Emva kokuba abazali beqhawule umtshato, umntwana, njengomgaqo, uhlala nomnye wabazali bakhe. Umzali wesibini ngokugcinwa kwayo uhlawula i-alimony ngaphambi kokufika kweminyaka. Umntwana kufuneka akhulume nazo zonke izihlobo zakhe aze azi, kwaye unelungelo lokuthetha nabazali bakhe. Akunakwenzeka ukunqabela kwiinjongo zomntu okanye kwizondlo zakhe. Ukuba ngaba abazali abanakukwazi ukuxoxisana nabanye ngoxolo malunga nexesha kunye nomyalelo wokunxibelelana nentombi okanye unyana wabo, inkundla inokukunquma isigqibo ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwimizimba yokugcinwa kwamatyala kunye ne-trusteeship.
Kuya kuthatha:
- Isicelo kwiNkundla yesithili,
- ipaspoti,
- isicelo kwiimibutho yokugcinwa kunye ne-trusteeship,
- ipakethe yobungqina obuqinileyo.
Isehlukaniso somzali sihlasela i-psyche kakhulu abantwana. Emva kokuba wonke umntwana emthanda omama, kunye nobawo, kwaye abanetyala, ukuba abazali abafisi ukuhlala kunye. Ngeli xesha elibunzima lobomi bakhe, umntwana kufuneka alondolozwe ngokugqithiseleyo ngengqondo engaphazamisi ukunxibelelana kunye nezihlobo kunye nomnye umzali. Amalungelo omntwana omncinci ukuthetha kunye neentsapho, kunye nokwazi izihlobo zawo, zenziwe ngokusemthethweni.
Umzali ohlala naye umva iimvakalelo ezimbi kumnye umlingane, kodwa konke oku akuthethi ukuba uvunyelwe ukukhawulelana nentombi yakhe okanye nendodana yakhe. Iyakwazi ukukhawulelwa kuphela xa inomdla omncinci womntwana. Kwaye ukwenza oku, kufuneka ufake ifayile ebhaliweyo kwaye uxelele i-arhente and adusteeship arhente malunga nayo.
Ukuze inkundla iqwalasele le meko, kuyimfuneko ukuba anike ubungqina bokuba ukuphazamiseka kunye nokuthintelwa koqhagamshelwano kuyahambelana neminqweno yentsana. Kumele kubhalwe ukuba umzali wesibini ufike ngomhla onokungahambi kakuhle: kwimeko yobunxila okanye utywala, utywala okanye umlutha weziyobisi, akayikuhlawula umxholo, uphatha kakubi umntwana wengqondo.
Inkundla kuphela inokugqiba isigqibo sokuba unxibelelwano lunokuphazanyiswa okanye lukhawulelwe. Kwamanye amaxesha, akuchasene nomthetho ukukhusela umntwana ukuba angabonisi kunye nezihlobo okanye umzali wesibini. Umzali onqunywe yinkundla okanye ophazamise ukuthetha naye unokufakela umyalelo kunye nokubonakalisa ukuba intombi yakhe okanye unyana kufuneka adlulane naye, kuba ungumntu ofanelekileyo kwaye unokunxibelelana nomntwana.
Umzali ohlala ngokuhlukileyo kumntwana wakhe unokuthatha inxaxheba ekukhuliseni kwakhe, unelungelo lokuthetha nomntwana ekuxazululeni imiba yemfundo yomntwana.
Umzali onomntwana ophila naye akanalo ilungelo lokuphazamisana nokuthetha komntwana kunye nomnye umzali, ukuba lo nxibelelwano alonakalise ukuphuhliswa kokuziphatha, impilo yengqondo nengokwenyama yomntwana.
Abazali bangangena kwisivumelwano malunga nendlela amalungelo omzali aya kusetyenziswa ngayo umzali ohlala ngokwahlukileyo. Isivumelwano kufuneka sigqitywe ngokubhaliweyo.
Ukuba ngaba abazali abavumelani nesivumelwano, ingxabano phakathi kwabo iyakuthatyathwa yinkantolo ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwigunya lokugcina, ngesicelo somnye wabazali.
Ukuba umzali onetyala akahambisani nesigqibo senkundla, imilinganiselo isetyenziswe kuye ehlinzekwe ngumthetho wembambano. Xa kukho ukungaphumeleli okubi ukuthobela izigqibo zenkundla, xa omnye wabazali ephazamisa ukunxibelelana nomntwana ohlala ngokuhlukileyo, inkundla, ngokuqwalasela imbono kunye neminqweno yomntwana, inokwenza isigqibo kunye nokunikezela umntwana.