Umntwana ngamnye unemigangatho yakhe yokulala, elele ebuthongweni. Konke kuxhomekeka kwisitayela sokuba ngumzali, kwimeko, isimo kunye nempilo yomntwana, ngexesha elide. Abantwana abaninzi abaneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu bafuna ukunxibelelana okuninzi, bahlala bezolile xa beva ukufudumala komphefumlo wam, umzimba. Ngoko ke, aba bantwana kufuneka bafundiswe ukuba balale eminyaka emithathu egumbini labo, eli lixesha apho umntwana equlunqwe ngokuzimela.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale egumbini lakhe?
Akunabo bonke abantwana abanokwenza lula kunye nomkhwa wokulala ebhedini lwabazali babo, ezi ngcebiso zimbalwa ziya kunceda.
Maxa wambi umntwana uneminyaka emithandathu ubudala, kodwa akafuni ukulala yodwa. Kwaye abazali banokusola ngolu hlobo, abazange bagxininise ngokwabo, babonise ububele kwaye baqhubeke bevumela intombi okanye unyana wabo basebenzise le meko. Kubalulekile ukuba ungabhekiseli ngokukhawuleza, kodwa uqhubeke uchazela umntwana wakho ukuba sele sele ekhulile kwaye uye wazimela. Ukutshintshela kwigumbi lokulala elimele kufuneka lenzeke ngokuthe ngcembe, kungavumeli uxinzelelo, kufuneka azi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uya kuba nethuba lokulala nabazali bakhe. Kwaye le nto iya kuphumla kwaye iqinisekise umntwana.
Kubalulekile ukuba senze ngokuqinileyo nangokuthobeka, ukudumisa ngokuthobela nokukhuthaza. Ukuze wenze ukuba umntwana aqonde ukuba uhleliwe njalo kusihlwa, isithethe asitshintshi, okokuqala kuya kuhlamba, ngoko kufuneka ubeke iipajama zakho, uthi uhlabelele kumathoyizi, umama ufunda i-fairy tale ngaphambi kokulala, umntwana uphendukela emgqeni, uvale amehlo aze alele ebuthongweni obuthandayo.
Ukulala kuyimfuneko ukulala ngexesha elithile kwaye ukuba umntwana uyesaba ukulala yedwa, kunokwenzeka ukushiya ukukhanya kwebusuku kwithuba elithile. Zama ukuhlakulela kumntwana isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwindawo yokuhlala, kwisibhedlele, ukugubungela ilinen yelinen kunye naye ukuba uyazi ukuba uyinkosi yakhe yokulala kunye negumbi lakhe.
Sifanele sihlale ngaphantsi komnye, sibambe umntwana kwaye sibambe isandla sakhe. Kuya kuba nzima kowokuqala, kodwa ukuba usebenza ngokucacileyo kwaye ulungelelanise zonke izenzo, ngoko kwiiveki ezi-3 umntwana uya kulala yodwa. Ukuba ubusuku bakho umntwana weza kuwe, kufuneka uhlale naye kwithuba elithile, mthabathe kwisibhedlele, kodwa ungashiyi naye.
Kubalulekile ukuba amalungu omndeni axhasane nomnqweno wabazali ukuba umntwana alele embhedeni wakhe kwaye azi ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyamthemba.
Ukuba awukwazi "ukuhambisa" umntwana egumbini lakhe, kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni umntwana enqaba ukulala yodwa, mhlawumbi uthando lwakho kunye nokunyamekela akwanele kuye kwaye uzama ukutsala abazali bakhe ngqalelo ngale ndlela. Kufuneka uhlalutye indlela oziphatha ngayo, yenza izigqibo eziyimfuneko, ngoko unokuphephe ukungaboni ngaso lentsapho kunye nokulala komntwana embhedeni wakhe kuya kuhlengahlengiswa.
Umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza walala waza walala yedwa, kufuneka uhambisane nemithetho emininzi:
- Ngaphambi kokulala, musa ukudlala kumdlalo osebenzayo.
- Umntwana kufanele azi ukuba ukuba uthe uthe uya kulala egumbini lakhe, kufuneka uzalisekise lesi sithembiso.
- Bonisa ukunyamezela kwaye uthi umntwana usele mkhulu kwaye ufuna ukuziphatha ngokomntu omdala, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ulale kuphela kwigumbi lakho.
- Thembisa ukuba, umzekelo, ngoMgqibelo umntwana uya kulala nawe. Mhlawumbi ngemini umntwana akanakho uxhulumano olwaneleyo kunye noqhagamshelwano lomzimba kunye nabazali, ngoko uzama ukuhlawulela esi siphene ngale ndlela.
- Kwaye kwindlu yonke umntu ubona ulawulo oluqinileyo kunye nemithetho yokulala. Indlu inemoya yoxolo yoxolo.
Sebenzisa ezi cebiso kwaye umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukulala yedwa embhedeni wakhe nasegumbini lakhe.