Indlela yokujamelana neemvakalelo zakho ezimbi

Abaninzi bethu banabantwana, ngoko sihlala sizibuza "Sinokujamelana njani neemvakalelo zethu ezimbi kunye neemvakalelo zomntwana?" Sivame ukukhathazeka, kwaye izizathu zezi meko ziba nantoni na, umzekelo, iingxaki emsebenzini okanye ukungaphumeleli kubomi bomntu. Emva kokuba usombulule ingxaki yokulawula phambi kwemizwa yakho, uya kuba nokuqonda iimvakalelo zabantwana bakho.

Awukwazi ukuvumela iimvakalelo ukuba zibambe kuwe, kuba oku kuchaphazela ngqo imeko kunye nentlalo-ntle yabathandekayo bakho, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, umntwana wakho. Ukuba uvakalelwa indlela okungahambi ngayo, zama ukufihla kwabanye, kwakunye nakumntwana wakho! Emva kwakho konke, ukwesaba kwakho kunye nomsindo kungadluliselwa kuye, okuya kubangela ukuba kuphuhliswe impi.

Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba "ubilisa" ngokwenene? Sebenzisa amacebiso alula:
  1. Phuma kwimeko ephazamisayo. Ngokomzekelo, shiya kwigumbi, nje ungagcini umnyango! Iyakhathaza abantu abakujikelezile.
  2. Yenza i-whiskey kunye nesandla sezandla zakho ngamanzi. Oku kuya kukunceda "uphole phantsi".
  3. Ukuba umntu uxabana kunye nokuphikisana nawe, musa ukulahla yonke into ebuthelele kulo mntu. Uyakuqonda ngxaki ethile, ungamxhasi kunye nezinye iingxaki. Ulungele ukuyeka idibaniso enye ixesha.
Kwaye into ephambili: akakho, ungafungi nabani na ebusweni bomntwana wakho! Ngokukodwa xa umntwana wakho elandelayo-izahluko 5 ukuya kuma-13 iminyaka. Eli lonyaka liyingozi kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, kukuthi kuye kwakha i-psyche. Musa ukumlimaza xa ungafuni iingxaki kamva. Umntwana wakho unokuqonda yonke into engalunganga, ecinga ukuba ukuxabana kubangelwa nguye. Ingakumbi ngokubhekiselele kulo mba, ingxabano eyingozi kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi phakathi kwabazali.

Ukuba, emva koko, ingquzulwano yenzeka ebusweni bomntwana wakho, landela la macebiso alandelayo:
  1. Thetha naye. Misela isigqibo sokugula ngengqondo. Qala ukusuka kude. Thetha kwizwi elithambileyo, elithambileyo eliza kumbeka umntwana. Cacisa ukuba akukho ntyala kulo mbambano.
  2. Musa ukuphikelela kakhulu kwingxoxo yakho. Ukuba uziva unyakaza kumntwana wakho, mshiye wedwa ixesha kunye neengcinga zakho kunye neengcinga zakho.
  3. Vulela umntwana! Phakamisa ukuhamba kwekhrimu okanye udlala umdlalo webhodi.
Ngoko, ngokwethu, sasizicingile, kwaye yintoni enokuyenza ngokulimala (ngokwenene, ngengqondo), evela kuwe ozimeleyo?

Izizathu zeengxaki zengqondo zinokumiselwa ziimpawu ezilandelayo:
Ukuqaphela izimpawu zomntwana wakho, zama ukufumana imvelaphi yazo. Njani ukwenza oku?
Kwakhona, ngoncedo lwencoko. Imigaqo yengxoxo efanelekileyo ichazwe ngasentla. Musa nje ukuqala ngokubukhali: "Yintoni na into?" Yiba lula. Buza malunga nemimoya, inhlalakahle, ukuvavanywa esikolweni. Mhlawumbi ingxaki ngokwayo iya kuhamba. Yilungiselele umntwana ngokudumisa nokuncoma. Umzekelo: "Ulungele oko umhlukumezi waphendula" okanye "inyaniso, utitshala angakubeka kakubi ukuvavanya, kodwa oku kuyilungelo lakhe."
Shiya uluvo lwakho olungalunganga nolungalunganga kude nawe. Ukuthi "Ndakuxwayisa, ngoku unengxaki!" Kuyenzela ukwandisa imeko.

Ukuba ngaba ingxaki yeengxaki ayifumanekanga, okanye ukuba umntwana wenqabile ukuthetha nawe malunga naloo nto, qhagamshelana nootitshala, omaziyo kunye nabahlobo bomntwana. Mhlawumbi bayazi into okanye baqaphele into engaqhelekanga. Kodwa akukho mzekelo ungashiyi ingxaki ngaphandle kwesisombululo!
Xa ufumanisa into ebaluleke kakhulu (ingxaki kunye nezizathu zalo), unokukuphelisa ngokulula.

Iingcebiso zethu:
  1. Isizathu: amabakala amabi. Izigqibo: cacisa ukuba ukuvavanya akuyona nto ephambili; ukuqesha umqeqeshi; uthetha notitshala.
  2. Isizathu: ukuxabana nomhlobo (umhlobo). Izigqibo: umbutho weendawo eziqhelekileyo; uthetha nomhlobo.
  3. Isizathu: ukufa kwesilwanyana. Isisombululo: ukuthengwa kwezinto ezintsha; ukusekwa komgcini, nithi, phezu kwezilwanyana zommelwane.
Ngoku uyazi indlela yokujamelana neemvakalelo zakho eziphazamisayo kunye neemvakalelo zomntwana.
Sinqwenela inhlanhla kuwe nabantwana bakho!