Ngokukhawuleza xa abahlobo bakho, abahlobo okanye izalamane zisebenza kwiofisi yokubhalisa, baqala inkqubo yokulungiselela umtshato. Uvuyo olusondeleyo kwisiganeko esizayo lukhokelela ekubeni zonke iingxoxo ebusweni bomtshakazi nomyeni ziya kuncitshiswa kwisihloko esinye. Kodwa ukuba umyeni, ngokusemthethweni, uninzi "ulunxweme", kwaye kunzima ukumrhoxa ngombuzo othile ongenangqiqo, kubonakala ngathi ukuthetha okungenangqondo, ukulahlekelwa yinto engaqhelekanga, nokuba ngumama wakhe, kunokumenza umtshakazi abe neinyembezi okanye azibandezele. Siza kuzama ukulungelelanisa imibuzo efunwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukwenzela ukuphepha ukungaqondakali komtshato ngaphambi komtshato.
NJE, NINI, NINI, NGAPHAMBILI UKUBA?
Ngaphambi kokuba ubuze le mibuzo, zibeke ezicathulweni zomtshakazi nomyeni kwaye ucinge ukuba uya kuziva njani xa ubuzwa malunga naloo mihla ngemini, okanye, ngokubhekiselele kumava akho, babeka kakuhle, ngombono wabo, umphathi we-toastmaster. Inokwenzeka ukuba, abazange banqume nantoni na. Kungcono ukulinda umyeni okanye umtshakazi ukuthetha ngawo.
UFUNA UKUFUNA UKWENZA I-SPLASH KWI-SQUARE YAKHO
Ingaba uqinisekile ukuba umenyelwe ukubhiyozelwa na? Kungenzeka ukuba awukho kuluhlu lwamamemo. Mhlawumbi, abasandul 'ukutshata banemali encinane kwaye baya kumema kuphela izalamane nabahlobo ukugubha. Ngaba unokucinga indlela umtshakazi "amathumba" angaphakathi ngayo: "Ukuphupha, ibhokhwe!" Okanye into enjalo, xa yena, nangaphambi kwabanye "abafake izicelo" ukuba bathathe inxaxheba emthendelekweni, kufuneka abe namahloni akhethe amagama achaze ukhetho lwakhe lweendwendwe. Encoma abantu abancinci kwangaphambili ngaphandle kokuthabatha ebusweni bakho kwimibhiyozo.
IINKCUKACHA ZONYAKA
Ngokuqhelekileyo banikwa ngamantombazana abanobukhwele. Banoyika ukuba oko umtshakazi acinga ukuba kumnandi kwaye kumhle kumkhethiweyo wakhe uya kuphazamisa ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba icebiso lifanelekileyo kwaye lakhayo, nayiphi na intombazana iya kubamkela ngokubulela, ngakumbi xa kunikwa ibhinqa elinamava obomi obunzima.
UKUBA UZIKHULU UKUKHETHA KOMKHAYA - LOKUBA KUYINQUBO YAKHO ...
Yishiye ukungathandabuzeki nawe. Ukuphawula malunga nokwahlula kwiminyaka yomyeni kunye nomtshakazi okanye ukunyamezela ukuzaliswa okuzayo-oku kuthetha konke ukuthetha. Ukuba awukho isihlobo, uluvo lwakho luya kuba ngumthunzi obomvu kuphela ngenxa yeentlungu zamantombazana. Ukushiya ukunyanzeliswa komthetho omncinci, ungathwali iingxaki zabo.
AWUKHO USEBENZE IZINYE IZINYE
Ukuba abancinci abakuxeleli ngeendleko zemitshato yakho yomtshato, kuyinto engalunganga ukulila "ukuphonswa emoyeni". Mhlawumbi uya kulahlela imali ngenye indlela-utyalole kwi-real estate okanye uhambe kwi-honeymoon. Kodwa ke i-accumulation yabancinci, banelungelo lokulahla njengoko bebonile. Amazwana akho angabonakala kubasandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa abangenasidingo kwaye bahlasele.
UMTSHALA NGO-HOLIDAY ABAKHULU
Buza abenzi bokubhiyozela ukuba ngaba kufanelekile ukuzisa abantwana bakho nawe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iziganeko ezinjalo kufuneka zibe yimpikiswano yeengongoma ezikhulile kunye neendwendwe ezingabonakaliyo - umbukiso awunabo abantu abatsha. Njengomthetho, izimemo zicaca ngokucacileyo ukwakheka kwentsapho. Ukuba kukho amagama abantu abadala, ithetha kuphela ukuba balinde ukubhiyozela. Ukuba intsapho iboniswa kwisimemo (umzekelo, intsapho yaseIvanov), ngenyameko uye ekhaya. Ukuba awukwaneliseki ukuba awukwazi ukuthatha abantwana bakho nawe, hlala isimemo. Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuba uchaze isizathu, ngoko ukungafiki kwakho kuya kuguqulelwa ngokuchanekileyo.
UMBUZO NGABANTWANA NGOKUBHALA NGEMVA KOMTSHALA - AKUKHONA KWEEMVIWO
Awazi malunga nezicwangciso zabaselula. Mhlawumbi kwexesha bathetha ukuhlala kuphela, mhlawumbi zikho izicwangciso zokukhula komsebenzi, emva koko, kuluhlaza nje ukubuza imibuzo yobume obusondeleyo kubantu abatsha.