Iingcali zengqondo azisebenzi kunye nombono othi "u-egoism enempilo". Baxoxa ngokuzithemba ngokuqhelekileyo. Umntu ovavanya ngokunyanisekileyo amandla akhe, uvikela iminqweno yakhe. Unako ukukhusela intsimi yakhe (isikhala seminqweno yakhe, ukudibanisa kunye nemikhwa) xa umntu engena kuyo. Kwaye nangona kungaphuli imida yangasese yabanye, kuthathwa ingqalelo kunye neemfuno zabamelwane. Igolide yegolide yokuzithemba kuphuhliswa ebuntwaneni ngemfundo efanelekileyo. Kodwa, maye, ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bafumana abazali babo - abafundisi abanetalente kakhulu. Emva koko utolo "Ndiyi ..." iphakama ngokungenangqiqo-okanye iwa ...
Isiqubulo sabantu abanjalo: "Yonke into kuye, akukho nto." Baya kuhamba ngokushisa baya kugijima emsebenzini, baya kuboleka imali, nangona bona ngokwabo abanako ngokwaneleyo, baya kunika indawo kwindawo yebhasi-nangona benokukhathala. Ifowuni yabo ayiyeki, kuba ihlala isinceda kwaye inokunceda. Kwimfuneko ye-altruists, kodwa emva kwamehlo ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa yi-nickname egxekayo "nepotniki." Basebenzisa ukunyaniseka kwazo naziphi na ithuba.
Ukuzithoba
Babedla ngokusetyenziswa kwamanyathelo okunyanzela ukukhuliswa - baqhuba umgaqo-nkqubo wokuthintela kunye nebhande. Kwakhona babonisa iimvakalelo zabo. Ekubuntwaneni, ama-altruist avame ukuva: "Uya kuziphatha - siya kukuthanda, kwaye sibe ngongomazi-makhe sinike uyise." Emva kokuba bekhula, abantu abanjalo bazama ukuthenga uthando kwabanye ngokuziphatha okumzekelo. Kwaye bahlala bengqondweni. Baziva bebancinci-yoko kutheni bazama ukukholisa wonke umntu, ukuze bakhule ngokwabo.
Abantu abanjalo bahlala bephelile ngokwemvakalelo, bawa phantsi kwengcinezelo kunye nomngcipheko wokuzilahleka. Njengoko kwimbali yamandulo yamaGrisi yeNarcissus kunye ne-nymph Echo, owamthanda kakhulu intombazana ye-narcissistic yalahlekelwa yi-ego yakhe. Ukungabikho kwemingcipheko ye-altruists engayifumani impendulo kwimibuzo: "Ndingubani na?", "Ndiyithetha ntoni kweli hlabathi?". Kwaye baya kuhlupheka ngenxa yale nto.
Funda ukufunda iinjongo zabo kunye neminqweno. Okokuqala kufuneka unqume oko kubalulekile kuwe, kwaye ukhusele ummandla wakho. Kubalulekile ukubeka izinto ezibalulekileyo zokuphila nokuzilandela. Ngamanye amaxesha unokwenza ngokwakho. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, umsebenzi ozimeleyo awunakwenzeka. Kufanelekile ukucela uncedo kwi-psychologist. Impumelelo yindlela yokuqonda-yokuziphatha. Ngoncedo lwakhe, iingcinga zabantu ziguquka, zichaphazela ukuziphatha kwakhe. Umzekelo, umntu uzama ukuhlala enceda wonke umntu eofisini, ngoko ke umsebenzi omningi wenziwa kuye. Ingxaki yakhe yokumangalisa ibuhlungu, kuba engathandi ukulima. Kwaye phakathi kokuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo zavutha iingcamango: "Ndiyasebenza kakuhle," "Andiyithandi." Isiphetho: ukuzama ukucinga ngokungafaniyo: "Ndifunda nje lo msebenzi," "lo msebenzi ndiwenza konke okusemandleni onke," "Ndingumqeqeshi," "Ndiya kuqonda." Iingcamango zengqiqo ziya kunceda ukutshintsha ukuziphatha kwaneleyo eyaneleyo, oko kukuthi, ukuthatha umsebenzi ngokusebenza. Ngoko umntu onqabileyo uya kuthatha inyathelo ekuziphatheni ngokuzidla: uya kwenza umsebenzi onjengoko angakwenza ngaphandle kokulimaza impilo yempilo nokuziphatha. Yavuya uvuyo.
Ngokufanayo, isimo sengqondo esincinci kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo bachongwa. Kodwa umcebisi wethu akacebisi ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzekelayo. Le milinganiselo iya kugqithisa kuphela ingxaki, kodwa ayiyi kusombulula kwayo de kube sekupheleni. Kakade, ukunyuka kweenkwenkwezi ze-Ego kuya kuphawulwa - kwaye abaninzi abanakuyithanda. Ukuchaswa okusemandleni kunendlela efanelekileyo: ukukhusela okulungileyo kukuhlaselwa. Umzekelo, ukuba unemibuzo emsebenzini, ungayichasa: "Ngaba banomdla kum, kuba ndigqiba yonke into kwabanye? Ndijamelana nemisebenzi yam. " Yaye uya kubalwa. Umhlobo okanye othandekayo unokuthi: "Naluphi ubuhlobo (uthando) - ukuhlala kuwe kwaye ubalekele wena?" Ngubani na oya kukuphatha kakuhle, uya kwamkela.
Andiboni mntu
I-hard-core egoist ibeka kwindawo ephakathi kwento kwaye ayibaleki nabani na. Ngendlela yokunyuka, uhlutha esinye isikhokhelo sokuvakasha, ekudleni isidingo sokutya esona sihle kakhulu, imali ayiyi kuboleka phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kwi-ofisi iya kutshintsha umsebenzi wakhe kumagxa abo osebenza nabo.
Ukuzithemba ngokuzenzekelayo. Kwenzeka, xa abazali beyithandana nomntwana wabo, yibone njengento engummangaliso wehlabathi, ngokuzenzekelayo ukuxolela nayiphi na into. Emotionally, i-egoist ayiyi kuhlushwa. Kodwa kukho umngcipheko ukuba abanye baya kumka kuye. Ngokukodwa akulungile kuminyaka ehloniphekileyo, xa umntu efuna uncedo, kodwa abayi kufuna ukumxhasa.
Funda ukuqikelela ngeminqweno yabanye. Omnye kufuneka azive ukuba omnye umntu uyayithanda imeko oya kumvumela. Kwaye ukuba ngaba kungenakwenzeka ukuba ubambe, kungcono ukubuza umntu ngokuthe ngqo. Kwiofisi yeengqondo, i-self-esteem self-esteem is corrected. Kwimizekelo ebomini, ingcali ibonisa inzuzo "yokuhamba kubantu" -ukukwazi ukuqwalasela izimvo zabanye, umnqweno wokuza kunceda abantu. Ubungangamsha Bakhe bobukhosi buza kuqonda iingenelo zokuziphatha okunjalo kwaye ziza kutshintsha ubukumkani obupheleleyo bokuzithanda ngokugqibeleleyo urhulumente womgaqo-siseko "Ndihlala mna kunye nabanye."
Isimo sengqondo sabalingane kunye nabaqhelana nabo siya kutshintsha. Abantu bayothoba ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwi "egoist" efanelekileyo, bamema ukuba batyelele, ibhuku ledilesi liya kuzaliswa ngeenombolo zeefowuni ezintsha. Ukuze uvule kwihlabathi kwaye ufumane kuyo ukubuyisela yinto ekufanele usebenze kuyo.
Mythology ye egoist
Enyanisweni, i-genetics ayikho into, njengoko kuhlale kukulungele ukuzingca. Ukuzithandana ngokweqile kukubangelwa yimfundo engafanelekanga, kungekhona umsebenzi wama-chromosomes. Kodwa uluvo olungalunganga malunga nokutshintshwa kwe-egoism ngelifa likhona kuba abantu bahlala bekopisha iindlela zokufundisa abazali babo. Kwaye ukuba umntu wakhulela emoyeni "unayo yonke into" - mhlawumbi, uya kufaka iikhowudi ezifanayo kumntwana wakhe.
Sabailers - ngokuphindaphindiweyo amadoda, abangenanto - abafazi. Unamandla olusisiseko sikamama - ukunyamekela abanye kubafazi bavela kwimvelo. Kwakhona, abafazi banako ukwenza izinto eziliqela ngokukhawuleza kunamadoda. UGuy Julia Caesar unokuma ekhitshini aze abhale ingxelo - kulula ukuba afike kwisivumelwano. Ngenxa yoko, ukuguquka emsebenzini, kwintsapho.
Indoda ibona enye injongo kwaye ayikwazi ukuhlakazeka kwenye. Ukufezekisa into ebalulekileyo ebomini, kulula ukuba abe ngummeli. Ngaphezu koko, kukho umehluko ekukhuliseni. Inkwenkwe idla ngokuba yintloko, inikwe indima yomzuli wefayile. Ngelixa intombazana ifundiswa ukuzidela ngenxa yabanye. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba bonke abathandayo baya kuMar, kunye ne-chelovekolyuby-kwiVasus. Ngamanye amaxesha, i-egoists enamandla i-ladies, kunye neentliziyo ezintle zi-altruists ngabantu.
Abafazi bezindlu
Amagama athi "ndazalela kwaye ndakukhuphula, unetyala lokuzidela kwam" ngumzekelo wesigqubuthelo somfazi. Inkosikazi eyakho iya kuba ngumama wendlu (umyeni ufumana). Emva koko ugxininisa kuonyana bakhe neentombi zakhe ukuba ngenxa yakhe uye wanikela ngemisebenzi. Hayi, abo bantwana bahlehliswa kwintliziyo yecala phambi komama wabo, kwaye bahlala becinga ukuba baziphathe ngokuzibulala. Benza ubomi obungenasiphelo kwindlela yokuthi "andifanelekanga nto" - ukuqhubela imoto ngesivinini se-frantic, ukunyuka kweentaba, ukuxhoma ngeparachute (ukutshintshwa kwendawo xa abantu banentsapho). Ukulungisa isimo sebhinqa elincinci, kunokwenzeka ukuba, ukuba uncede ukuba kuqinisekiswe ngaphandle kwendlu. Umzekelo, ukubandakanya inceba, ubuqili - ukubonakalisa kungekuphela kwiplani, kodwa nakweminye imimandla yokuba.