Wayetyenzisiweyo ukuba nayiphi na iminqweno izaliseka ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho - ukukhala, ukukrazula ebusweni bezinyembezi kunye neenyoka kunye nezihlobo ezidityanisiweyo. Lakho ityala? Siyakuvuyisana: unomgcini omncinci kunye ne-blackmailer. Kungenzeka ukuba, emva kokuba uvumele i-slip, okanye phantsi kwefuthe leemeko, ulahlekile ukulinda - kwaye ucwangcise ngokukhawuleza imizuzu engama-15 ngaphambi kokuba iTV ilulale iiyure ezimbini ezilungileyo zixakeka yonke into ekhohlakeleyo (kufuneka uthathe into enokuyenza nomntwana xa uthetha nomhlobo), ii-chips ezingavunyelwe zithengwa rhoqo (yintoni enye yokukholisa umntwana, xa ufanele uhlale emsebenzini), ukugqoka isikhulu esithile okanye i-princess iba yinkxalabo yakho yodwa (kakuhle, uhlala uhamba!). Kancinci ukwandisa imida yento evunyelweyo, kwaye i-scion isilumko iyavuya. Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela osabela ngayo kwizenzo zakhe, umntwana wakho naye wakha ukuziphatha kwakhe. Uyazi kakuhle ubugcisa bokuxhaphaza, ukusetyenziswa kuyo nanini na xa ufuna ukufezekisa into ethile.
Uvela phi
Iindidi eziqaqambileyo zincinci "abaphangi" zichazwe ngezantsi. Ngaba uyazi ukuba "i-sweetie" yakho? Kufuneka sicinge ngendlela yokuyibeka kwindawo yayo.
Napoleon inkani
Umnquli onamandla, onqamlekileyo umlawuli, umninimzi onoyikekayo. Yonke into yokudlala iyinto yakhe, ukwabelana nomntu onobumba - abahlaziyi, kodwa ukulungiselela omnye umntu - njengoko kungekho nto yokwenza, ukungabikho kwemigqaliselo yemithetho equlunqwe nguye inokubetha. Cima izimangalo zobunkokheli ngamandla. Njengomthetho, akanalo abahlobo, ngenxa yento evuthayo, ezama ukungaphumeleli ukunyanzelisa uluntu lwakhe. Uhlobo luqhelekileyo phakathi kwamakhwenkwe, kodwa i-"girlish" version ayilula. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Cacisa umntwana ukuba unokufezekisa oko ufuna kuphela kuphela xa ufunda ukunika. Uxolo ukubelana ngamathoyizi? Makubekwe iinqununu eziza kunikwa ukusetyenziswa ngokubanzi. Ngaba ufuna ukuya ku-pokomandovat? Cinga ngomdlalo apho "umlawuli" omncinci uya kulawula - nabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba. Ingane iya kuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye abantwana baqinisa igunya lakhe, kwaye uya kuyithanda.
Inkomo yeReva
Kubonakala ngathi ixhomekeke kwaye ayinakunceda: ukujikela kwisithintelo esincinane, ngezwi elibhaliweyo, ucela uncedo. Ufuna ukuthuthuzelwa, ukuxazulula into enokumkholisa. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Akukho imfuneko ukuvuma ukunyanzeliswa okungeziwe ngenxa yokuba iinyembezi ziza kuthulula. Ngaloo ndlela, wena ngokwakho ukhuthaze kwi-crypt encantile kwaye ungenzi. Vumelanani: uzama wena, kodwa ndiza kukunceda. Futhi udumise nayiphi na impumelelo.
Chameleon
Ekhaya, umntwana uwedwa, kwi-kindergarten enye, ukuhamba epakini yesithathu ... Uyazi ukuba ngumntwana olungileyo ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa into ethile, kwaye uba ngumgcini opheleleyo xa ulwaphulo lungagwenywa.
I-blackmailer
Ukuziphatha kwakhe kuluhlu lwezenzo ezibizwa ngokuthi "Ndiya kwenza ntoni na?". Susa ii-teyys - kuphela xa unika i-tsholeta, gxobhoza amazinyo akho - ukuba uvumele isiqingatha seyure ukudlala iikhomputha "abahlaseli."
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukuseka imithetho ecacileyo kwaye ulandele ngokukhawuleza. Akukho mvume! Unokwenza uluhlu lwezohlwayo eziya kulandela xa kungathobeli.
Mkhoboka
Uqhotyoshelwe ngokuthe ngqo kwenye yezihlobo kwaye akavumelani ukumvumela ukuba ahambe inyathelo. Oku kubonakala ngathi kukubonakaliswa kothando, eqinisweni-ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana baziphatha ngale ndlela ngokumalunga nootata-nkulu, kwaye abo "bangathatyathwa" ngabazukulu-banqabileyo, bonke bayabavumela.
UKumkani aze abuyele
Abazali, bethatywe yi-antitics yecashi elincinci, bazikhulule uxanduva lokukhulisa umntwana: "Asizange sifunde imbongo, asizange siye kuqeqesho, kuba wayexhalabisa ..." Umntwana akakwazi ukucinga ngemiphumo yezenzo zakhe, umsebenzi wabadala ukumbonisa kubo. Sungula ulawulo oluchanekileyo kwintsapho, kwaye ukuba uthe wagqiba into ethile, kufuneka uzinze ngokwakho. Ekuqaleni, "ukunqoba ukumkani" uya kulwa namandla. Qiniseka! Ukuba umntwana, enqwenela ukufezekisa, ulungele ukulungelelanisa, ungazami ukumkhohlisa - oku nje uvuselela i-ruffian encinci. Yitsho ngokungqongqo ukuba ayihlose ukuzalisekisa iimfuno zayo, kwaye ushiye ekamelweni (kungcono "ukunqoba" indawo ngaphandle kwamangqina, ukwenzela ukuba imivumba ingabi nesilingo sokusebenzela uluntu). Xoxa nentombi ye-sonolili ngokulinganayo, thintela i-oda, kodwa ungabi yi-syusyukai. Mnike inkululeko yokukhetha: into enokuyidla, okokugqoka, yintoni enokuyifunda. Ingane kufuneka uyive: uluvo lwakhe lubalulekile kuwe. Kumagama akho, uya kukuphatha ngenhlonipho enkulu.
Ndiyeke!
Umntwana okhuselekileyo unqabileyo uyakufuna ukumiswa. Uyakujabulela ukuvunyelwa kwaye ngelo xesha ufumana ubunzima bokuba wonke umntu uyayikhalazela. Akazi ukuba uyayithobela njani imigaqo-jikelele, ngenxa yento evakalelwa ngayo njengokwenkcenkcesha kwintanga yesibini okanye kwisikolo, ufumana abahlobo bakhe ubunzima. Ncedise ukuba atshintshe ngaphambi kokuba ihambe kakhulu.
Xa ukubetha akukho umdla
Kungekudala, unyana wam owayengumntwana owamthobela kwaye onomdla wayebonakala ethatha indawo! Ndiyifunde ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo yokuba ngexesha "ukuqhuma komsindo" kufuneka utshintshe ingqalelo kwintsana. Yithi, endaweni yengozi, kodwa iifolokhwe ezinjalo "ezilungileyo" ekhitshini, ndinika iipane, apho ungabhonkqoza uze uzifake iibhondi kuzo. Enye indlela yokunciphisa ingxolo engabonakaliyo yomntwana ngumthwalo-ukulayishwa komatshini wokuhlamba. Kule nkqubo, sifunda amagama weengubo, umbala wazo, ubungakanani. Le ndlela iyanceda: unyana uyakhankqalaza aze ahlambe iinyawo zakhe, kwaye ndihlala phantsi ngephantsi phantsi kwaye ndiqale ukwakha inqaba ngenqanawa kunye neendonga kunye namabhuloho apho ndiqhuba khona iimoto. Unyana uyayeka kwaye uxhuma kwimeko.
Ubudala benkani
"Inkqubela Yeenkwenkwezi Zisixhenxe zeNkanyezi yeMinyaka emithathu" luluhlu lweempawu ezibonakalisa ukuziphatha kwabantwana balo nyaka.
Eli xesha lentsapho iya ku funeka iphile: kwenzeka ukuba phantse wonke umntu.
1. I-Negativism. Ingane ihlale inganeliseki ngento ethile.
2. Ukunyaniseka. Imi ngokwawo de kube yinto yokugqibela ngaphandle komgaqo.
3. Ukunyaniseka. Iziphakamiso zabantu abadala bayaziqonda kunye nobutshaba.
4. Ukuzikhethela. "Mna!", Kungenjalo, nangona umcimbi ungaphaya kwamandla.
5. Ukuqhankqalaza. Uyabakhathalela ngokugqithisileyo iingxabano.
6. Ukuhla Ulahla yonke into, nokuba yintoni ayithandayo ngaphambili, nje ukwenza into ekuphikisana nomntu.
7. Ukuxeka. Uzama ukukhokela nokulawula kwintsapho.