Izibalo azihlawuleli kwaye inani labantwana elibalekela ekhaya alihlali unyaka nonyaka. Uninzi lwabazali likhalaza ngombuso, impembelelo embi kwisitalato, njl., Zithi, yingako umntwana wabo wabaleka ekhaya, kodwa bambalwa abazityhola, okanye kunokuba bangasebenzi. Izixhobo ziya kwi-psychologist, kwaye unokucinga ukuba kutheni umntwana ebalekile kwaye anika iingcebiso kunye neziphakamiso.
Ngoko, yonke into eyenzeka kumntwana 100% incike kubazali bakhe kunye nobukho bomntu ohlala ecinga kwaye enomdla ngaye. Ukuba umntu onjalo akakho kufuphi nomntwana, ke uhulumeni ngemali kunye nemibutho ejongene nabantwana abakwazi ukuba ngumnye umzali okanye abe nenxaxheba yomntu onomdla ngomntwana. Abantwana banentlonelo kwaye xa bebona ukuba akukho mntu uyayifunayo, baqala ukuziphatha njengabo.
Abazali abaqhelekileyo bahlala beyazi ukuba yintoni na apho umntwana wabo wenza khona kwaye banokuqikelela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba uya kuziphatha njani kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Ukuba akukho ulwalamano oluthile kunye nokuxhamla ngokomzwelo phakathi komntwana kunye nonina okanye uyise, kukho isifo esinjalo njengentandane yentlalo. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, kubonakala ukuba abantwana babalekela apho, apho kungabikho mfuneko, benethemba lokuba kwindawo ethile baya kuba yindingo. Abantwana abangenalo uxhumano lwezengqondo nabazali babo, kwiimeko ezininzi bawela ezinkampanini ezimbi, kuba akukho mntu uzibukeleyo, kwaye abanalo inkqubo yokuzijonga ngaphakathi.
Abanomdla kunoma ubani kwaye abaqeqeshelwa ukubeka iliso kunye nokulungelelanisa izenzo zabo ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu eziqhelekileyo zabantu kunye neentsapho.
Ngoko, makhe sibone izizathu eziphambili ezibangela ukuba abantwana bashiye ikhaya labo.
- Ukunyangwa kakubi yintloko phakathi kwezizathu zokuba umntwana usinda ekhaya. Le yinkinga yeklasi kunye neyona nto ixhaphakileyo, kwaye ukuba ngaphambili abazali babenesizathu esincinci sokubetha umntwana, ngoku ngenxa yokuba umntu wanamhlanje ulungelelanise imihla ngemihla yeengxaki, uyaba nomsindo kwaye uhlala echukumisa umsindo wakhe kwiindawo ezingakhuselekanga kwaye buthathaka, oko kukuthi, kumntwana.
- "Umlomo owongezelelweyo . " Ubuthathaka esinye isizathu sokuba abantwana bathathe isigqibo malunga nesinyathelo esinzima, kuba bayabaleka kwaye bacinga ukuba bahlala phi bhetele kwaye baya kuba nakho konke.
- Ukulahlekelwa uxanduva . Ngaphambili, izahlulo zazingakhange zihlonishwe, kwaye iziko lentsapho libugonyamelo, urhulumente ulunakekile kwaye lugxininise kakhulu, akukho mntu wayekhatyathele iziko lentsapho, kwakungekho nabalindi abangenakukulahlwa kwangaphambili, ngenxa yoko, umntwana akajongwanga intsapho, kungekho esikolweni, okanye kumacandelo, kwaye ushiywe kuye. Umntwana akahlali nto (akukho mali, elo xesha), ngoko ugijima.
- Ubaleke njengoluvavanyo . Umntwana uqala ukucamngca ngobomi ngaphandle kobazali, akubalulekanga ukuba ngaba bafa okanye baluphi na balala, ngelixa besaba ukwesaba nokungakhuselekanga. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ngaphambi kokuphunyezwa kwendlela yokuphunyuka kokulinga, ayifinyelelanga okanye umntwana uyaziqonda ngokuziqhelanisa ngokwakha kwenye indawo. Kwikhaya lakhe lesigxina, umntwana uphupha ubomi ngaphandle kolawulo lwabazali ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ekugqibeleni luba lukhuni ngenxa yokuba kubanda, kwaye kuyinto enomdla kakhulu ukuhlala ekhaya, kuba abazali baya kucinga ngezinto zonke kwaye abananto bakhathazeke ngayo kwaye kulungile ukuba ngumntwana .
- Sindile njengombhikisho . Olu hlobo lokuphunyuka komntwana lubangelwa ukuvela kwimeko engqubanayo phakathi komntwana kunye nabazali, okanye owokuqala akangabikho ngqalelo. Umntwana ufuna ukuhlwaya umntu omdala ocinga ngokungafanelekanga, kodwa ekubeni engenazo izixhobo, uyaziphupha, ukuze wonke umntu alahleke kwaye akhala ngaye. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana baleka kwiimeko zabo zentlalo, oko kukuthi, bafuna ukuhlala ngokwezityebi. Oku kwakusekuqaleni, xa bonke bebalinganisekile kuluntu kungekho nto yokuphepha, kuphela kwizixeko ezinkulu, namhlanje abantwana bafuna ubomi obungcono kwi-capital, apho abantu baqhuba khona ngeemoto ezixabisekileyo kwaye banakho ukufumana imali eninzi. Kule meko, ukuphunyuka akuyona into eyonakalisayo njengobunxila kunye neziyobisi, eziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bentrato. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abo basakholelwa kwinto ebalekela ...
- Okwesithathu ukuhamba . Abantwana, bobabini ukusuka kwimpumelelo kwaye kungeyiyo intsapho, banqwenela iimbandezelo, kodwa bambalwa babo banomdla wokwenene kwimpilo yobomi. Ngokukodwa ukuphuhliswa kokulangazelela i-adventure kubantwana kukhuthazwa ngamafilimu kunye neencwadi, apho yonke into ibonakala imbala kwaye ibonakale, kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu - ingenakucaciswa kwaye ichazwe ngokucacileyo, yindlela abantwana abaya ngayo kwi-story story. Abantwana abanolwazi kwaye banokuzithemba baqhele ukufumaneka ngosuku lokuqala kwaye bathunyelwe kubazali babo.
- Ubaleke ngaphandle kwesizathu . Ngoku, ngelishwa, inani lamahlumela ukusuka kwindlu landa ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kwesizathu, njengawo. Abantwana abazifumana esitratweni abazi ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka, kodwa kunokuba kunandi kakhulu ukukholisa ubomi obungasondeli kunokuhlala kwintsapho eqhelekileyo kwaye uye esikolweni.
Ungesabi ukuthetha nomntwana wakho ngokusinda, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka umxelele ngamava akho okanye ngamava omhlobo ophelile. Ukumchazela ukuba ukuphunyuka akubi kakhulu, ukuba ucingelwa kwaye ulinge kwaye uzinikezele ekukhuleni, ukuba umngcipheko kunye namanyathelo athathakayo kufuneka acatshangelwe. Ngokomzekelo, ukufumana umkhombe ebomini beendawo eziphakamileyo, kufuneka uphume kwiindawo eziphantsi kwezentlalo, kufuneka ube nemfundo efanelekileyo uze ujikeleze ihlabathi.
Umntwana encokola nawe kufuneka akhulume ngeengcamango zakho kwesi sihloko kwaye mhlawumbi uya kufunda ukuba umhlobo wakhe uceba ukubalekela ekhaya aze abize umntwana wakho naye. Kule meko, kufuneka uxoxe ngendlela enomdla kunye nabazali bomntwana oya kubalekela, ngelixa engakulibali ukuba umntwana wakho wakuxelele ngasese.
Ngethuba le ngxoxo ngolu hlobo kunye nomntwana kufuneka agxininise kwiimvakalelo zabazali bomntwana obalekele ekhaya, ngenxa yokuba bafumana, kodwa balinde ukubalekela kwabo. Abazifumani indawo kwaye balinde ukubaleka, baya kuba nomsindo, kodwa kamva, kwaye xa badibana nabo bayavuya gqitha ukubona umntwana wabo, kuba bayamthanda kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana inkqubo yokubuyisela umbaleki, oko kukuthi, ukuba uya kuthunyelwa kumagunya okugcina, amapolisa azondla, acele idilesi yabazali aze awayise ekhaya.
Emva kwentetho enjalo, i-halo yemfihlakalo iya kutshabalala, kwaye ukuphunyuka kuya kulahleka.
Ungakulibali ukuba kufuneka uqaphele rhoqo umntwana wakho, oko kukuthi, ukulawula ixesha xa ebuyela ekhaya, ukuze agcine le ngqungquthela. Ukuba umntwana akayigcini ilizwi lakhe kwaye abuyele ngexesha elimisiweyo, oku kuyisizathu sokuxhalabisa kwaye kufuneka ucele ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni na apho akwenza khona kwaye unomdla kuye, kwaye umema abangane bomntwana ukuba bathe. Ukusinda kuyinto ebalulekileyo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana baqala ukuqeqeshwa ngaphambi kokuba bathathe isinyathelo esinjalo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni. Ukuba umntwana uqala ukukubuza malunga nentambo, ukulingana, isikhwama sokulala, njl., Qiniseka ukuba ubuze isizathu sokuba unomdla onjalo, kuba oku kuphawu olucacileyo kwinto engathandekiyo.