Izizathu.
Wonke umntu omdala ebomini bakhe udibana nohlobo lokuzihlaziya. Kule meko, ngokukodwa nabangaphandle, unokulahleka lula kwaye ulahlekelwe ngumlawuli. Ngamanye amaxesha awona mama asemnandi asekupheleni kokufa ngaphambi kokungabikho komntwana. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, indlela efanelekileyo yokucinga ngezizathu zokuphazamiseka kwengxaki yomntwana. Umzekelo, umntwana ngezinye iinkhathi akanakho okwaneleyo ngqalelo yakho, kwaye uzama ukuwuphumelela ngale ndlela.
Abantwana baqala ukuba bengenangqiqo kwiminyaka eyi-1. Oku kubangelwa ukuba kweli xesha umntwana uhlala kuphela ngeemfuno kunye neminqweno yakhe. Kodwa umkhwa onjalo unokumiselwa kwimeko yomntwana uze udluliselwe ekubeni ngumntu omdala.
Indlela yokuziphatha nokujongana neengxabano zomntwana?
- Ukuba abahlaziyi bavuselela, into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyiyo ingxaki. Emva koko, ngumqondiso wokuba umntwana uqala ukukhula, njengoko unokukwazi ukubonisa iingcinga kunye nomnqweno.
- Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uzama ukukusebenzisa aze athole yonke into ayifunayo. Ukukhubaza ukuphathwa kakuhle kulula, jonga umntwana wakho nje. Qaphela ukuba uyakhala njani kwaye yintoni enomnceda ukuba azinciphe. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba umntwana uzama ukukuphatha, makhe sikwenze kucacise ukuba awuvumelani nezenzo zakhe.
- Ungathatha umntwana ezandleni zakho, ubambelele ngokuqinile kwaye ulinde umntwana ukuba azinqabise, avelise uvelwano lwakhe, mhlawumbi ngegama elinye, eliphindaphindiweyo elibini.
- Zama kwakhona ukuthetha rhoqo nomntwana ngesimo sakhe sengqondo kunye neminqweno, iimfuno kunye neemfanelo zakhe.
Iingcebiso zengqondo yezengqondo zibhekela ezi zinto zilandelayo: ukuze silwe namaqhinga abantwana bethu, okokuqala sifuna ukuqonda ubunjani babo. Isizathu esibalulekileyo sokubandezeleka kwabantwana kukukhathala, impilo embi, ukulindela into ethile, ukungazalisi umnqweno, ukwesaba, umnqweno wokuchaphazela abantu abadala.
Iimfuneko zokubandezeleka kwezingane kwiimeko ezininzi zingabonwa ngokukhawuleza. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ulambile, ke ungayithathi nawe kwivenkile. Emva koko, apho, mhlawumbi, ufuna into enhle.
Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa iintlobo ezimbini zeentlanzi:
1) Iimpawu zobungqina. Kule meko, umntwana uzama ukubonisa zonke iimpawu zakhe ezimbi. Injongo yolu hlobo lugxininiso kukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo oluye lwaphuhliswa. Isidingo sokulala, ukutya, ukuphumla ngokomzimba okanye nje urhulumente ovuyayo unokubangela ukuba lezidanga.
2) Abahlaziyi bamachule. Injongo yalo kukuzama ukulawula abanye abantu. Ubungqina obunjalo buqala kwintsana xa efumana ukungavumi: ufuna ukudlala umdlalo onokuyidlala ngawo omnye umntwana; Ufuna ukudansa kwiphephethi egumbini lokuhlala kunye ngexesha elifanayo ukusela ijusi ye-orange; ufuna ukupenda iindonga kunye neepati. Kule meko, indawo yokuphefumula ingaba luncedo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba kususwe umntwana kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, apho angahlala khona nabantu.
Makhe sibone ezinye zeempawu ezivela ebomini.
Makhe sicinge ngenye imeko ethile. Umzekelo, umntwana wakho, ekuthuthweni kwezithuthi zikawonkewonke, umntwana wakho wayefuna ukutya ice cream. Awuzange umvumele ukuba enze oku kwaye umntwana wakho wayenomdla.
Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa kwiimeko ezinjalo:
- Musa ukunyamekela ingqwalasela yokubheka abantu abangaphandle kwamanye amazwe kunye nexhala. Emva koko, ngamnye ujamelana neemeko ezifanayo kwaye unokukuqonda.
- Ukubonakalisa ngaphambi kokuba umntwana akhuphe i-agent causative of hysteria. Umzekelo, phonsa ice cream ngaphandle kwefestile okanye ufihle kwisikhwama. Ngexesha elifanayo, inkunzi kufuneka ixelelwe ukuba ukuba akayekanga ukuba nengqiqo, akayi kuphinda athathe i-ice cream.
- Ungaphinde ubeke u-ayisikrimu kwisikhwama uze uthule indlebe yakho ukuba utshele umntwana ukuba awukwazi ukulinda uze ufike ekhaya uze udle kunye ne-ayisikrimu ethakazelisayo.
- Ukuba ezi ndlela zingentla zingancedi, iingcali zengqondo zicebise ukuba zingayithobeli i-whims zezingane kwaye zenze umgaqo "wokukhala kunye nokuzola." Oomama abaninzi kumava abo baqinisekiswa ngokusetyenziswa kwale ndlela.
Omnye umzekelo - umntwana ugxininisa ukusela isiselo se-orange kwisigumbi sokuhlala. Ekubeni unqweneli ukuba athathe i-carpet entsha engcolileyo, mnike ithuba lokukhetha:
- Ncedisa i juzi
- Phuza ijusi ekhitshini
- Phuza amanzi kwindawo yokuhlala
Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa imigaqo emininzi yokulwa nokuphazamiseka kwabantwana.
- Okokuqala, ungathathi umzanyana womntwana. Kufuneka umxelele ukuba awuyithandi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha, kwaye awuvumelani nezenzo zakhe.
- Okwesibini, ungabandakanyi ithuba lokuhlukanisa umntwana. Kumele kuthathwe kwindawo ethile ethule apho unokuhlaziya khona.
- Okwesithathu, zama ukufundisa umntwana ukuba abonise iimvakalelo zabo, kubandakanyeka kwiindlela ezimbi, ezamkelekileyo.
- Okwesine, qiniseka kwizenzo zakho.
Musa ukulibala ukuba umntwana ngumntu ofanayo nathi, kunye neminqweno nemigaqo yethu. Kwaye, naye unelungelo lokuthukuthela nokucaphuka kwiimeko ezithile. Kodwa ukuba zithatyathwa yimvakalelo emibi, zama ukubonisa intlonipho nomonde kumntwana.