Ukuba sibheka abantwana ngokuphambuka kwasebuntwaneni, ukuxubusha komntu kunye nomama akuyi kuba yimpumelelo ekuphuhlisweni komntwana. Umntwana akawuboni umama wakhe njengeqabane ekukhulumisaneni. Ubungqina bendawo yengqondo yomntwana kunye nokuphambuka kancinci ekuphuhliseni kukuba ekuqaleni kwakufuneka iimfuneko zokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yakhe. Le meko yenza kube nzima kuye ukuphuhlisa phambili.
Abantwana abanjalo banobuthathaka kwaye kaninzi abakwazi ukumelana nemithwalo yengqondo kunye nomzimba ehambelana neminyaka yabo. Bakhathala ngokukhawuleza, kwaye nxamnye nale mvelaphi kukho ukungcola okanye ngokuphambene nanjalo, kwaye abanakukwazi ukugxila ingqalelo.
Abantwana abanokuphulukana nokuphuhliswa ngokomzwelo nangomntu ngamnye kwiminyaka emithathu abakulungele ukusebenzisana nabantu abadala kwaye banxibelelana nabaontanga. Kunzima ukuba abantwana abanjalo baphume kwimeko ethile ebomini baye kwelinye.
Ingxaki yabantwana kwiminyaka yokuqala kunye neyokuqala kwimigangatho eyahlukeneyo yophuhliso, ukusekwa kwemisebenzi kwenzeka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nokulibaziseka. Abantwana abakhubazekileyo banokuncedwa kuphela ngoqeqesho oluzinjongo kunye nolunye.
Ngethuba lokuqala kwexesha lesikolo, abantwana abaneziphene abanakho ukubonakaliswa kobuqu, baxhomekeke kumntu omdala. Ukuba awujongani nomntwana onjalo kunye nophuhliso olukhethekileyo kunye noqeqesho, ngoko utshintsho kummandla wezemvakalelo womntwana aluyi kwenzeka.
Umntwana waya esikolweni. Kuye oku kunzima kunzima, ngokukodwa kwimiba yeemvakalelo. Ukuxinezeleka okuhambelana nezigaba zobomi besikolo, kunye nokunyuka kweemfuno kumntwana, kubangele uxinzelelo oluthile lweengqondo, oluvame ukukhokelela kwiintsholongwane. Le meko ibandakanya ukungonakaliswa ngokubanzi kwezempilo.
Oku kuya kuthintela ngokukhawuleza ukufunda, ukugqithisa ingqwalasela, ukulahlekelwa kweememori, iingxaki zokuthetha (kunye nokukhwaza), kunye nokwesaba kootitshala. Ngenxa yoko, ukungenzi umsebenzi wasekhaya, ukungabikho emsebenzini, njl njl. Xa uncedo olufike ngexesha, yonke into iya kubuya ejwayelekile.
Lo mntwana unenkathazo kunye noontanga bakhe nabadala. Umntwana onamahloni unobungangamsha, uhlambalaza, okanye unobungozi. Ukunyameka kuthathwa njengogqirha njengengozi eyingozi kwindawo yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo (DISTRESS). Ukuba awuyikulungisa izizathu ze-dezaptaty yengqondo ngexesha elifanelekileyo, oku kunokukhokelela ekubonakaleni kweempawu zentsholongwane.
Esikolweni, utitshala angeke akwazi ukulungisa imeko edibeneyo eyenziwe, umzekelo kwintsapho. Kuyabonakala ukuba umntwana usexinzelelekileyo kwaye kubonakala ukuba abazali bakhe bokuphuza babeseleyo. Okanye omnye umzekelo - umntwana omncinane ubonakale kwintsapho, kwaye unomona nje umntwana. Kodwa kukho imeko xa i-maladaptation ikhona esikolweni. Izizathu zingabininzi - umntwana uhanjiswe kwisikolo esitsha okanye kwelinye iklasi. Kwiqela elidala walala kunye noontanga, kwaye wayengumfundi ongcono. Kwaye kwinqanaba elitsha kwiqela elikhoyo kufuneka livunywe. Nangona kungekho nto ingqubuzanayo, umntwana ufumana uxinzelelo lweengqondo. Kule meko, utitshala makancedise umntwana ukuba ajoyine iqela labantwana. Oku kuya kunceda ukuchonga iimpawu zokuphumelela zomntwana, eziza kuyanconywa ngabalingana nabo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, iingcebiso ezimbalwa zabazali. Ubomi besikolo kumntwana wakho bunzima kwiimvakalelo zomzwelo. Ngoko, bonisa umonde nokuqonda. Musa ukwenza iziphakamiso eziphezulu, mhlawumbi ezingaphezu kwamandla akhe. Ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho, ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwiimpawu ezimbi kuya kubakho nto - ukuphela kwengcinezelo. Thelekisa nabanye abantwana ngomgaqo - ungalunganga, kodwa akulungile. Kungcono ukuqonda isizathu kwaye uncede ukulungisa imeko. Xa ulungisa ukuziphatha komntwana, zama ukuxhomekeka kwixesha elihle. Kwintsapho kukho kufuneka kube nomoya onobubele, odla ngokudlala nomntwana kwimidlalo yeselula. Ngoko ke, nikela ukuphuma kwemvakalelo kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo.
Uluntu lwabantu banamhlanje luba luhlobo lokuba ukutshatyalaliswa kweentsapho kuye kwaba yingxaki ekhoyo kwiminyaka yamuva. Kwizi ntsapho, ukukhuliswa kunye nobomi bomntwana akulula kwaye oku kubonakala ngokucacileyo kwizinto ezizodwa zokuphuhliswa kwakhe. Emva kokuwa kweentsapho, isimo sengqondo somntwana sibuhlungu, njengokuba ukuzithemba kunye nesimo sengqondo kubantu abasondeleyo. Kwizo ntsapho, abantwana abaneziphene ekuphuhlisweni komzimba kunye nokuziphatha bahlala bekhula. Kodwa ukuba ulungiso olufanelekileyo ngexesha lokuphuhliswa komntwana lwenziwe, ngoko yonke into ingagcinwa.