Sitshintsha isimo sengqondo esibi ngokubonakala

Sonke sihluke -hluke kwaye asikwazi. Kodwa eyedwa iyayolisa, ngelixa elinye libuhlungu ... Ungatshintsha njani isimo sengqondo esibi ngokubonakala?

Ukungabikho okanye ukubonakala? Ngelixa uza kuqonda umahluko wakho kwabanye njengento engalunganga, kuya kuba njalo. Kodwa ukuba utshintshe isimo sengqondo esibi ukubonakala kweyona nto ibhetele, indlela yokuphila ngokukhawuleza iqala ngayo ukudlala ngemibala eqaqambileyo.

Ukulahla izakhiwo zabo kwaye utshintshe iimvakalelo ezimbi ngokubonakala. Ngaba ucinga ukuba onke la mazwi amnandi nje awanakukunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki ngokubonakala? Ewe, masiqale sizame ukukutshintsha.


Ucinga ukuba "awufani" ubude okanye isisindo, "kungekhona ukuba" amabele okanye intsimbi, "inkulumo engalunganga okanye indlela yokugqoka. Yaye ibetha abantu kunye kwaye ikuthintele ekunandipha ubomi. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukuhlala nokukhathazeka, ukungenzi nto, kulula.

Kodwa ke ubomi buya kudlula. Ngaba yiloo nto oyifunayo?

Ukukrazula ezinye iimpazamo ezibonakalayo, kaninzi azikho kunye nabo, kodwa kunye nobudoda babo. Okokuqala, cinga, yintoni okanye ngubani onokukunceda ukulungisa ukubonakala kwakho okanye ubuncinane ukwenza ukuba "ukungabi" kwakho kungabonakali?


Ngaba ucinga ukuba iqela lakho likude? Zibophezele ukuba uqhubeke nokutya, wenze i-gymnastics, uye echibini. Emva kokuba ufunde ukulawula umzimba wakho, uya kumangaliswa ukufumanisa ukuba akutshintshi nje ngokubonakala. Amandla omoya, amandla okufezekisa oko ufuna, konke oku kuza kukuphakamisa emehlweni akho nakwamehlo abanye kwaye utshintshe izimo ezimbi malunga nokubonakala.

Iingxaki ezininzi ezibonakalayo ziya kunceda ukuxazulula iingubo ezikhethiweyo kakuhle, ukwakheka kakuhle kunye nekhanda eliphumelelayo. Awunakukwazi ukujamelana nalo msebenzi ngokwakho - qhagamshelana nomntu othayibhile. Zama ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo esibi ngokubonakala, kholwa mna, uya kuphumelela!

Ukulungisa isichazi magama, vula kwi-therapist. Ukulahla i-govor, amagama angama-parasitic kwaye ufunde ukuthetha ngokufanelekileyo nangokuhle kwiikhosi zezakhono ze-oratorical. Kakade, kufuneka usebenze kanzima: kufuneka uqaphele intetho yakho, yenza izinto zokuzivocavoca. Kodwa injongo iyafaneleka, akunjalo?

Ukwenza i-gait ibe yinto enhle kwaye ikhangayo iya kunceda iiklasi zokudanisa. Ngaphezu koko, baya kukuvumela kwiiklabhu okanye kwimibutho yeenkampani ukuba zibonise ngokwabo bonke ubuqaqawuli, baqhelane namadoda anomdla, kwaye musa ukuma ngokudabukisayo ngaphandle.


Shintsha umbono wakho kwimeko

Kakade ke, akubona bonke abakulungele ukulungiswa. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uyazi ukuba abantu basiphatha njengokuba sizenza thina. Oku kuthetha ukuba xa unentloni "ngokuswela" kwakho, ukhangele ingqalelo kwaye unike abantu isizathu sokubamba ngomunwe wakho.


Yeka ukuyeka ukumbona njengento embi nehlazo. Phinda uziphindiselele: "Oku akusiyo iphutha, kodwa into ekhethekileyo, into eyenza ukuba ndibe yinto ekhethekileyo kwaye ndimelele kwisihlwele."

Qondani, kodwa musa ukufihla emva "kwesiphene" sakho into? Mhlawumbi akukho ukukhula okuncinci okanye impumlo ende ekhusela ekufumaneni iqabane lomntu, kodwa nje ukungakwazi ukuthetha kunye nesini esahlukileyo?

Ingaba ucinga ukuba umsebenzi wakho udibana ngenxa yokubonakala "okungafanelekanga"? Kwaye ngaba uzame ukuphakamisa izinga lakho lobugcisa? Khumbula into ephambili: sizakhela ubomi bethu, kungekhona kuthi, sitshintsha isimo sengqondo esibi ekubonakaleni.


Ngameva ...

Ukulwa nobunzima kuyisinyathelo esibalulekileyo ekujoliswe kuyo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uvavanya njani imeko: uya kubona kwinkinga ingxaki okanye ithuba elingalindelekanga. Kwimeko yokuqala, uya kulukhuphaza loo mqathango, uya kuziva uxolo. Ngomnye uya kuqonda ukuba isithintelo siyi-springboard yokukhutshwa. Ngakumbi ithemba!


Nolonwabo kwintoni?

Iingcali zengqondo zifumene ukuba i-21% yabasetyhini abasebenzelana nophando lweplastiki bafumana iphutha elitsha ngokwabo kwiinyanga ezili-3-4, ezibathintele ukuba baphile, kunye nokulungiswa: ukuba abazange bathande ukuma kwempumlo ngaphambili, ngoku iindlebe zenziwa "zetyala" okanye esifubeni. I-57% inokubamba unyaka. Kwaye kuphela i-22% ye-operation yandinceda ukufumana ukuvumelana kunye. Isiphelo: izizathu zokunganeliseki - kungekhona ngokubonakalayo, kodwa ngokuzijonga.