Xa ama hormone egazini akwanele - aqala ukunganakwa, intlungu, intlungu kunye nosizi, umntu ukhangele amathuba okubona into yokubonga kwakhe, fumana enye "dose" yolonwabo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ufuna nje ukubalekela ekuninzi kwee-hormone, ukusuka kule nxu lumano. Inqaku elithi "Indlela yokuyeka ukuthanda indoda: isiluleko sengqondo sengqondo" siya kukufundisa indlela yokulahla ukuxhomekeke kwintlondi kwizinto zonqulo.
Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kweentlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando, iifom ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uthando ludidekile kunye nokuxhaswa, ukuxhomekeka, umnqweno wokuhlawulela isilonda okanye ukuthambekela ukuzithengela kwizinto eziphakamileyo zengxowankulu, isenzo esinqumlekileyo "sexhoba," ukuze ufumane iimvakalelo ezifanayo kunye nokuba yinxalenye yendaba ebonisa uthando, ngokobubele kwaye buhlungu. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo kubalulekile ukuba uziqonde ngokwakho, thola ukuthambekela okunjalo kunye nezinto ezingabonakaliyo kuzo zonke izinto ezibangelwa iimvakalelo ezinjalo.
Ngokusoloko kubonakala ngathi umntu, ngokuqinisekileyo, akayithandi ukuva buhlungu, intlungu, njl njl. Kodwa izazi zeengqondo zibonakalise ukuba oku akunjalo, kwaye thina ngokwethu sinokuqaphela ukuba ukudandatheka kunye nolonwabo ngabaxhamli obungunaphakade ebomini bethu. Oku kungenxa yokuba sinqwenela ukuba sibuhlungu, siyayidinga. Oku akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu ungowama-maskist, kodwa akufani nokudabuka kumntu wonke. Kodwa kukho abantu abaxhomekeke kulo mvakalelo, nothando olungelona luhlobo olwenza ukuba bahlupheke kwaye bahlupheke, bafana nabo, nangona bengenakukuvuma. Abantu abanjalo abayi kufuna ukuhlukana nento yabo kwiminqweno yabo kunye ne-subconscious yabo iya kubanyusa kwizenzo ezomeleza imeko yabo "yokubhujiswa". Kule meko, izazi zengqondo zicebisa ukuba ziyeke ukuthanda umntu kwaye ziqwalasele kwakhona izimvo zabo kwiimeko zangoku. Emva kwakho konke, kungcono ukuqala ubomi obusisigxina kunokuba uhlale uhlupheka ngakumbi, ukwandisa "umthamo" wakho. Kodwa ukuthi "musa ukuthanda!" Kaloku - kodwa njani ukuyeka ukuthanda indoda? Iingcebiso zengqondo ziyimfuneko kakhulu ukuze zingabonakali kwiminqweno neengxaki zabo.
Kodwa kukho iimeko zokwenene uthando, uthando olubuhlungu noluncedo, olungelona luhlobo. Kwenzeka, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka sikhohlwe abantu esibathandayo. Kwaye kuya kuba yinto echanekileyo ngakumbi ukuba ungalilahli ixesha lakho kwaye umlibale loo mntu uzisa iintlungu kuwe ukuze udibane naloo mntu kwixesha elizayo.
"Waba ngumntu onokuziphatha okubi, ndingamkhumbula njani ngoku?", "Asinakho ikamva, kodwa andinakuphila ngaphandle kwalo ...", "Ndiyamthanda, kufuneka ndibe naye, ndimele ndimncede, kodwa ... akafuni ukuba andisondele kum, "" Uyandizonda kwaye asibonanga ixesha elide "," Akayihloneli nantoni na, undiphatha njengento engekho nto, akayithobeli ingqalelo, kwaye ndimthanda kakhulu! ", - zonke iingcaphuno zaleta - yodwa ingqolowa yentlabathi entlango yenkxwaleko, eyazisa imeko efanayo kwabesetyhini. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma iya kuba ukuqala ubomi obutsha, ukukhangela iingcango ezintsha, nangona kunzima ukusuka ebomini obundlulileyo ... Ngoko ungamyeka njani ukuthanda indoda ethandekayo? Yiyiphi ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo iza kusinceda kule meko?
Isigaba esinzima kunokuba senze isigqibo sokuphula uxhulumaniso. Wena ngokwakho kufuneka uqaphele ukuba oku kuphele ukuphela kobudlelwane kwaye abayi kuzisa into engcono kuwe. Okhethiweyo wakho akayikukuphulaphula, akayi kuba nemizwa yothando phakathi kwakho, uya kuba ngumcebisi weentlanganiso zonke, unokungathandabuzeki kokuzithemba, ucinga ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiingcamango zangaphambili, nokucinga ngako, ukufumana ukrakra kunye nokuxhalabisa, awukwazi ukugqiba kwiimvakalelo kwaye awazi into enokuyenza, kodwa wenza konke enokuthandayo, njengokuba uyakuthanda ... Ukuba phakathi kwezinye iziqendu uzibonile ngokwakho, oku kuwuphawu olucacileyo lokuba lixesha lokugqiba ubudlelwane. Fumana amandla okwenza inxaxheba kwixesha elidlulileyo uze unqume ukulibala umthandi wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuxhomekeka kuyo, buya kuba njani ubomi bakho ngokulandelayo ...
Ukuba uhlala unqumle ukulibala, kodwa nje kule mizuzu kwenzeka ukuba uqale ukuziphatha ngokunyanisekileyo, ukunyamekela ... Musa ukukhokelela kulo, ngoko uza kuqinisa kuphela unamathiselwe wakho kuye kwaye ubonise ubuthathaka bakho. Isigqibo esinjalo-njengokuhamba ngesangqa esivaliweyo, uya kuhlala ubuyela kwingxaki yakho, ngoko ke awuyi kusinda kuyo. Ukuba wenza isigqibo - qinisa kwaye uqine kwiinjongo zakho, qiniseka ukuba awuyi kubuyela koko kuyo, yenza i-monologue yangaphakathi, zixelele ukuba kutheni kufuneka wenze oku kwaye ... sinqume, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwaye kunzima kangakanani .
Ngamanye amaxesha, kukho ezinye izithintelo zengqondo ukulibala indoda. Into enokuyifunda, mxelele uluvo lwakho - yenza ngendlela efana nokwanelisa le nkcukacha engakuvumeli ukuba uhambe. Iseshoni yengqondo yengqondo okanye isifo sengqondo, ukunikezelwa kweengcamango kwidayari, intetho ende kunye nomhlobo omhle kufuneka kukuncede "ulungiselele" ingqondo yakho yenguqu. Khumbula, kule meko akukho namagama athi "andinako", "Andifuni" kwaye "Andiyi kuba".
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuyeka ukuthanda indoda, qalisa ukutshabalalisa yonke into ekukhumbuzayo ngaye - inombolo yefowuni, iifoto, ziqhekeze okanye zitshise kwaye iileta zakho (zitshise nje, zenza umphumo ochasene nengqondo). Ungazivumeli ukuba ukhunjulwe ngaye, kwaye konke okungekho mfuneko yokuba umbonise. Xoxa nabahlobo bakho ukuze baxubushe kwaye ungaqali ukuthetha ngawo. Fumana kuyo iimpawu ezimbi, usebenzise ngokubonakalayo, ucinge ukuba usebenzisa ikusasa lakho elingasukiyo, uphumelele imeko.
Xa ungabonakali kuyo yonke into enxulumene nayo, zithathele into ethile, zizithabathele, ungene kwimidlalo, ufunde kwaye usebenze-kuya kukuphazamisa kwiingcamango ezingalunganga kwaye usebenze njengonyango olungcono. Yenza ingqiqo yakho, zizinikela kwingcamango entsha - kwaye ngokukhawuleza uza kuziva ukuba ukungahlali kuzalisekile, yonke into iyawa kwindawo, kwaye uqala ukuzonwabisa ngokuphila.
Kodwa ungazivumeli ube yedwa, yenza njengoko intliziyo yakho ikuxelela, gcwalisa umphefumlo wakho ngothando-qhagamshelana nabahlobo, izalamane, wenze izihlobo ezintsha kwaye xa uziva ulungele, zivulele ulwalamano olutsha. Emva koko isilonda sakho siphiliswa ngokupheleleyo.
Yaye khumbula ukuba yonke into ixhomekeke kuwe nangomnqweno wakho. Ixesha aliphilanga, uziphatha, ubude bonyango buxhomekeke kuwe. Xa omnye umnyango uvale, abanye bavule, kwaye maxa wambi sifuna ukuvala ikhefu elide silitshilo ukuze singene kwikamva elitsha eliqaqambileyo.