Umnikezeli wesidoda ofana nomdumo
Ekuqaleni kubonwa njengentlanzi, kwaye ngoku kuvele ukuba oku akuyona nje inkundla, kodwa uhlobo olutsha lwezoshishino. Kwenzeka ukuba unina onokuba ngumnye umbane kunye neyezinye iindawo zokungcebeleka kwiibhanki zabaxhasi kwaye ngokuzimela wenza isigqibo malunga nokuvela kwexesha elizayo umntwana. Nendlela yokuchaza okukhethayo? Omnye olula ukubonisa ukubonakala kwenkwenkwezi oyithandayo. Emva koko, ubuhle bangaphandle bunokwenza umsebenzi omhle kwezinye izikhokelo zomsebenzi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho umngcipheko wendlela ephikisanayo ngomoya "Ndiyalele uTimberlake ngokwam." Indlela inkonzo isebenza ngayo: isivakalisi sesayithi sinokukhetha kwiluhlu lwamagama adumile eempawu zakhe zesini. Ikhompyutheni iya kucwangcisa isicelo kwaye ikhuphe imibuzo ekunikeni abaxhasi bendoda abanesimo sangaphandle neenkwenkwezi (isantya sokufana kufana ukusuka kwi-50 ukuya kwi-100%). Kuluhlu kukho amagama anjengo-Eliya Wood, i-Vin Diesel, uTom Hanke, uDavid Beckham, uColin Farrell, u-Justin Timberlake. Ngendlela efanayo, kukho ukuhweba okukhulu "kwintengiso" enjalo "njengesithombe somntwana" okanye intetho yomswano kunye nomnikeli. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba, lo mkhwa omtsha awukho nje ukuhamba ngokumaketha; emva koko, bonke abantu bazintlobo ezahlukeneyo kunye neenkwenkwezi nazo. Yaye ingaba ukuthengiswa okungaqhelekanga kuya kuhambelana nabazali abanokuvela kwiinjongo zokuziphatha - siya kubona.
Iholide zezingane eziphambili zisaziwa
Kwexesha elithile yayithandwa kakhulu ukuguqula iintsuku zokuzalwa komntwana zibe ngumboniso wezinto ezinokwenzeka zesikhwama somzali: "ukugibela" kwabantwana kwii-helicopter, ukuqashisa ihora nganye ze-mini-zoo, ukuyalelwa kweememo zokuyila kunye nerediyo yokurekhoda kweediski yomculo. Iholide yabantwana iba yintlangano yentlalo yabathengi kubazali abanamashumi amawaka eedola. Kwafika kwinto yokuba kwakungekho mfuneko ukunika izipho kuloo mihla yokuzalwa. Le fashoni yakhawuleza isasazeka ngeenxa zonke kwihlabathi, kodwa ngexesha lobunzima bezoqoqosho kwihlabathi laqala ukubonakala lingalunganga. Ukongeza, abazali baqaphela ukuba iholide yabantwana ngokuyinhloko iipesele, ibhola, izipho kunye nemidlalo. Kodwa le shishini alisayi kunqanda: ii-agesi zeeholide zizabalazela ukugcina imodeli ebiza iindleko "zokuhamba". Baqulunqa amaqela angamaqhekeza angavamile - kwaye azwakalise ngokubanzi. Ngokomzekelo, ngoku kutshanje, i-asejensi yase-Australia ukulungiselela iholide Iimvengevenge kwingqungquthela yengxolo ejikeleze isitala se-heroines "Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye nesiXeko" inikeze "imveliso" emantombazaneni - usuku lwe-spa. Inkampani yamantombazana emhlophe i-limousine emhlophe iyathathwa yonke imini kwi-spa ekhethekileyo yabantwana. Intombazana nganye inikwe iingubo ezimnyama kunye neenwele zeenwele. Kwi "iphakheji" yeholide ifaka i-lavender foot foot kunye nama-rose petals, iimaski zobuso kunye ne-cocoa kunye namakhukhamba, ukupota kwesikhonkwane, ukugcoba umzimba, i-pedicure, i-hair styling, ukwakheka, i-cocktail kunye nama-strawberries. UMlawuli we-arhente uShiyiyi Matthews uyavuma: "Kakade, oku akunakunzima ukunyamekela. Amantombazana amancinane afuna ukuzama inxaxheba ebalulekileyo kumzekelo. Iholide edibeneyo kunye neyokuzonwabisa kunye nemidlalo kunye nokuzonwabisa. " Limousine - ewe, kukho ikiti, ubuhle - kwakhona, kodwa ngoku nje ngumdlalo. Kwaye konke oku kuthobe ngakumbi kuneendlela zokuhamba ngee-helicopter, kunye nokuqasha i-zoo. Kubonakala ngathi, ukuthobela kwatholakala.
Utata ungumzali osebenzayo
Umzali osebenzayo - kulo mongo, igama elisetyenziselwa ukubhekisela kubani abaguqula i-diapers, bavuka ebusuku kumntwana, bamkhokele oogqirha kwaye ngokubanzi baqhuba amakhaya xa umzali wesibini efumana imali yokuphila. Ngoku umama nootata baqalisa ukutshintsha iimbopheleleko: ezivela kwizinto ezingaqhelekanga, ibali likaTata "obazali bomzali" liba ngumgangatho woluntu. Isizathu sokutshintshwa kweempawu eziphawulekayo kulungelelaniso: kwiimeko zangoku zezoqoqosho, umntu oye wagwenxa umsebenzi wokugxothwa kweengxaki kwaye ngamanye amaxesha lo mntu usapho usuka kuba ngumfazi. Ayaziwa ukuba indlela entsha iya kuthintela njani ukusasazwa kwezesondo kwintsapho. Yintoni ebalulekileyo yile: okokuqala ngethuba ixesha elide abapapa babandakanyeka kakhulu ekukhulisweni kwabantwana - kwaye bafumana ithuba lokuba banxulumane nabo.
Ukuncelisa: ixesha liyimali
Oku akusiyo imfashini, kodwa ukuzijonga ngokubaluleka komphakathi wabazali, ngakumbi i-blogosphere. Ngethuba elidlulileyo, ukuxiliswa kwexesha elide kwakubonwa njengento ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa kakuhle kwengane, kunye nempilo kamama ngokukodwa. Ngoku sithetha ngexesha elidityanisiweyo: amaninzi amabhinqa akhetha isiqingatha sonyaka sokuncelisa, njengento yokukhetha, ukuzithobela kunye nokuhlonela umntwana. Izizathu zalo mkhwa zinxulumene kakhulu neenguqu kwiimarike zabasebenzi.
I-Helikopter-echaza phantse kwixesha elidlulileyo
"I-helicopter parenting" yinkqubo yomzali, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ekunyamekelweni kwangoko apho umntwana uya kufunda khona kwaye asebenze kwikamva elikude. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuchazwa kwe-helikopter kubizwa ngokuba yintolongo yothando lomzali, echazwe njengengxangxanxha enkulu yokumisela phambili impumelelo yentlalo yomntwana. Emva koko, umntwana obhalise kwiyunivesithi ukwenzela ukhethe okhethekileyo ngabazali kufuneka afane nesifiso sabazali ngezipikili ezincinane. Kodwa eneneni unelungelo lokukhetha, kuphi na kuye kuye ukufunda kunye nokusebenza kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini. Ngako oko, abazali abajongene nokuphumelela kwentlalo yomntwana ngoku bangaphandle kwimoya.
Iimpawu zezemfundo ayifanelekanga
Inzondelelo yoluntu lwabazali malunga nokuphuhliswa kokuqala kwabantwana, zonke iintlobo zokuphucula izixhobo kunye nootitshala besana kwihlabathi lonke liye lawa ngokukhawuleza. Umbutho uhamba ngokukhawuleza ekukholweni ukuba umntwana unokufundiswa ngokukodwa xa evuthiwe ngenxa yemoya, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Indlela eyahlukileyo malunga nokufunda iiklasi zasekhaya. Mhlawumbi izizathu zonke zokufumana ukuthandwa koqeqesho - ngokungabikho kwengcinezelo evela "kwiziko loluntu." Incoko ye-EU kukuba umntwana akagqoki i-diapers ezilahlayo, kwaye abazali bafunda ngesidingo sokuya kwindlu yangasese ekuhambeni komzimba, ukubonakalisa ubuso kunye nokubonakalisa izimpawu. Okwangoku, kunzima ukuba umzali wabahlali bangenelele ekusebenzeni kwabo kwangoku ubomi: oomama nabanamhlanje banokusebenza kwaye bengakulungele ukuhlaziswa kweentlanga. Kodwa kukho kakade isicatshulwa esicacileyo sokusombulula izisombululo.
Ukuthintela ukunqanda
Ifashoni entsha kwinkqubo yokukhulisa abantwana "ivumelekile". Okokuthi, umzekelo, musa ukwenza intlekele, ukuba umntwana ukhuphukele emgodini, ngengozi wabona ifilimu yoononopopayi, athabatha isiselo somzali okanye afungela ukungcola. Umkhonto uyamangalisa, kodwa abameli bawo bathi: mayeke ukuba ngqiqo, inkunzi iyafana nabazali bakhe, iyakuthatha izakhono zokuziphatha kwintsapho yakhe kunye nemimandla engqongileyo. Nika umzekelo omhle - kwaye umntwana uya kukopa okulungileyo. Umkhonto awukho mthethweni nakwezinye izizathu. Kwi-psychoanalysis, kukho iparadigm leyo i-neurosis iyimfuneko yokuyeka. Ukuba umntwana ubonisa umdla obaluleke kakhulu kwinto ethile, ukuziphatha okuvakalayo okanye ukuchasana kwabantu abadala kunokukwenza ukuba le nxaxheba ibe yinto enomdla kwaye ibuhlungu.
Buyele kwikamva: ukubuyela kwimilinganiselo yemveli
Umongo uqulethe izinto ezimbini: imitshato yaseburhulumenteni kunye nabantwana ngokukhawuleza yalahlekelwa ukunyaniseka kunye nenkululeko yenkululeko. Kuyinkwenkwezi ngoku ukuba abantwana bazalwa emva kokuba "isitampu epasipoti" kunye nomtshato. Kubonakala ukuba, uluntu lwabazali luhlala lukhusela abantwana babo kwiingozi zexesha elibuhlungu. Kwaye ulawulo oludala "Asibutyebi kakhulu ukuthenga izinto ezincinci" ubuyele kwimfashini, kunye nomtshato osemthethweni. Kwiminyaka elishumi edlulileyo, ii-wheelchairs eziphezulu zezobuchwepheshe zedola ezili-1 zaye zacingwa njengezityebi. Namhlanje, ezi zilungelelaniso zibonwa njengenxalenye yentsapho, ebeka ukuzalwa kwabantwana abancinci kunye nokudala intsapho eqinile. Ukhokelo lwesithathu lwesimo sinomnqweno wokunika abantwana imfundo yonqulo epheleleyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba nokholo lobuqu okanye ukungakholelwa kuThixo kwabazali ngokwabo. Oku kwenzekayo, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba abazali bafuna izixhobo ezingokomfuziselo kunye nefilosofi zokuxubusha iingundoqo ezibalulekileyo nokukhuthaza abantu kubantwana. Emva kwakho konke, imfashoni iza kwaye ihambe, kwaye iimpawu ezingunaphakade ezifana nobubele, uthando kunye noxanduva.