Ubufazi, yintoni na?
Ubufazi buyintlangano yentlalo kunye nezopolitiki, umgaqo osekelwe ekulinganeni kwesini. Kwakukho intshukumo ekhulwini le-18. Umsantsa wokuqala wesifazane uwela ngomhla we-19 kunye nesiqingatha sokuqala sekhulu lama-20. Ngeli xesha kwakukho umzabalazo osebenzayo wokulingana komthetho kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Ukususela kwingqungquthela yesibini ye-20 leminyaka, isangqa esilandelayo siqala. Abenzi bemisebenzi abafunanga kuphela umthetho, kodwa banokulinganayo. Ekupheleni kweminyaka engamashumi asixhenxe, ukunyakaza kuya kuba mkhulu. Abasetyhini abaninzi baqala ukuxhasa imbono yobhinqa, iintlanganiso zemihlangano kunye nemihlangano, imihlangano kunye namaqela adalwa. Kwiminyaka engamashumi asibhozo, inzondelelo ejikeleze intshukumo iyahla.
Mhlawumbi, akukho nto yentlalo eyenza ingavumelani kangangoko, njengabesifazane. Yintoni le ntshukumo kwaye yintoni injongo yayo? Ngokutsho kwabasebenzi, injongo kukuphuhlisa ngokomoya.
Ukuba kwangaphambili imfundiso yobufazi kunye nayo yonke into edibene nayo yabonakala kubemi bethu ukuba yinto ekude kwaye ingenakwenzeka, emva koko emva kokuba "iContain Curtain" yaphakanyiswa le ntshukumo yentlalo ebusweni bethu.
Owesifazane, ngubani lo?
Iingcamango zabani abafazi abanjalo, sele behlukaniswe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunengqiqo ukuba owesifazane ungumfazi oxhasa imbono yokulingana okupheleleyo phakathi kwesini esinobuthathaka nesomeleleyo.
Abafazi abasetyhini abafuni ukuxhomekeke kumadoda. Omnye uyabagweba ngenxa yale nto. Kwaye amadoda amaninzi kwaye akayiqondi intsingiselo yale ntshukumo kuwo onke, kwaye ayethusa ngongqoqo lwabalandeli.
Ukusuka kwiinkcukacha zolu vavanyo olwenziwa kwisiqingatha esisinyanisekileyo sobuntu malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini inkokhelikazi, ininzi ithathe impendulo yokuba izinto eziqhelekileyo zabesifazane abanjalo zibugwenxa kumalungu esini esahlukileyo. Amantombazana ngokukhethekileyo aya kwintlanano, ndibonisa ubungqina bam. Ukongezelela, abafazi bazama ukukhokela kuyo yonke into, kokubili emsebenzini nasemakhaya. Ngokugqithiseleyo bayichazela uluvo lwabo kubo bonke abantu ababajikelezayo, bebakhokelela ukuba bachanekile. Yiba nengqiqo. Ukuba uzama ukuvakalisa ukugxekwa kwidilesi yabo, unako ukuqhubela kwisiphepho sovakalelo. Abafazi bayazibona naluphi na ukugxekwa njengento yokuhlambalaza umntu wabo. Kuzo zonke iintsilelo zezobomi, ziphinde zityhale ngamadoda.
Umxholo olandelayo ohlula abafazi besuka kwamanye amabhinqa ukuziphatha kwamadoda. Amantombazana ngeendlela ezininzi balingisa uluntu. Iyakwazi ukulandelwa kwiingubo, ngendlela yokuziphatha, kwaye nokuba yinto ebonakalayo kuyo iba yeyiphi "indoda".
Umdla wenzalo kuma-feminist ubuye "yindoda". Abafazi bazama ukuzibamba baze baveze ngesini esahlukileyo ukuba ababi nakakhulu, nokuba bhetele, bakwazi ukuhlangabezana nemisebenzi ebizwa ngokuba yindoda.
Ziziphi izinto ezinomdla kumantombazana aqhelekileyo (intsapho, indlela yokuphila, imfesholo, umzali), abanomdla, kwaye bade bangela ukudelelwa kwabo.
Enye yeempawu zamanyathelo amaninzi ayingcaciso. Amantombazana afuni ukutshata, abe nabantwana kwaye bahlala bebodwa.
Ubuntombi - oko kuthetha ntoni, kwaye nokuba kukuhle okanye kubi, kunzima ukuphendula. Ingcamango yale ntshukumo yayilungileyo kwaye, masingabi sityhola umphefumlo, abafazi bazuze kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, nangona abaninzi abancedisayo kule ntshukumo bayakuphika oku, inxaxheba yabasetyhini kukuba ngumama nomgcini weentloko. Oku kuhambelana nemvelo. Kutheni ulwa namadoda kwaye uzama ukubonisa ubungcono kubo? Masiphathane ngokuhlonipha, kwaye ngoko ubomi bethu buya kuvuya ngakumbi.