Ukugcinwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwabazali: inzuzo okanye intlungu kubantwana?

Zingaphi ubuninzi ebomini sibona ukuba nayiphina impawu emihle, ebonakaliswa ngobuninzi obungakanani, ikhula ibe yinto echaseneyo, ifumana iimpawu ezimbi. Ngoko ke, uthando lomzali kunye nokunyamekela kubhekiswe kumntwana othandekayo rhoqo ngomzuzu kunye neyure ibe ngumnyameko ongenakunceda nje utyhefu ebuntwaneni buntwana, kodwa unemiphumo emibi kakhulu, eyenza umntwana ongeyena umntu. Abazali abanenkxalabo babona isongelo kwindlalifa yabo kuyo yonke into - ubonakala kubo behlala belambile, begule kwaye bembethe, bengagqoki kwiimeko zezulu, bakhathazeke ngenxa yengxaki esikolweni okanye emsebenzini. Xa abantwana bekhula, isimo sokuxhalabisa kubazali babo sichitheka, kodwa ngokubonakala kwabazukulu kuphela kwandisa amaxesha amaninzi, ngoko ukuhlushwa kuqala ukuvalelwa kungekhona nje kuphela ngokuvuthiweyo, kodwa nesizukulwana esincinane. Ewe, abazali abafuni ukuqonda ukuba abantwana babo baye bafunda ukupheka i-porridge ye-buckwheat, ukuhamba ngokuzimeleyo kwizitima, ukuhamba ngeenqwelo zeenqwelo kunye nokuvelisa abantwana babo. Kwaye abayidingi imali eninzi yempahla eyahlukeneyo, igcina kwaye igcinwe, ukwenzela ukuba ekugqibeleni indlu iyafana nokufana neebarari zokubala.

Bonke abazali bazama ukukhulisa abantwana babo ngendlela abafuna ukuyibona ngayo, kwaye kule nkalo bakhetha iqhinga elithile elihambelana nolunye uhlobo lwentsapho yolwalamano. Nangona kunjalo, ukunakekelwa kwabazali ngokugqithiseleyo kukhula ngokuchasene nayo - ukunyanzelisa, ubundlobongela obuntwini bomntwana, nangona kubonakala ngathi ukunyamekela kuphela kukukhusela umntwana kwiingxaki ezivela kwindlela yakhe. Kodwa umgama omkhulu uhlukanisa ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuthandweni kwabo bubuqili obunzima!

Oku kubangela ntoni? Iintlobo ezibuthathaka zokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo zixinzelelekile, njengoko zithi, "kwinqabileyo", kwaye ngokusemgangathweni "mna ngokwam," ndiba ngumntu ongathandabuzekiyo "Makhe amise isigqibo", "Ndiza kubuza umama," Buza abazali bam, bavumele ukuba bancede. " Ngamanye amaxesha, ehamba ngendlela enjalo, abazali bajamelana nokubonakaliswa kwengxaki yobuntwana, ngenxa yokuba umntwana ufunda ngokukhawuleza ukudlala kwiimvakalelo zabazali nokukopela, ukuxhamla kule meko. Abantwana babazali abanomdla kakhulu, njengomthetho, bazingca kwaye abazimele. Abafana baba "oonyana baka-mama" ngokuqhelekileyo, abanoomva emva komtshato banamathele kunina kwaye abanakuyenza ngaphandle kokunyamekela, iingcebiso. Kuza kuleso siqhekeza esiqhelekileyo kunye ne-borsch, ephekwe ngumfazi omncinci, ababonakali kubo njengomama wabo. Amantombazana atshatile ngokukhawuleza, elindelwe indlovukazi ngehashe elimhlophe.

Ngokuqhelekileyo ebusheni, abagcini bafuna ukulahla idyokhwe yenkxalabo yansuku zonke, edala ukuxabana kweentsapho. Abazali abakhokelwayo nangeminqweno, njengokuba beyibona, ngomntwana wabo, bafanele baqhathanise ukunyaniseka kwabo, kuba imibhikisho kunye "nokuvukelana" kwenguqu yokuguquka kubonisa ukuba intsapho ayikhululekile kwintlekele. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukukhushulwa oku kuzisa "iziqhamo", eziza kubangela ulutsha, ukunyamezela kwiqela kunye nokufuna ngokweqile (kungekhona kuwe-kwabanye). Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abajwayele ukunyamekelwa ngononophelo ngabazali babo abajamelana nobunzima bokuphila okuzimeleyo, babuyela "kumaphiko omzali" ngelixa baxubusha ubaba nomama ukuba babe ngabagxeki bentsapho yabo okanye umsebenzi wabo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, nabazali baxutywa inzondo ephilileyo.

Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Abazali bafanele baqaphele iimpazamo zabo ngexesha kunye nokulungisa isicwangciso sabo esikhethiweyo semfundo ukuze kungabikho kwimiphumo enokudakalisa kunye neentlawulo eziphukileyo.