Yintoni ukunganakwa kunye nendlela yokuphuma kweli lizwe?

Ukuba ulahla ingoma ephathelele "akukho-che-ho-ho, andifuni" amanqaku okubaluleka, ngoko asiyi kuba nekhosana, kodwa umzekelo ocacileyo wentombazana engabonakaliyo. Thina, abafazi bekhulu lama-21, sikhalaza ngale meko phantse rhoqo xa sihamba ngeengxelo: "Ndixinezelekile!" Kodwa ngaba siyazi ukuba yintoni na emva kwayo? Kutheni ngokukhawuleza, ukusuka ngoku, ukususela ngoku, ngamanye amaxesha kwindawo epholileyo, umnqweno wokunandipha ubomi uphela kwaye uyabuya njani le mvakalelo? Ukusuka ngaphandle kuyacaphukisa. Uhlala entombi-enempilo, ekhangayo, enamandla, eya emsebenzini kunye nokutyelela kunye nesoka lakhe, ukuthetha nabahlobo, unokukwazi ukufumana nayiphi na indlela yokuzonwabisa, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo uthi: "Andifuni nto." Akafuni ukuyidla ishokoleta yakhe eyintandokazi, akafuni ukuya kwindibano epholileyo aze aphephe eParis ukuya kwi-hep - nayo. Yaye oku akusiyo. Okanye, nithi, ubukele njengomhlobo, uhlala ejongene nobuqili obubukele ukubukeka kwakhe, ngokukhawuleza waqala ukugqoka eyokuqala kokuwa ngaphandle kwekhefu, wayekhohlwe ngezithende aze ahlambe intloko yakhe ngamaxesha. Futhi ziziphatha ngoko kungengenxa yomzabalazo wokulingana ngesini. Ngendlela, awuzange kwenzeke ngale ndlela?

Ube ngaphandle kwemvakalelo
Igama eliphambili ekuchazeni ukunganakwa kukuba "ukungathandeki". Enye yeempawu zokuqala ibinzana elithi "Andikhathali" kunye nevakalelo lokuba akunandaba. Kwaye kwimeko apho ubomi busetyenziselwa ukubilisa. Kuphi umbuzo othi: "Uya kuba yintoni, i-steak okanye i-eclair?" wena uthi, "Hayi, ndinike inkokhelo." Kodwa kungekhona ngenxa yokuba unqwenela inyama okanye awukwazi ukunyamezela umnandi, kodwa kuba ufanele ukhethe into ethile, kunye nokukhumbula kwakho - ukugcina ubomi kubalulekile ukutya. Ukuthetha ngokweengqondo, umntu onganandaba naye uthetha oko kwenzeka kuye: ngokuba akukho mfahluko omkhulu phakathi kweemeko ezibangele uvuyo nokwaneliseka, kunye nezobangela ukubandezeleka nentlungu. Ukunganakwa kukuba ukungabikho kwemvakalelo. Akufanele idideke kunye no-abulia-ukuphulwa kwendawo efunayo, xa umntu engafuni ukwenza nantoni na. Ukususela ekungabinandaba nokungahambi kakuhle kuya kuthatha ixesha. Umntu ongenamdla uyaqhubeka nokusebenza, ukuya kwindawo ethile nabahlobo, ukukhokela ubomi bakhe obuqhelekileyo-nge-inertia, ngaphandle kokuva. Yintoni eya kwi-cinema, ukuba yayihlala ekhaya, ukuba intando, ukuba ithinjelwe ...

Ukuxilongwa "kokungakhathaleli" ngokwayo akukho. Ngengqondo yekliniki - mhlawumbi ingabandakanyeki, xa ingathathi nxalenye yobomi ngexesha elithile, kodwa yonke into (ubomi) ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ngenxa yolu udinga imfuneko ebalulekileyo (izifo): ukudandatheka, i-schizophrenia, umonakalo wengqondo yengqondo - kumfanekiso onjalo, ukungahambi kakuhle kwemvakalelo yinye yeempawu. Kwaye isiguli sigxinwa kwingxaki kunye noogqirha. Sifuna ukuthetha ngenye into. Ukunganakwa kungazibonakalisa njengento "yendawo" ebomini yobomi, indlela ehlanganiswe kwiimeko ezithile ezifanayo. Umzekelo, oku kulandelayo.

Ngaphezulu kweemvakalelo
Ukuvakalelwa nje njengamandla okwenza amandla okwenza okuthile. Kwaye amava (akubalulekanga, enzima, edibene nokulahlekelwa okanye intlungu okanye eyoyoloyoyoyo). Emva koko isilwanyana esilungileyo senza isigqibo: "Yonke, yima!" Yaye njengekhompyutheni, ingena kwimodi yokugcina amandla-ithetha nje. Kwaye akukho nto iyingozi. Ngokuchaseneyo, unethuba lokuphumla encinci. Ewe, ngezinye iinkhathi iimvakalelo zifuna ukuphumla.

Ukugqitha komsebenzi
Ukuba unobungozi bemvelo, ke uzama ukufezekisa umnqweno kuzo zonke izithintelo nangameva - kuyisiqalekiso sakho. Okanye nantsi enye uhlobo-inoxanduva kwaye inenzondelelo, osebenza ngokungapheliyo kwaye akayi kuphumla ade aphephe yonke into kunye ncinane kancinane. Kuzo zombini ezi ziko, i-heroine ilindele ukukhathala-kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ukudinwa. Kwaye ke unyanzelekile ukuba alala phantsi kwesofa, ungenzi nto kwaye ungabi nantoni na, kuba imikhosi ayinayo nayiphi na into, ayishiyile ukufeza, ukufezekisa nokuphumelela. Umzimba kwakhona ubeka inkqubo kwinkalo engxamisekileyo yokufumana amandla okuqalisa kwakhona.

Umsebenzi woKhusela
Masithathe umzekelo. Uhambe nomntu owamthanda ngokwenene. Kodwa ke ndixelela abahlobo bam ukuba awukhathalele ukuba ubiza okanye ayikho. Kwaye into emangalisayo kukuba awukhohlisi. Inyaniso kukuba ngale ndlela ungayifumana into eyinyani, kodwa ekubonakalisweni kwamava amaninzi adlulileyo. Ukuba idibene nenyaniso yokuba ibuhlungu, inobungozi, iyatshitshisa, ngoko kukho isilingo sokwenza ukunganakwa, ukuze uzikhusele kwiintlungu ezixhatshazwayo. Indlela, vumelana, ungakhethi, kwaye uzame ukuzibhokoxa ngezinye iinkqubo xa usebenza kunye neengqondo zengqondo.

Imiphumo yokuxinzezeleka kwengxaki / imeko yesifo / ingxaki
Kukunakwenzeka ukuba ayive, kuya kuba yingozi ngenxa yobunzima okanye umgangatho wemvakalelo. Ukuguqula, ungayima kwaye uhambe nayo. Emva koko imeko yaphela, kodwa iimvakalelo zahlala zivaliwe. Kuthatha ixesha lokuqalisa ukuhlaziywa kancane kancane. Nangona kunjalo, oku kubakho ukuphuhliswa kweziganeko. Ukutshitshiswa kwakomelele kangangokuthi kwakungenakwenzeka ukuba uqale ukuziva kwakhona - kwakunzima ukuhlangabezana noko uzivala kuyo. Kwaye i-psyche ikhuselwe ukunganakwa. Ukuba uxinzelelo luchaphazelekile kummandla omncinci wobomi, ngoko uyakubona ukubonakalisa ukungakhathaleli. Xa kuziwa kwiimeko eziphazamisayo zempembelelo yehlabathi jikelele, ukunganakwa ngokupheleleyo kunokwenzeka. Okokugqibela, ngaphezu koko, njengoko sele sichazile, kukuphakathi kwezidumbu zengxaki yokuxinzelela emva kokudandatheka. Kwaye unokufuna uncedo lwenzululwazi kunye nomsebenzi othile weengqondo ojoliswe ekubuyiseni amandla okuziva.

Isifo seSomatic
Ukunciphisa ukusebenza komzimba ngokubanzi kuchaphazela i-sensory and emotion sphere ngokukodwa-kwaye umsebenzi wayo, i-alas, ibuthathaka. Kwaye, nanko, akukho nto.

Xa kuyimfuneko ukukhalisa intsimbi ukuze angabibizi emva kwakho, umbuzo uqobo. Kodwa omnye kufuneka abe esilumkileyo njengoko iindidi zobomi zanda, apho ukunganakwa kubonakalisa khona. Apha, umzekelo, kumzekelo womntu omhle omele acele. Xa ukunganakwa kwenza kuphela umsebenzi okhuselekileyo, uqhubeka uhamba nzima ebomini, kuphela ukuvala iimvakalelo kwelinye icala, ngokubhekisele kwimeko ethile - "Andikhathalele ukuba sinento engaphezulu." Kodwa ukuba emva komhla omtsha awufuni ukwenza nantoni na yonke-kuquka ukuyenza, kwaye awukwazi ukukholelwa kwinto enhle, yinto enjengelizwe elixinezelekileyo, akukhona nje kuphela kwaye akuninzi ngokungahloneli.

Indlela yokuphuma ukungabi nandaba
Ngoko, uzibukele ukusuka kwicala kwaye ufumene iimpawu zokunganakwa. Ngoku umsebenzi wakho kukufumana umongo oye wakhupha kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuwuguqula. Yithi, ityala ngokugqithiseleyo-kubalulekile ukuba "uphuze". Uyabona ukuba iziganeko eziqhubekayo zikhokelela ekungabandakanyeki, uzive "uncedo" kwi-systemicness - mhlawumbi kufuneka uguqulele kwisazi sezengqondo kwaye ujongane nale mihla yokugulisa. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukujamelana nawe, uqaphela ukuba kutheni ufuna le ntsilelo. Ukwenza oku, zama ukupasa uvavanyo oluncinci. Ukuba nawaphi na amagama kula mazwi angakwazi ukubizwa ngezwi lakho langaphakathi, funda ngokubanzi - akunjalo na le nto?

"Ndihlala ndihlala, ndizele ubomi, kubandakanywa nemvakalelo. Ndiyonwabile, ndixhalabile, ndilindele, ndixhalabile, ndibuhlungu." Kodwa kwenzeka, njengokungathi ndibuhlungu, kwaye kubonakala ukuba le nto ibalulekile kum, kwaye andinandaba ukuba kuya kupheliswa nini. "

Kungenzeka ukuba kwenzekani kuwe okwangoku kunxulumene namava amaninzi ngaphambili, xa ububele bakho buya kukulimaza kwaye wabukhupha. Udinga ukulahla ukubonakaliswa kwakhe okwangoku, ukuze uhlale uphila ubomi bakho bonke kunye nemvakalelo yomlindi.

"Andiyiva - andiyi.
Ngaphandle kwabo, ubomi bulula kwaye bunqabile. Ubuthongo obuhle, ukutya okunempilo, ukwenza umsebenzi kwaye ungabulawa emsebenzini - yiyo yonke into endiyidingayo. Intloko ecacileyo kunye nesicwangciso senkqubo esicacileyo. "

Isicwangciso esihle! Ufanele uphumle. Ukususela ebukumeni obuninzi ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye mhlawumbi, ukususela kwimisebenzi rhoqo. Ngoko ukubuyiswa ngempumelelo. Kwaye emva kwayo, buyela kwihlabathi leemvakalelo - zivuselelwe kwaye zikulungele ukuyiqonda kuyo yonke imibala.

"Andikwazi ukusilahlekisa ukuba ndihlala ngokuzimela." Ewe, ndiyakhathalela, ndiphumelele, ndinoluhlu oluninzi lwabafowunelwa, kodwa andinakufumana uvuyo, nangona andinako ukuthetha ukuba ndiziva ndibi.

Qaphela kwaye uqaphele isimo sakho sengqondo. Ukungabikho kwengqondo ecacileyo malunga noko kwenzekayo ngumqondiso ophazamisayo, unokuba ngumlingo wokudakumba. Mhlawumbi, kukufanelekile ukubuyela kwingcali ukuze ubuyisele ubomi bakho kwaye uvakale.