Kwaye umntu ukholelwa ukuba eli li thuba lokuqhuba umsebenzi, thintela iingxaki zemihla ngemihla, ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ukukhanya ebusini. Ngelinye igama, elowo uqobo lwakhe. Makhe sizame ukuqonda zonke iingenelo kunye nokuphazamiseka komtshato weendwendwe.
Ngoko ngoko yintoni ngokwenene, umtshato weendwendwe? Xa indoda nomfazi bathandana kwaye bafuna ukuba kunye, bangena emtshatweni womthetho, ngamanye amaxesha baqala ukuhlala kunye, kwimibandela yomtshato. Kodwa indlela abachitha ngayo ubomi babo kunye kunye nokukhethwa komntu ngamnye. Kwaye oku kunokuchaphazela indawo yokuhlala, kunye nomsebenzi, kwanempilo.
Omnye wabahlobo bam uhlala eSt. Petersburg, iminyaka embalwa edlulileyo watshata noFinn. ERashiya, ugijimela inkampani encinci, unxulumano olude lwezoshishino, abathengi abahlala rhoqo, indlu yakhe, intombi endala. Yintoni enokuyenza eFinland? "Umsebenzi" womthengisi, kunye nomfazi wendlu, akamkhange. Owesifazane osebenzayo olahlekelwe yimeko yakhe yentlalo uya kuba yinto engapheliyo yinkxwaba eyinkxwaleko ngenxa yeengxaki zasekhaya, ayeke ukuthakazelisa kuye ngokwakhe. Umtshato wesigodlo wawuyisisombululo esipheleleyo kwesi sibini. Iveki kwilizwe ngalinye. Unelungelo lokuziqhayisa ngomfazi onentembelo, kwaye uyakuthanda kwaye uyathandwa, kwaye akukho nto ixhamla ngayo. Kwaye, nangona bebudala (kubini lomtshato awuyena owokuqala), ubudlelwane babo bezesondo banokuba nomona ngamanye amabini eselula.
Kwenzeka ukuba izibini zingaphaya ikhefu kunye okanye nje ngeveki. Ngexesha lethu elimangalisa, xa i-intanethi ingavumeli nje ukuba sijwayelane kuphela, kodwa nokuba sithandane kude, inzuzo yomtshato onjalo ibonakala. Abantu abaninzi abakwazi ukushiya ubomi babo kwimisebenzi okanye kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Kodwa ngezihlandlo, wonke umntu unokutshintsha indlela eqhelekileyo yobomi.
Kwaye yintoni umtshato weendwendwe, ngoko kuthetha, abafazi abadala? Phakathi kwamabhinqa asekudala, amaninzi angatshatanga: umhlolokazi, umtshato, umtshato ... Owesifazane sele sele ekhulile, abantwana bakhulile, bahlala ngokuzimeleyo, kodwa bavuleleke kulwalamano lwabo, kunye nezocansi. Ngelo xesha, balawula ukufumana isiqhelo semikhwa, imithetho ethile yobomi. Yaye xa umntu onokunyaniseka kwakhe ehlaselwa ebomini, kunokungqubuzana. Ngaphandle kokuba utshintshe imikhwa yakho, kakuhle, okanye yakhe ... Inkathazo kuphela kukuba kulo nyaka akukho mntu ufuna ukutshintsha. Futhi indebe engcolileyo uyishiya ecaleni kwikhompyutha, kunye neesokisi phantsi kombhede, kwaye ityhubhu ene-paste ayifaki. Kwaye iintsuku ezimbalwa ngeveki, uhle kakhulu kwaye unothando! Ukongezelela, iingxaki ezincinane njengokuba udoti unako okanye umbhobho wamanje sele ufunde ukuzinyulula ngokwabo.
Indoda emtshatweni womninimzi ufumana ithuba lokufunwa, ukuziva ufudumele nomfazi, kodwa ungalahlekelwa inkululeko. Unokutshaya ekhitshini, kungekho kwibhantshi, ubukele iindaba zehlabathi ngamaxesha okuhlwa, kwaye ungaboni ngesondo, kwaye ungabi ngesicelo somfazi wakho.
Kukho into ebalulekileyo. Ukutshatyalaliswa kweziphene zomtshato ezihambelana neengxaki "zooyise nabantwana." Abantwana, njengokuba uyazi, nawuphi na umdala banomdla omkhulu kubazali babo. Kwimeko yomtshato wesityezelo, abantwana baya kubazali babo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kubo bonke abantu, kwaye akukho nengozi yokuhlangana ngokukhawuleza kunye neqabane lakho.
Ubomi bwanamhlanje bunikeza iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane. Kwaye unokhetha uhlobo olulodwa loqhagamshelwano olulungeleyo. Emva koko ubomi bakho buya kukhanya ngembala eqaqambileyo, emangalisayo!