Okokuqala, ukuba yonke into ebhekeleyo yenzekile, kwaye ukhethiweyo wakho uye washiya, ngoko akufanele uzive uxinezelekile kwaye uziva uzixolise. Ukuze ube nolwazi olwaneleyo kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, ke kukufanelekile ukucaphuka ngale "bhokhwe" kunye ne "freak", ongazange azixabise zonke izenzo zakho kwaye wayishiya ngenhliziyo. Ngoko, ukuzola, ubomi buqhubeka! Ungamceli loo mntu kuwe. Ungowesifazane, ndoda! Unesidima nesithunzi! Ukongezelela, ibinzana eliyaziwayo "buyela, ndiya kuxolela yonke into," kuthetha ukuba ubeka ityala ngento ethile, kwaye wenza isenzo sokuthakazelelwa. Ukubuya, umthandi wakho uya kuziva enetyala, into engekho. Wena ngokwakho awuzange utshintshe, kwaye uyamcebisa ukuba abuyele ebuhlotsheni apho aphunyukileyo khona. Musa ukucela ukuba ubuyele kumntu, ukuba unyakaza ngokuzithemba kunye nentukuthelo, kwaye ungabi nesifiso esinentsingiselo sokuba nomntu, wenze into yokuba intombazana yamaphupha akhe.
Ungalokothi usebenzise ububele kunye ne-blackmail. Musa ukubhala i-sms, iileta, ungabizi, kwaye ungaxeleli ukuba unesizungu kangakanani, akubi ukuba ungaboni ubomi bakho ngaphandle kwakhe. Ngenxa yezi njongo, intombi yakho iya kulungeleka, ngubani oya kuphulaphula, ukuxhasa nokucebisa. Amadoda axoxwa ngesihawu. Bathanda amantombazana athembekileyo, anesibindi kwaye azimele. Ungalokothi usolwe umntu ngenxa yokwahlukana, oku kuwuphawu lobubele nobuthathaka. Xa udibana nabahlobo, izalamane, zama ukungachukumisi ngesihloko sakho sokuphuka. Ungatsho ukuba uyasolwa. I-Hysteria, ubugwenxa, impindezelo, ukuhlambalaza kwinqanaba lakho kuphela kuphinda liqinisekise kumntu ukuba wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo, ekushiye. Yitsho nje ukuba awuzisoli nto, ubuhlobo buye bugqitywa.
Ungalokothi udibanise umntu ongaphambili ongenamagama, okanye izinto, okanye abantwana, ukuba ngaba. Ukunyamezela iimvakalelo zikayise ekufuneni ukubuya indoda yinto yokugqibela. Ewe, mhlawumbi uza kubuyela kwintsapho yakho ixesha elifutshane, kodwa oku akuyi kubuyiselwa ubuhlobo bakho, uthando kunye nemvakalelo efudumeleyo. Ungalokothi umbuze malunga nalowo ashiye kuye. Musa ukubheka iintlanganiso zakhe, ungabizi okanye ubhale. Qonda ukuba ukuthelekiswa akunakukuthanda, ngoko kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu kuwe. Ukongeza, uya kuxelela umntu wakho ngale nto, kwaye uya kumela ecaleni lakhe. Konke okufuneka ukwenze okwangoku kukuvumela ukuba ahambe kwaye alinde ixesha elithile. Ukuqonda ukuba i hero iyinveli yakho, okanye umkhwa nje? Lindela ixesha, kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba kuxabisa onke amava akho kunye nemizamo yokuyifumana. Kwaye ngeli xesha, unokuzibhokoxa, ngaphakathi kunye nangaphandle, utshintshe ngcono, kwaye ube ngumfazi wangempela. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba unokubuyela kumntu, kodwa ubuhlobo bakho abuyi kuze kube yinto efanayo. Kuya kufuneka ube yintsha, eyahlukileyo, ukwakha ubudlelwane bakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Okanye fumana enye. Kodwa, ukuba ungatshintshi nantoni na ngokwakho, musa ukufumana izigqibo ezifanelekileyo, kwaye ubeka ingozi ekubuyiseleni "kwi-rake efanayo". Ngoko, lixesha lokufumana izigqibo kwaye ufunde kwiimpazamo zakho.
Yeka ukucinga ngaye! Yinyamekele into ethile, zifumanise isifundo esinomdla, ngelo xesha awuyi kucinga malunga nexesha elidlulileyo kunye neyokuqala. Akulula, kodwa ukuba uyaphumelela, kuya kuba lula ngokukhawuleza. Yindlela enhle yokulibala malunga noko kwenzekayo kuya kuba liholide, uhambo oluphuma ngaphandle kwedolophu, utshintsho lweendawo ezikuyo. Ukuba uhanjelwe iingcamango ezibuhlungu, tshintshela kwi-positive. Cinga ngendlela yonke into ehamba kakuhle ngayo, uhle, uphumelele, uphilile. Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba udibane okanye ufowune kunye nabokuqala, yenza sengathi yonke into ilungile nawe, jabulela, umomotheka, umxelele ngezinto ezithandwayo. Unako ukulala amancinci ukuze wenze into ethembekileyo. Kodwa, ungathethi ngokukhawuleza malunga nempumelelo yakho kwintsimi yothando, thetha malunga nokuba bangaphi na obenomhla kunye nento enikwe yona. Indoda iya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba uthetha oku ngentliziyo. Kungcono kakhulu xa efunda malunga noshintsho olubalulekileyo ebomini bakho kubantu besithathu.
Ukuhlukana kukufa okuncinci, kodwa ubomi obutsha bulandela. Jabule!