Bonke abazali bazama ukukhulisa abantwana babo ngendlela abafuna ukuyibona ngayo, kwaye kule nkalo bakhetha iqhinga elithile elihambelana nolunye uhlobo lwentsapho yolwalamano. Nangona kunjalo, ukunakekelwa kwabazali ngokugqithiseleyo kukhula ngokuchasene nayo - ukunyanzelisa, ubundlobongela obuntwini bomntwana, nangona kubonakala ngathi ukunyamekela kuphela kukukhusela umntwana kwiingxaki ezivela kwindlela yakhe. Kodwa umgama omkhulu uhlukanisa ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuthandweni kwabo bubuqili obunzima!
Oku kubangela ntoni? Iintlobo ezibuthathaka zokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo zixinzelelekile, njengoko zithi, "kwinqabileyo", kwaye ngokusemgangathweni "mna ngokwam," ndiba ngumntu ongathandabuzekiyo "Makhe amise isigqibo", "Ndiza kubuza umama," Buza abazali bam, bavumele ukuba bancede. " Ngamanye amaxesha, ehamba ngendlela enjalo, abazali bajamelana nokubonakaliswa kwengxaki yobuntwana, ngenxa yokuba umntwana ufunda ngokukhawuleza ukudlala kwiimvakalelo zabazali nokukopela, ukuxhamla kule meko. Abantwana babazali abanomdla kakhulu, njengomthetho, bazingca kwaye abazimele. Abafana baba "oonyana baka-mama" ngokuqhelekileyo, abanoomva emva komtshato banamathele kunina kwaye abanakuyenza ngaphandle kokunyamekela, iingcebiso. Kuza kuleso siqhekeza esiqhelekileyo kunye ne-borsch, ephekwe ngumfazi omncinci, ababonakali kubo njengomama wabo. Amantombazana atshatile ngokukhawuleza, elindelwe indlovukazi ngehashe elimhlophe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ebusheni, abagcini bafuna ukulahla idyokhwe yenkxalabo yansuku zonke, edala ukuxabana kweentsapho. Abazali abakhokelwayo nangeminqweno, njengokuba beyibona, ngomntwana wabo, bafanele baqhathanise ukunyaniseka kwabo, kuba imibhikisho kunye "nokuvukelana" kwenguqu yokuguquka kubonisa ukuba intsapho ayikhululekile kwintlekele. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukukhushulwa oku kuzisa "iziqhamo", eziza kubangela ulutsha, ukunyamezela kwiqela kunye nokufuna ngokweqile (kungekhona kuwe-kwabanye). Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abajwayele ukunyamekelwa ngononophelo ngabazali babo abajamelana nobunzima bokuphila okuzimeleyo, babuyela "kumaphiko omzali" ngelixa baxubusha ubaba nomama ukuba babe ngabagxeki bentsapho yabo okanye umsebenzi wabo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, nabazali baxutywa inzondo ephilileyo.
Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Abazali bafanele baqaphele iimpazamo zabo ngexesha kunye nokulungisa isicwangciso sabo esikhethiweyo semfundo ukuze kungabikho kwimiphumo enokudakalisa kunye neentlawulo eziphukileyo.