amagundane kwisilinda":
Njani, awuzange uyive? (Awuboni na?)
Umqeshwa, oqhelekileyo emva kwexesha lesigama seyure, ugijimela eofisi ngokubukeka ngokukrakra: "Ewe, uthanda njani izolo?" Abantu baphakamisa iintloko zabo, inkosi ekhutheleyo iyayikhohlwa yonke into ayenjongo yokuyibeka "indoda engenangqondo." Oku kulandelayo nge-tele-sensation, nge pereprochennye kunye neenkcukacha zetyuwa ngaphezulu. Wonke umntu ujoyina kwingxoxo ngokukhawuleza, kwaye emva kwexesha elidlulileyo uhamba ngokukhawuleza emva kwedeski yakhe. Xa iinqununu zanciphisa, ingxaki ixakeke kumsebenzi wayo okwenza ukuba akhangele ukuba yinto engenakucacisa kakhulu ... Ukwamkelwa kuyinto engalungile, kodwa isebenza nakanjani.
Okanye imeko, ibuhlungu ngokuqhelekileyo kubo bonke nakumntu wonke:
Hayi ngekhredithi yakho!
Simi phambi kwekharityhulam, sihlolisise izibane zetekisi (ipane, iibhegi, abacoca i-vacuum - asisona sitshixo), ininzi esinako ukuyifumana. Emva kokuthanda ininzi, nceda ubonise enye elula. "Mhlawumbi lo?" - kunye nomthengisi osibonayo, ngokumomotheka kancinci, ugxininisa kumthunzi we-orange-lamp shade eFransi. "Kutheni na? Ndibonise!" - siphosa kwisigqibo, sitshisa ihlunu emqaleni kwaye sizenza ngathi, okuya kufuneka siyeke ngenxa yale nto yezilwandle ... Konke kulungile. Sathengile ekukhohliseni, ukubala ukuthenga - wathenga into ekude kakhulu kwizinto eziyimfuneko endlwini.
Olu hlobo luyilo oluqhelekileyo lwenkqubo ephantsi kwayo nayiphi na into eyenziwa ngayo: i-manipulator ibona ize ibale ngokukhawuleza ubuthathaka bethu. Zizinto "iimpahla", "ukuthenga" kunye "nokuthengisa" apho i-manipulator ihleli khona ebomini.
Kutheni sifundeka kubo, ngelixa kuthi "into-ngokwayo", "ibhokisi elimnyama"? Isisombululo sisekwimeko yokuba ukuphathwa, ngokuqhelekileyo kuthetha, kusemgangathweni. Kutheni uzenza umzamo ngokwakho, ukuba omnye umntu athathe? Abantwana, umz Luhlobo luni lobawo aluzange alubekele ngokulinganayo kwi-equations endaweni yelivi elimnandi oqala ukucela ifomula, "ubalekele" indlela yokuyisebenzisa, njl njl. kunye nezinye. Ukuvutha kwimemori, nabani na oya kukhumbula amaxesha amaninzi ahamba phezu kwempumlo yabanqwenela kakuhle, ebaphoqa ukuba babeke amathambo abo apho wayenobunene kakhulu ukuhambisa umunwe wakhe omncinci. Kodwa sakhula. Ngolunye usuku kwafika kuthi ukuba ukuthembela kwabanye akukhona nje into ehlazo, kodwa yingozi: umntu uhlazola, wenqaba ukunyamezela ubunzima bobomi ngokubambisana nawo wonke umntu. Ubuntu buchazwe. Into ephuma kuyo iyancipha, ngaphandle kokuba akukho ntlonipho okanye ukuzihlonipha. Kukhona umda ongeke uwele. Abaphathi beMatpulators bayigxile - kwaye bawa ngaphandle kwesibonda sabantu onokubambisana nabo. Yintoni ababenqwenela ukujoyina iinkokeli kunye nabaduni? Ayikwazi ukuthengisa into engenakuyithengisa: inceba, inceba, uvelwano, uthando? - Yazi iinyaniso ezimbalwa ezilula. Kwaye okokuqala kukuqonda: siyazivumela ukuba siziphathe. Kutheni, ukuba kungeyonto engathandekiyo, uyasichukumisa ukuba sisishumi leshumi siwele kwi-bait ye-Dodger? ("Ungathini na?")
Kwaye akunjalo ukunyamezela, kungekhona umnqweno wokumrhoxisa umntwana ngokukhawuleza, ukunyanzelisa ukuba sikhuphe iifomu esikhundleni sawo? Ukufundisa, ukutolika, ukucacisa, ukucela ukuphinda - ubude kwaye udideke, kulula ukwenza ngokwakho ("Uncede").
Ihlazo lobuxoki, kwaye akukho nto, isitsho ukuba sibeke umvuzo wenyanga wezinto ezingenasidingo ("Hayi ngekhredithi yakho"). Akunakulungele konke, kodwa ukunganakwa (okanye, kunoko, ukwesaba) kunamandla eminyaka ukuhlambalaza kunye nomntu onobuqili ohlala kwindawo yomnye umntu ("Iphiko eliphilileyo.") Xa uqaphela ukuba ubanjwa kuphela ngenxa yobuthakathaka bakho, kulula ukuba uqaphele ixesha lokunyanzelisa. , ukuthetha ngokufuziselayo, uphawu oluthembekileyo lokuba ulungele ukuba yi "mouse" unesidima sokuhlazeka kunye nokuphazamiseka. Uyakuzonda ukwenza oko i-cylinder emnyama elandelayo ifuna (mhlawumbi ngenyameko, i-veiledly): uboleke , biza "ilungelo" (kungekhona wena, kodwa kuye) h Umntu, "Umhlobo ukujonga" inkambo-njl., njl.
Kuhlala kunzima ukulahla: umdlali ekhatsini kunye nemouse ukwakha izibalo zakhe ngeendlela ezininzi. Kwaye awufuni. Musa ukuthi cha. Kukho inqaku elinye lemilingo elithinteliyo naluphi na ukunyanzeliswa-kokubambisa kunye nokugqithiseleyo. Nantsi le nto: "Ndiyaxhalaba ukuba uyazigqithisa (ndiyakwazi ukunyanisela) am buchule (izibonelelo, amathuba)". Umlindi wecala uya kuphuthuma ukuphikisana ngokuthi akunjalo, uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo kwakho nokunyamekela, ukubonela phambili nokunika inceba ... Kodwa umzuzu ulahlekile - amehlo enkatha sele ekhanyisile, i-cylinder emnyama yomlindi ibonakala ngokucacileyo. Ngoku unokuhamba ngokukhawuleza ukuya kuthiwa ukukhuseleka, ungaphenduli nxamnye nentshutshiso. Mhlawumbi awuzange uqondwe okanye ungaqondi kakuhle. Shintsha ingxoxo kwenye isihloko. "Khumbulani", ukuba uya kufumana umnxeba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye imicimbi iyaziwa kwaye kufuneka ubaleke. I-manipulator inokwenzeka ukuba iya kusuka kuwe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukususela kwinqanaba lokujonga i-psychiatry manipulators "bangaboni bobubala": ubudlelwane bomntu obuhlukeneyo bubahlupha, kuba sele bekhethile imibala emibili: imfusa kunye nomnyama, "kufuneka" - "ayifuni". Ukuxhatshazwa kuyingozi yokuziphatha okubi. Akunakwenzeka ukusebenzisa abanye ngokungenasikweni kwimpilo yengqondo. Yingakho abaninzi abantu bexakeka. "Ukuzingela" kwesinye kudinga ukunyamezela rhoqo. Abantu abanesiphukuphuku bayaqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukubala zonke iimeko ezibucayi. Kwaye emva kweso sihlandlo esilandelayo, enye yazo iyaqhubeka phambi kwazo zonke izinto ezimbi. Into edabukisayo kukuba abaxhasi, ukuba ngabadlali bezakhono baze bafikelele kwiindawo eziphakamileyo "zobugcisa bokuziphatha," balahlekelwa yinto encinane, leyo ngenxa yezinye izizathu abazange bacinge ngayo ngobomi babo. Ngenxa yokuba umbala - ubuhlobo, uthando, ukunqwenela, uthando luhlala luphazamisekile.
Lyubov Scherbatova
"Ugqirha wentsapho", # 5, 2000