Ingqwalasela yinkqubo yokwazisa eyenza ngokukhetha kwaye ijoliswe kwinto. Ukuba umntwana unomgangatho ophezulu wokuphuhliswa kwengqalelo, ngoko kuya kumnceda xa efunda esikolweni, uya kuba lula ukugxila, kwaye akayi kuphazamiseka. Nangona umntwana esincinci, ingqwalasela yakhe ayiyiyo, ayikwazi ukuyilawula, uhlala ephazamiseka emsebenzini omkhulu, kunzima ukugxila. Kule nkalo, nayiphi na into eyenziwa ngumntwana engapheliyo, ezele ngokubonakalayo, akayikugqiba enye into, ulandele enye.
Yingakho, de kube umntwana ekhulile, abantu abadala kufuneka bamncede ahlakulele ingqalelo ngokuzithandela. Isiphumo asiyi kukulinda ixesha elide, kwaye abazali baya kukwaneliseka ngokufumanisa ukuba kunye nokuphuhliswa kwengqalelo ngokuzithandela umntwana unengqiqo yemfanelo, ngoku wenza ngokunyanisekileyo nayiphi na imisebenzi, nokuba ayinakuchukumisa. Ingqwalasela engabonakaliyo inemihlaba emininzi, ukuphuhliswa kwayo okuyimfuneko ekuphuculeni kwayo ngokuqhubekayo. Umzekelo, enye yeepropati ngumlinganiselo wokuqwalaselwa. Ingqondo yomntwana iyakwazi ukufihla inani lezinto ezihambelanayo, eli nani libizwa ngokuba ngumthamo.
Ukongezelela, ukuba umntwana angagxininisa kwizinto eziliqela, le yipropati yokugxininisa. Ipropati elandelayo yenkcazo ilandelwa kwinqanaba elidlulileyo, kwaye kufuneka liphuhliswe kwintsana. Ngokugxininisa kwizinto ezininzi, umntwana angenza izinto ezininzi ngokubhekiselele kubo, ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yinto nayiphi na into, ukuze inkomo ifunde ukuhambisa ingqalelo.
Kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha kunye nokutshintsha ingqalelo, olu buchule luya kunceda kwixesha elizayo ngokukhululeka ukuhamba nayiphi na imeko kwaye usukele ukusuka komnye umsebenzi ukuya kwenye.
Kwaye, ke, ingqwalasela mayibe nesigxina, njengoko inceda ukwenza ukuzithiba kwi-schooling school, kwaye kwinqanaba leminyaka le lakhono luncedo kakhulu.
Zonke ezi mpawu zengqwalasela zingaphuhliswa kwiiyure ezihlukeneyo. Ukugxininisa kunokuphakama, kodwa iqondo eliphantsi lokuzinza, okanye ukutshintsha okugqithisiweyo, ngelixa umthamo awukhulu kakhulu.
Ukuphuhliswa kwazo zonke iipropati, izinto ezenza umntwana uya kuvuya ukwenza phantsi kolawulo lwabadala, kwaye abazali baya kuba nako ukuvavanya izinga lokuphuhliswa kwepropati ethile yenkcazelo.
Nanku umzekelo womsebenzi wokuphuhlisa ukuzinza. Dweba imicu ephothiweyo yeshumi kumntwana. Iziqalo kunye neziphelo zemicu kufuneka zilandelelwe ngokulandelanayo kumacala asekhohlo nangakwesokudla. Iziqalo (ezantsi ngakwesobunxele) zemixube zibalwa ukusuka ku-1 kuya kwe-10, kwaye iziphelo zazo akumele zihambelane namanani okuqala, oko kukuthi, iiphelo zididekile. Umntwana kufanele abonakale (ngaphandle kokuncedwa ngeminwe okanye ipencilisi!) Fumana ukuphela komgca uze ubize igama elifane nelididi yokuqala. Ukuba umntwana uphethwe nalo msebenzi (oko kukuthi, ufumene zonke iziqalo zokuqala) ngemizuzu emi-2, ngoko sinokuthetha ngezinga eliphezulu eliphezulu lokuzinza.
Umsebenzi olandelayo uza kunceda umntwana akhulise isantya sokutshintsha ingqalelo. Ukwenza oku, vumelana kwangaphambili ukuba umntwana, eva ilizwi elichazela isilwanyana, umzekelo, uyabonisa. Bese ubiza nayiphi na amagama, kuquka amagama ezilwanyana phakathi kwabo. Umzekelo: incwadi, ipowuni, ipenki yokucoca, i-MONKEY (gxuma), i-spoon, iqhwa, ibhola, isibuko, i-DOG (gxuma), njl njl. Ukuba umntwana ulahleka, kufuneka uyenze ngokuphindaphindiweyo, uncede, kwaye xa ufumana, unokwandisa i-tempo. Isigaba sesibini siyanzima: emva kokuva igama lezilwanyana, umntwana uyabetha, kunye negama lesitshalo.
Ezi zinto kunye nezinye iindlela zokuphuhlisa ingqalelo into engabonakaliyo, inzondo, kunye nentsana, kwaye uncede umntwana afunde ukugxila kunye nokunyamekela.