Ukuba ubamba ingcambu yale ngxaki, kuyacaca ukuba yonke loo nto ikhona kwimeko yemvelaphi yomntu. Umzekeliso - umntu ungumntu ongafezekanga, kuba akunakwenzeka ukuchazela zonke "iingcungcutheko" kulwalamano. Sisoloko silahleka into, rhoqo umntu ovela kubini (m + f) akayi kuyaneliswa ngento ethile. Kakade, oku akuyi kwenzeka kwiinqanaba lokuqala zokuseka ubudlelwane. Yonke into ihamba emva kancinci, xa umntu "ephazamisekile" kunye ne-monotony kwaye utyhila ubume bomntu osondele kuye ngokupheleleyo. Asikho isisombululo kwingxaki njengaye, kodwa kukho rhoqo iingqinisiso ezisisiseko, emva koko uza kuba nakho ukwakha isibini esilungileyo. Kubo kunokwenzeka ukubonisa, okokuqala, ukuhlonelana omnye nomnye. Emva koko kufika umgangatho womntu onjalo ngokuthi "ukukwazi ukunyamezela nokuvalela". Kwaye ekugqibeleni - ukuqonda.
Kwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano luwa phantsi kwinqanaba lomfazi. Yintoni eyenziwa yile ndoda? Emva koko, indoda iyisikhuseli sezesondo ezibuthakathaka, unamandla, unobindi kwaye ungatshintshi. Kuza kubonakala, kufuneka aguqule ngokukhawuleza lahleko kwaye aqhubeke. Ubomi benene, yonke into iyahluke ngokupheleleyo. Yaye, yintoni ephawulekayo, eyomeleleyo indoda kwaye yomelele imeko yakhe yokuphila, iyona intlungu xa ihamba nayo kunye nomntu othandekayo. Esi sihlandlo esiyingozi esingokwengqondo: indoda yindoda enobuthakathaka obuthakathaka kunomfazi. Yingakho kuyimfuneko ukumnika uncedo olungenakwenzeka lokulwa nale nqanaba lobomi. Ngoko makhe sithethe ngendlela yokunceda umntu osandul 'intombi.
Into yokuqala okumele uyikhumbule yindoda enjalo imeko - ayizami ukufumana isizathu sokuba kwenzeke kuwe. Ukuba ibhinqa ayikuxeleli ukuba kutheni ukwenza oku, isizathu asikho kuwe. Impazamo yabaninzi yi-"self-flagellation" eyaziwayo. Indoda, ukuba ibhinqa yayiyintanda kakhulu kuye, iqalisa ukuzicingela kwisimo sengqondo esibi, i. uzitshitshise yonke into eyenzekayo. Isiphumo sixinzelelo olude, ukulahlekelwa yintembelo kunye nokukhathazeka kwengqondo. Kwimeko embi kakhulu, kumadoda anomandla okubuthathaka, kukho ukunqwenela kotywala njengendlela yokunciphisa intlungu. Kwaye, ke, oku akunakunceda ukulibala loo ntokazi, okanye kulula ukuhambisa ukuhlukana kuye. Ngoko ke, ukuba bekungekho isizathu esicacileyo sokutshatyalaliswa - ungazami ukuzifumana ngokwakho.
Into yesibili engacetyiswa kulo mzekelo kukuba nje uphile kwaye ulinde amava kunye nentlungu. Yiyo impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokunceda umntu osandul 'intombi. Le ndlela iyona intlungu kakhulu kubabhinqa kunye nabasetyhini, kodwa ine-100%. Makubethe kwaye uxelelwe ngamawaka aphindwe kabini, kodwa ilizwi elithi "ixesha liphilisa kakhulu amanxeba", lisebenza rhoqo naphi na. Ubuhlungu obuvela kwiphina ilahleko ekugqibeleni kudlulayo.
Indlela yesithathu ubuhlobo obutsha. Kuphela akunalo ulwalamano oluzibophelela lona, ngokukhawuleza ukukhawuleza ukusuka kwintombazana enye ukuya kwelinye, kodwa ubuhlobo obusondele ngokukhawuleza buvela kuwe ngenxa yobomi bomntu obuqhelekileyo. Ungazifihla, khangela abantu abaqhelana nabo, kodwa ungazami ukuqala ngokukhawuleza into ethile, qwa lasele, uxoxe kwaye wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele indlela oya kummotheka ngayo, nangona inyanga edlulileyo ucinga ukuba awuyi kuphinda uyenze kwakhona. Kwaye, ke, awulandeli lucetyiswa ngabaculi abaqokelelekileyo abavumileyo ukuba bathi indlela efanelekileyo yokulibala intombazana ininzi yamantombazana amtsha ngokusemandleni akhe emva kwakhe. Ukongeza kwinto yokuba ayinakunceda ukulibala umntu, ngoko akunjalo neze umntu.
Iyesine iya kuba yindlela enjengokunyamekela, njengoko bethetha, ngentloko ukusebenza. Loo mandla, intlungu ehlanganisiwe kuwe, inokufezekiswa ngokupheleleyo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Musa ukuhlala ungenzi lutho, usebenze, udlale imidlalo, ufunde umsebenzi omtsha, emva koko konke, kodwa ungenzi nto, kuba oku kuya kukhokelela kwinto echazwe ngasentla.
Eyesisihlanu , ke, ikhefu elide elinde ixesha elide. Ulibale yonke into ekukhathalelayo, kwaye ushiye ukuphumla. Kodwa, ngokuchasene nezigwebo eziqhelekileyo, ukuphumla okusemgangathweni kwimeko enjalo akuyi kuba yizinxweme zaseSurkey, apho ininzi yamadoda ashiyiweyo, kuphela ukusebenzisa i-mini bar kwaye ufune ukwenza iholide yothando, kunye neeholide ezisebenzayo kwindawo ethile ekunokukukhumbuza kwangaphambili. Iindawo zokungcebeleka kwi-Ski, ukukhwela kweentaba, ukuhamba nge-snorkeling, ukuzingela, ukuloba. Ngamafutshane, ukuphumla okusebenzayo yiloo nto oyifunayo xa ibhinqa likuphosa.
Mhlawumbi, akukho ndlela, ngoko kuthetha, yempembelelo yenyama ngokwakho. Hlalani kuphela ngokomoya. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ucinge ngezinto ezenzekile kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni. Khangela ubomi ukusuka kwelinye icala ngaphambi kokuba uphelelwe yithemba. Mhlawumbi uya kukhumbula oko ufuna ukukwenza ngaphambi kokuba ube nesigqithatha sesibini kwaye esingeke senziwe nayo. Kungaba yinto yonke, yonke into - ukuqala ngokunyuka kweentente ngeveki ehlathini, ekupheleni kokuthengwa kwe-mini-brewery ekhaya! Hlaziya yonke into eyenzekayo. Kodwa, kungekhona nje ngento engathembekiyo.
Ewe, zonke ezi cebiso azikwazi ukukunceda. Kukho iinkalo ezininzi apho iqondo lakho lixhomekeke kuyo. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuyo iya kuba yithuba owachitha kunye kunye nomfazi owakhuphayo. Kuthatha ixesha elide, kuya kuba nzima ukunqumla imemori. Kodwa, nangayiphi na imeko, ungalibali ukuba yonke into ihamba kunye nexesha. Kwaye, ukuba wenze ngokukhawuleza, landela konke oku ngasentla kwaye uya kuphinda uzive kwakhona umntu onoyolo, owenza kakuhle.