Kukho uluvo lokuba ibhinqa liphantse licinywa ngokupheleleyo kubantu abahlala kwikhaya elizinzileyo, elide elide. Ekubeni ufihlile emva kweengcamango zokulingana, ngaloo ndlela asebenza kuphela nabasetyhini, ngokuqinisekileyo becinga ukuba indoda, ukuba ingekho intshaba ngqo yowesifazane, kwindawo ethile kufuphi nale nto, kulo mfazi uhlala ehlushwa kunye neengxaki. Yintoni eyimpembelelo yobhinqa kwintsapho?
Usapho noBesifazane
Ukuba ubufazi bubomi bowesifazana ngumfazi, ngoko indoda leyo emfanekisweni ingumphambukeli, "inkcazelo" eyongezelelweyo ibe yinto encedo, kodwa ingabi nhlobo ngokulinganayo nomfazi ngokwakhe. Abasetyhini abavumelene neengcamango zesinikazi abaqala ukucinga malunga nokulondoloza intsapho emva kokuba iimvakalelo "ziye zacima." Kufanelekile ukukhankanya ukuba ibhinqa iqondisa ukuba isondo sobhinqa siphumelele indoda, enokubakho ubunzima, ukuba uthando luye lwaphela, kwaye ubomi boba nzima. Ewe, kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba abantu abanako ukusilela, ngoko phantse zonke iintsapho ziyahlukana. Ukuba khona kwabantwana kwintsapho ayidlala nayiphi na indima, kuba into ephambili ebhinqa yedwa, kwaye abantwana banokuyenza ngaphandle kobawo. Emva koko, enye eminye imithetho yebhinqa - "umntwana akadingi ukuba noyise nonina, ngokwaneleyo ukuba wayemthanda nje."
Abasetyhini abakucabangi ngokulula kunye nabantwana babo, ngelixa bengalinge baphile ngaphandle komnqweno, kodwa intsapho ezinzile, ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni nasekuphuhlisweni kwabantwana. Abantwana abakhuliswayo kwiintsapho eziphukileyo bahlala bexhomekeke ekuziphatheni kwabazali babo ebomini babo. Ngelizwi, ukungakwazi ukuthetha kunye nesondo esahlukileyo, ukungakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obude obude, "kulungiswe". Ngaloo ndlela, ubufazi buqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba isizukulwana esilandelayo sabantu siya kuba sisizukulwana sabantu abodwa. Umzekelo onjalo unikezwa ngama-ideologicalist of feminism-phantse onke amaxesha amaninzi ahlukana "nesiqingatha" sawo.
Ubufazi buvimbela ukudala kweNtsapho eqhelekileyo
Enye yemithetho ebalulekileyo yowesifazane ithi "ubulili besilisa sele buxinezelekile kangangeminyaka emininzi ngabafazi, ngandlela-thile baxineke baze bafune ukuthobela nokunyaniseka." Kwaye ubu bhinqa buye wavumela ukuba ibhinqa live ilungu eluntwini elipheleleyo-elinganayo nelikhululekile. Enyanisweni, iingcamango zobufazi azivumelani nobukho bombono onjalo, njengoko wonke umntu owaziyo ukuqina okunamandla xa kuthelekiswa nomntu. Umnqweno wokuba okanye ubuncinane ubonakale "ungumphathi wehlabathi" ngumlingani wenani labameli bebhinqa, kodwa ngobomi obulula luyeka ukungafani kakuhle kwamathuba okuphumeza le njongo.
Omnye uza kubuza kuphi ibhinqa? Kwaye, ngaphandle koko, ukuba abo banamathela kumabhinqa phantse "esibhakabhakeni" banokuzithemba nokuzikhukhumeza (kukho iimeko xa kulungile, kwaye zikhona-ngaphandle, kodwa zicima). Ngexesha elifanayo, ukukwazi ukubheka ngaphandle "iziglasi ezibomvu" ngokwakho kubuthakathaka kakhulu (njengoko "babekhohliswa ngamatyala abo abacinga ukuba bayasweleka, kodwa ngoku bakhululekile" - ngelizwi elithi, "i-dizzy impumelelo"). Kwaye ke, ngexesha lokubhalwa kwakhe "okukhululekile" kujonga emhlabeni jikelele, umfazi ufumanisa ukuba abo bafanelekile iimpawu zakhe ezintle kubameli bendoda azikho nanye (kwaye ukuba zikhona na, zihlala zihlala okanye "ziyabesilisa", ngoko ke azifanelekanga) . Xa ukuzithemba okuphezulu kunengqiqo - inkosikazi inokuthi ibubele kuphela, kodwa abantu abanjalo (ngokuzithemba ngokuzithemba, abafazi okanye amadoda) baninzi. Phantse bonke abantu banesistim kwiimpawu zabo. Ukwenza idibanisi babeza kuthethwa ngumntu ofanayo. Kodwa akunjalo! Ubufazi bubeka umfazi kwedwa ngaphandle kokudala intsapho ngomntu oqhelekileyo. Kungenxa yokuba phantsi kwe "hit" ngokuzenzekelayo ukuwa ngokuzenzekelayo bonke abantu ababenokuyenza ibhinqa isibini esitshatileyo. Kwaye abantu banokuhlala ubomi obude (mhlawumbi bengakhange banomdla okanye bangenakuvuyela, kodwa bekunjalo). Kwaye kukufanelekile ukuthetha ukuba ibhinqa leyo ibangelwa yilo lonwabo ngokupheleleyo.