Oku kuphakamisa ukuba abantu abangama-53 abasalayo ekujonganeni nohlobo lwabo baneengxaki. Siza kuhlalutya le ngxaki kwiimashalofu, sifumane oko kusithintela ukuba senze abahlobo abatsha kwaye, sixhobile ngeengcebiso, siphumelele.
Okokuqala, kusithintela ukwenza abahlobo abatsha abanqweneli ukuwaqala! Kwenzeka njalo. Abanye abantu bathanda ubulolo okanye bahlala behlala ngaphandle kobuhlobo. Ngoko kufuneka wenze isigqibo, udinga abahlobo abatsha, ngaba ufuna abantu abatsha okanye uvakalelwa? Ukuba unqwenela ukuba ufuna ukuba ngabahlobo uze uqhelane naye, sebenze! Musa ukufihla! Musa ukoyika! Musa ukuhlala ekhaya!
Ngaba uncumo? Lo mbuzo awuzange uceliwe ngethuba. Mhlawumbi, ukwenza abahlobo abatsha kuwe kubangelwa yintlungu edabukisayo. Ngubani ofuna ukuthetha kunye nokuzala. Ingqungquthela ibangelwa kwaye idibanisa abantu abajikelezile. Qaphela ukuba abaninzi abahlobo banomntu ovuthuluzelayo, onomntwana onomdla, ehleka ukuhleka, kuba ukumomotheka kukubonakaliswa kobubele, ukufudumala nothando. Kungenxa yale nto abantu badonsela ngayo, kuba abanalo oku. Ehlabathini lethu, kwaye egcwele imibala ebomvu. Ngoko icebiso: Suka! Kwaye kubungqina bokusebenza ngempumelelo kwale bhunga kukho ininzi imibhalo: "Ukumamisa akufanelekanga nto, kodwa kudala kakhulu", "Ngubani oya kuzuza, abe nocebileyo, oza kunika - akayi kuba ngumhlwempu", "Smile msinya, kodwa inkumbulo ihleli ngonaphakade", "Smile Ugcwalisa indlu ngovuyo, ukhuthaza ukuthabatha inxaxheba kuburhwebo kwaye uyingqungquthela yobudlelwane bobuhlobo "," Ukumamisa kunika abantu amandla ukhathala, kubangela ukuba lube nesibindi, luzisa uvuyo, luyindlela eyenziwe yendalo ukuba ixazulule zonke iingxaki! ".
Unokuthi uthintelwe ngumsebenzi ogqithiseleyo kunye nokuzibonga. Iseluleko: Bonisa umdla kubantu! Nibingelelane kuqala, mncoma, cela malunga nento. Ukubonisa umdla obomdla kubantu, uzakufumana abahlobo bakho ngenyanga, kuneminyaka emibini yokuzama ukuqhubeka nokwenza abanye abantu banomdla kubo. Abantu bodwa bodwa benza iphutha eliphambili kulo lonke ubomi babo: bazama ukunyanzelisa abanye ukuba babonise umdla kubo. Nguye ongabonakali umdla kumadoda angamadoda, ebhekene nobunzima obukhulu ebomini kwaye wenza okubi kakhulu kwabanye. Kule bantu akukho nto eyenzekayo.
Isityholo asizange nancedwe ekufumaneni abahlobo. Funda ukuthemba abantu, thembela kubo, ubacele uncedo, kuya kukunceda uqonde umnxibelelwano.
Mhlawumbi ingxaki yakho kukuba awukwazi ukuthetha? Ndihlala ndiphikisana? Hlonipha umbono womnye umntu, kubaluleke kakhulu. Kuyinto engathandekiyo ukuthetha nabantu abaphikisanayo, iyayiphendula, ixhalabele kwaye iyacaphukisa. Oku kusithintela nakwethu ubudlelwane.
Xoxa kumntu onobubele, ozolileyo. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza abahlobo, bulisa abahlobo ngovuyo kunye nentshiseko. Xa uthetha kwifowuni, sebenzisa le ndlela. Vumela umdibaniselwano uqonde indlela ovuyisayo ukuthetha naye. Abantu abayixabisayo baya kuza kuwe kwaye bafumane indlela yokwenza abahlobo kunye nawe, kuba ubuhle kunye nobungane buhlala bunamandla kunobushushu nomsindo.
Ukuba uthanda ukukhalaza, kwesi sizathu sokungabi nabangane. Abantu bayesaba oku, njengomlilo! Banele ngokwaneleyo kwiingxaki zabo, kodwa nanko usasazi. Yeka, kwaye uza kubona indlela umhlaba uza kudlala ngayo ngemibala eqaqambileyo!
Ukungakwazi ukuphulaphula kuyimqobo enamandla kunxulumano. Ukuphulaphula ngokunyanisekileyo kuthetha ukunikezela ngegama eliphezulu. Yiba ngumphulaphuli omhle! Mamela, phulaphula ngenyameko kumnxibelelwano uze umkhuthaze, udumise. Emva koko, "udumo luhle kunobusi."
Dumisani, kodwa musa ukugweba okanye ukugxeka! Abantu abagxeki, kubakhuthaza ukuba bangene kwindawo yokuzimela, ukuzithethelela, abayi kuxolela ngenxa yale nto. Khumbula elinye ilizwi, lichanekile kwaye linomdla ebomini: "Abantu banomdla wokudumisa njengoko besaba ukugwetywa!"
Ukugcina uqhagamshelwano nabantu, sebenzisa lo mgaqo: nceda umnxeba ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngegama. Ukukhumbuza igama, wenza le ndoda ibe yincoma kwaye iyasebenza. Ngokomntu omdala waseMelika we-20 uDale Carnegie, isandi segama laso, nakuphi na ulwimi oluchazwayo, lumnandi kwaye lubaluleke kakhulu kumntu.
Ngokuqwalasela ezi ngcebiso, uya kufunda ukuphepha kwaye ungaphindi iimpazamo zokunxibelelana. Enyanisweni, kulula ukuyakha ubudlelwane, kwaye uya kufunda ngokukhawuleza oku, into eyona nto ayiyiyoyiki kwaye ayiyikuphepha abantu. Abahlobo abalungileyo! Ukuthandana okunomdla!