Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba abafazi baqala ukuphulaphula uluvo lwamadoda, ngokukodwa abo banokudumala okukhulu kulo hlobo lolwalamano kumava abo. Ukunyamezela kwihlabathi lanamhlanje libe yithuba elingaphantsi kobudlelwane obuphezulu kakhulu, okanye akuzange kube njalo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamaxesha onke ubuhlobo besini banika ukucinga, ingxoxo. Ibini lamawaka amabini edlulileyo, uAristotle, wathabatha inzame yokuchaza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobungane kwaye uchaze le ngqungquthela ngokubanzi. Ngokuphathelele ubuhlobo besetyhini babhala iikhosikidi, babumba iingoma, iingoma. Kwaye ukuba le ngcamango ifumene ingqwalasela enkulu, ke kukho imodeli enikeziweyo yobudlelwane.
Okwangoku, i-media media ibhala ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nehlabathi lanamhlanje, ubuhlobo besifazane buyekeke ukuba bukho njengeyunithi emelekileyo yobudlelwane. Umsebenzi ongunaphakade, amazinga aphakamileyo, ukunqongophala ngokukhawuleza kwexesha lokukhulula kubangela ubungane kunokuba ubudlelane obuhle. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba apha uluvo lungalunganga. Ngokuphambene noko, kukho ubuninzi bexhasayo yinto enokuthi ibekho kwihlabathi lanamhlanje lobuhlobo besetyhini, njenjalo. Iyakwazi nokuba namandla ngakumbi nangaphambili, kwiimeko zokungaphantsi komsebenzi. Kukho ixesha elininzi lokukhulula. Ukuzilibazisa ngokungafanelekanga kwabasetyhini, ingakumbi abasetyhini abangabodwa, kunokukhokelela ekuveleni nasekusabalaleni kwazo zonke iintlobo zeengxabano.
Ubuhlobo bunobungozi. Iindlela eziphambili zolu hlobo lolwalamano kukunyaniseka, ukuqonda ngokuvisisana, ukuzincama nokukwazi ukuwamkela omnye umntu njengokuba, ngaphandle kokuzama ukutshintsha kwaye utshintshe "ngokwakho." Kwaye, ke, uthembele kunye nokukwazi ukugcina iimfihlelo. Abaninzi abantu bayazi oku. Bangaphi abafazi abaye baba ngabahlobo kwiminyaka emininzi, baqhekeka ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane kuba omnye wabo akakwazanga ukugcina imfihlo yomnye umntu. Kukhona umnqweno wemfihlakalo kwisini esingenamandla ukuxelela imfihlelo kwihlabathi lonke naziphi iindaba ezibalulekileyo. Ewe, ukuba ezi ndaba zikwimeko yesikali, apho kubakho abadlali abaninzi ababandakanyekayo - kunzima kunzima ukuyichasa. Mhlawumbi, esinye isizathu esibalulekileyo sokubaluleka kweyona nto, kutheni ubuhlobo bobuhlobo buqhekeza ubuqhetseba. Xa yonke into idibene kunye: abahlobo, amadoda, abafazi, abantwana. Utshintsho lomthandayo kunye nomhlobo wakhe omhle ngumzekelo weklasi. Uninzi lwabasetyhini lugciniwe. Uninzi lwabo ludidekile ngonaphakade kwaye luphile, lingavumeli abahlobo ukuba bafike kwindlu yabo. Ukususela kwimpembelelo yabo, kuluphawu olufutshane kakhulu ukukhohliswa kwakhona kule nqanaba. Abanye, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, behamba kwi-rake efanayo, baphinda zabo iimpazamo baze baqhubeke bebahlobo.
Njengoko sibona, impendulo engaphenduliyo yombuzo: ngaba kukho ubuhlobo besini kwihlabathi lanamhlanje? Njengamaxesha onke, izimvo ziya kwahlulwa zibe ziqingatha ezimbini. Kwaye bobabini la ma-halves, abaxhasi bobuhlobo babasetyhini kunye nabachasi, baya kulungile ngendlela yabo. Kukho iingxabano ezininzi kunye nxamnye nale nzeka.
Ukunamathela kwiimbono ezintle ebomini, ndifuna ukukholelwa kwizinto ezilungileyo kunye nokukhuthaza ubuhlobo, ukunika ithuba lokuba khona. Kwiliphi ihlabathi: namhlanje okanye ubudala - ubuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini bekhona kwaye buya kuba khona. Ngomnye umntu unethamsanqa, kwaye omnye umntu wakhathazeka kakhulu, ngoko kukho ukwahlukana kweembono kwiinkampu ezimbini. Kodwa abafazi, ngobuninzi babo, abantu baxhamla ngokukhawuleza, benomdla. Ngenxa yoko banako ukuxolela ngobubele nokuthanda. Yaye le mvakalelo yindlela yokuqhuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye phakathi kwabafazi ababini, ngokubanzi.