Kubuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa amaninzi amabhinqa ngoku angene ebudlelwaneni abangenalo uthando. Iphuso elifanayo lidla ngokuqhutywa ngamantombazana amancinci angenamava ekunxibelelaneni nasebudlelwaneni namadoda. Baqala ukutshata nomfana ongeyithandi, kodwa uziva nje ngovelwano ngaye kwaye akukho. Emva kokunciphisa ukunyaniseka kwendoda, baqala ubudlelwane abangenalo uthando kunye neminqweno efanayo, benethemba lokuba kwixesha elizayo kuya kuba nothando, kunye neminqweno efanayo, kunye nokuvisisana nolwalamano. Kodwa azibonakali.
Ubudlelwane obuqala ngokungabandakanyeki okanye uvelwano olulula luhlala lubhujiswa. Uvelwano olulula, olwalusenkundleni, luye lwaba lukhuni njengomsi, luya kuvela ukuba loo mfana akayidingi nantoni na, ukuba uyacaphukisa kwaye uyakhathazeka, kwaye ngokukrakra ngakumbi kukuba kunye nomfana ongathandekiyo kufuneka uhambe ngemihla, ukuwanga, ukulala ngesondo. Oku kukhangela kungekudala okanye kamva kubangela ukuxabana okukhulu, apho zonke iimvakalelo kunye nokucaphuka kwazo zibonakaliswa. Esi sibini siphula. Ukuba intombazana icinga malunga nokuba kwenzeke ntoni, ngoko akayi kuphinda iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iqalise ubudlelwane obungenalo uthando, kungekhona nentshisekelo efanayo, kwithemba lokuba konke kuya kubonakala kwinkqubo yobudlelwane. Kodwa baninzi baphinda iphutha elifanayo kaninzi. Ewe, uthando alufi ngokukhawuleza, uthando kuqala ekuqaleni luyinto engamanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuthanda kuqala ekuthandweni kokuqala kuthatha uthando oluqinileyo, olubangelwa yinto yokuqala, ehlala iphosakeleyo. Kodwa awukwazi ukuqala ulwalamano ukuba awunayo inzala efanayo, ukuba izimvo zakho ebomini nasebudlelwaneni ziyahluke ngokupheleleyo. Akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Uza kuhlala uxabana nomnye nomnye, ubonise ingcamango yakho. Kwaye ekugqibeleni kuya kubangela ukuhlukana.
Ukuba yonke into iyacaca kunye namantombazana amancinane, aqala ulwalamano olutshabalalweyo ngenxa yokuba bengenalwazi kunye nokuhlambuluka, ngoko yintoni eyenza ukuba amantombazana akhulileyo kunye nabasetyhini abadala baqale ulwalamano olunjalo? Abasetyhini abaninzi bangena kulwalamano olunjalo, befuna kuzo, okokuqala, bazuze. Eyona nto ifumanekayo inzuzo. Uninzi lwabasetyhini lithemba ukuba indoda eyityebi kodwa engathandekiyo iyabenza bajabule, bathemba ukuba imali kunye neempawu zobomi obusasazo ziya kuthatha indawo yothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abanjalo bafumana "kwinqanaba legolide" xa kukho konke - imali, izambatho ezintle, indlu ephathekayo okanye indawo yokuhlala, ukuya kwiindawo zokutyela, iholide phesheya ... Kodwa akukho nto ebaluleke kakhulu - uthando. Kwaye kukho umntu ongathandekiyo, indoda engathandekiyo, ekungenakukwazi ukuhamba kuyo, kuba "utyalomali" kumfazi obuninzi kakhulu kwaye ke akayi kuvumela. Nsuku zonke into engathandekiyo iqala ukucaphukisa ngakumbi, kwaye ukucaphukisa ukuza kuthiywe yintlondi kunye nokukhathazeka kwengqondo. Emva koko, akukho luthando, akukho mfuno eqhelekileyo nokuba, ubudlelwane bubuhlungu, buhlaza. Ngaloo nto ibhinqa liya kuqonda ukuba imali ayiyi kuba yinto engafanelekanga.
Kwenzeka ukuba abafazi baqale ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthanda nje ngenxa yesondo. Ukuba ibhinqa lingalalani ixesha elide (ngamnye kubo ngabanye), ngoko uya kuba ulungele ukungena ebudlelwaneni nendoda engathandekiyo kwaye engathandeki kuye kuphela ngenxa yokuba uyilungiselela njengeqabane lesini.
Ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuthandana nokuthanda izinto eziqhelekileyo kungekudala okanye kamva kuphele. Ngoko ke, umntu kufuneka agweme ukuqala ulwalamano olunjalo, okokuqala baya kutshabalalisa kwaye baya kwenza ukuba abo babini baqabane bangonwabi.