Iindidi zemidlalo yengqondo kunye nokuzivocavoca kubantwana banceda ukudala ubumnandi, umoya onobungane nabantwana, ukuseka ubudlelwane obuthembayo. Namhlanje, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphuhlisa ikhono labantwana lokuseka nokugcina ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo, kuba ngeli xesha inani elinyukayo labantwana livakalelwa kukuba banesizungu kwaye bahlupheke kuyo.
Ziyintoni imidlalo kunye nokuzivocavoca?
Umoya esikolweni nasekhaya ushintshile. Ootitshala baphoqeleka ukuba bazinike ixesha elithile lokuqeqesha eklasini, kwaye oku kuchaphazela ukukhulumisana kwabantwana, kunye notitshala. Kwaye endaweni yokuphucula nokuqonda ubuchule bokunxibelelana, abafana baya kuba "abangakwazi ukulawula" kunye nobudlova. Kwiintsapho, ngenxa yobomi obunzima, kukho ixesha elincinane lokunxibelelana.
Ngokunikezela imidlalo yokusebenzisana kubantwana, ubapha ithuba lokufumana amava amatsha, ukufumana amava ahlukahlukeneyo ekuxoxaneni nabanye. Ungalibali ukusebenzisa ukufudumala kwakho ekunxibelelaneni, ukunyamekela nokukhathazeka. Emva komdlalo, qiniseka ukumema abantwana ukuba bahlalutye baze baxoxe ngamava abaye bawafumana. Musa ukulibala ukugxininisa ukubaluleka kwezigqibo abazenzayo rhoqo.
Ukudlala imidlalo
Ekuqaleni, nikela imidlalo. Kwaye abaninzi abantwana bedlala nawe, banokukucela ukuba badlale imidlalo kunye nabo, ababonakala beyidingayo ngoku ngoku.
Emva kokuphela komdlalo okanye ukuzivocavoca, ncedisa abantwana bavakalise, kunye nokuxoxa ngezinto abazibonayo. Yiba novelwano kwaye ubonise umdla wakho kwimpendulo yabantwana. Bakhuthaze ukuba bathethe ngokuthe ngqo kwaye bathembeke ngamava kunye neengxaki zabo. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, kuya kufuneka uphathe inkqubo yoxubusho. Qaphela indlela abantwana abaza ngayo kulezi zigqibo, indlela abazama ngayo ukunceda omnye nomnye ubunzima. Ukuba abanako ukulawula into ethile, bancede baqonde kwaye baqonde. Ukuba abantwana bafaka iinjongo ezithile kwaye bazama ukufezekisa, baxhasane kwiinjongo. Cacisa kubo njengetekisi, ukuba ukubonakalisa nayiphi na imvakalelo kuvunyelwe, kodwa ukuziphatha akunakho. Khuthaza abantwana ukuba bathethe ngokunyanisekileyo iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nokuhlonipha abanye abantwana. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde indlela yokudibanisa ukuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo phakathi kwabo, ukuze bangabi nobunzima ebomini babo bobugcisa nobuntu.
Namhlanje, kukho ezininzi iindlela zokukhetha abantu abadala, abantwana abaselula kunye nabantwana, oluyinkambinkano yobudlelwane babo. Ngoko ke, ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nokukwazi ukuthetha nabanye abantu kubaluleke ngakumbi. Ukunceda umntwana afunde ukuxazulula iingxabano, ukuqonda nokuphulaphula abanye, ukuhlonela kungekuphela kwakhe, kodwa nombono womnye unokunceda utitshala kunye nosapho.
Ixesha elibalulekileyo xa usebenza kunye nemidlalo yokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzilolonga ngumbutho wexesha. Ukuze kucaciswe imeko kwaye ufumane indlela yokunqoba ubunzima, abantwana badinga ixesha.
Imidlalo yeengqondo kunye nokuzivocavoca
Unako ukunika abantwana oku kulandelayo umdlalo: mema abantwana ukuba babhale kwiimakhishithi zabo zamaphepha amabali abo angamangalisi, imeko, amatyala, iingcamango ezingendawo. Xa babhala oku, bacele ukuba baqhekeze eli phetshana baze baliphosele kwiinqwelo zokukhwabanisa (ukulibala konke malunga nokungahambi kakuhle).
Ukuphakamisa imizwa kunye nokukhupha abantwana kunokunikwa umdlalo olulandelayo: abantwana bayiphonsa ibhola, ngelixa bathi igama lomntu abaliphosayo kwaye bathi: "Ndikuphose i-candy (iifle, ikhekhe, njl.)." Nabani na obamba ibhola kufuneka afumane impendulo efanelekileyo.
Unokuphakamisa oku kulandelwayo okulandelayo phakathi kwabantwana nabazali okanye phakathi kwabantwana. Isiqingatha sabadlali bavaliwe kwaye bazinikezelwa ukuya kwesinye isiqingatha baze bafumane umngane wabo (okanye umzali) apho. Unokufumanisa ngokuthintela iinwele zakho, izandla, iimpahla, kodwa ungahloli. Xa umhlobo (umzali) ufunyenwe, abadlali bayatshintsha indima.
Ngeemidlalo kunye nokuzivocavoca, utitshala nabazali banokunceda abantwana baqonde inyaniso, bafumane intsingiselo yobomi, bafundise imigaqo elula yemihla ngemihla: gweba iimfihlakalo kunye nobuxoki, bafunde ukuphumla, bahlale beqhuba umsebenzi oqalisiwe. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuncedisa ukunqoba ubunzima kubantwana, senza uhlobo lommangaliso. Kwaye isiphumo sinokuba kunye nemigudu edibeneyo yootitshala, intsapho kunye nabantwana.