Xa kuziwa ekuthandeni, abasetyhini bakulungele ukuzincama, izenzo kunye nemilingo, nje ukuba bahlale benomdla kumntu othandekayo. Kodwa ngaba sidinga ukugqwesa okunjalo apho isisombululo seengxaki sisemhlabeni? Impendulo kumbuzo omdala ubudala: "Indlela yokuthakazelisa kumntu?" - ifakwe kwisimo semfazi. Igama lakhe limagnetism. Le yinto ekhethekileyo yokukhanga, esebenza kwindawo ethile kwizinga elimangalisayo. Isebenza kude kube nomkhwa ungaphazamisi ubudlelwane, owaziwayo, onokukwazi ukulala nobunzima. Ukubuyela kubuhlobo obusenyongweni lwemihla yokuqala kunye nezo zihlandlo zegolide xa umntu ekhangelwe kuwe njengemagnethi, kwenzeka ngokulula. Masibuyele kwisiganeko sethu sowesifazane kwaye sikhumbule okanye sifunde kwakhona ukuwusebenzisa ukuze sizuze thina kunye nendoda yethu ethandekayo. Ngoko ungenza njani umhlobo wakho kunye nomntu oyifunayo kuwe? Siza kudala ubudlelwane obumnandi obuqinileyo kunye nawe-obuhle, obumnandi, obunqabileyo. Yaye le i-anchors enokwethenjelwa kunesondo esomeleleyo, kwaye bayakwazi ukuhlala kufuphi kwaye ngokuzithandela nangona umntu ongenamdla.
Anchors azikho nje isimboli apha. Ngengqondo ye-neurolinguistic, igama elithi "anchors psychological" lithetha ubudlelwane obunxulumene kunye nesenzo okanye isenzo. Oku kunokuba ngumfanekiso, umnqweno, ukuvumba, njl. Ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo isenzo esithile esimnandi, simbiza ngendlela esabelayo kumntu kwaye silungiselele umbutho onjengokuthi i-anchor iqinileyo ingqongqo. Akunakwenzeka ukushiya ngokuzithandela amava amahle kunye nomntu onokubakho. Siza kusebenzisa le nkalo yesimo sengqondo somntu, ukudala ii-anchors ezinokwethenjelwa, ezibangela ukuba umntu afune ukugcina enye, kodwa "ulwandle" olunjalo.
I-Anchor # 1
Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo, umfazi ungumlindi kunye nomgcini weentloko. Yintoni ozoyigcina - umsebenzi wamadoda. Indlela yokugcina - umsebenzi othe ngqo wabasetyhini. Indoda ephakamileyo yinqanaba liya kuhlala ihamba neenyawo zayo apho ihamba khona ihlambulukile njengokuba uyayithanda, apho kungekhona nje umyalelo, kodwa umyalelo ngokwemigaqo yakhe, kwaye apho umntwana ehlabayo njengokubhaka. I-Smells ngokuqhelekileyo uhlobo oluthile lwe-magnetism. Bakho mhlawumbi "ezinamandla" ezinamandla, kuba zizona zizathu ezilungileyo zonkumbulo ezimnandi. Qonda ukuba zeziphi iziqholo ezenza umntu wakho ujabule okanye amnike imvakalelo enhle, kwaye "unika" iimvakalelo zakhe.
Ikhonkco # 2 Ulwandle lokuphumla
Indoda iziva ikhululekile apho ikwazi ukuphumla khona. Ubhavu obushushu obuqholiweyo obuqhumayo, ukukhathala ukuxilisa okanye iseshoni yangokuhlwa itiye yokusela ngexesha lokuthetha ngokukhawuleza kunokuba yinto enonophelo apho umntu obathandayo ngokufanelekileyo kwegama uya kuba ngumlutha. Ukukhathazeka ngomthuthuzelo wakhe womzimba kunye nengqondo, kwaye uya kubona ukuba endaweni yokuqokelela rhoqo kunye nabahlobo okanye ukulibaziseka rhoqo emsebenzini, uya kukhawuleza apho elindele ukunakekelwa nokunyaniseka.
Ikhonkco # 3 Ulwandle lomdla
Le yona "ikhonkco" ecacileyo kwaye inamandla kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, omdala ubudlelwane, kunzima ukugcina umnqweno kwizinga eliphezulu. Enyanisweni, ukuthanda uthando kubangelwa ngumsebenzi wokusebenzisana, kodwa kuninzi kuxhomekeke kumfazi. Akuyi kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo "ukubopha" imibutho kwiintlobo zintlanu zomntu. Impembelelo efanelekileyo kubo iya kuba nefuthe elilindelekileyo:
- I-stimuli ebonakalayo iya kunceda umntu ukuba abone ukuhlanjululwa komzimba wesetyhini kunye nokutsala kweempahla (ngakumbi ekhaya!)
- I-Tangent - "ukubona" izandla zinobuqhetseba obuninzi, imigca ephothileyo yomzimba, ihamba ngokusabalalisa iinwele okanye ama-silky epholile.
- Abaphulaphuli - phula umculo ozithandayo okanye ubiza umnxeba kwisenzo esaziwayo kuphela kwibinzana ezimbini.
- I-Olfactory - uziva unomdla wokuvumba, okubaluleke kakhulu kubangele i-aromas-aphrodisiacs.
- I-Flavouring - ukunambitha uthando ngentsingiselo, umbutho onobuqu ngqo, kodwa unamandla kakhulu.
Sithemba ukuba ngoku uqonda umgaqo wendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba indoda yakho ethandekayo ithandwayo kuwe. Qhubeka uluhlu lwe "anchors" onokuzenza. Into eyona nto ayiyi kuba bucebe ukwazi indoda, ukunyaniseka kuye kwaye ukuguqula iminqweno yakhe, izilingo kunye namaphupha zibe yizivumelwano zakhe, kholwani mna, ziya kuba zithembeke ngakumbi kuneemaketanga ze-anchor!